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Military Wives?
I have a quick question for any of the military wives on here. My DH, Reggie, has recently been thinking about enlisting. He thought about it for a long time back in high school before deciding that being a Police Officer was a better fit for him. Lately though, he has been saying that he is feeling called to enlist. I'm wondering if you have any advice on how to help him make his choice and support him in whatever he decides. Thanks!
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Re: Military Wives?
We were actually in a very similar boat. DH planned to go military after HS, and chose flight school instead. About 6 months into our marriage, he looked into the military again and joined the Army.
My advice is to get as much information as you can. DH and I went together and sat down with the Air Force, the Navy and the Army. We both asked lots of questions, and then talked about each choice when we got home.
It's good that he's saying he feels a call to do this, because if he enlists for the wrong reasons, you will both end up miserable. It's a huge commitment, and it comes with lots of sacrifice from both of you.
I suggest he take his time deciding. Listen to everything they have to say, but take it with a grain of salt - they are recruiters after all. Look into what branch has the jobs he'd enjoy/succeed at, what the schedule looks like for leaving for basic, and what would work best for y'alls life. Talk about it a lot, and once he's got all the info, let him sit with it. He will know if it feels right, and what branch is the best fit for him.
If you have any other questions, feel free to PM me. Sorry this was long, but it's a big decision!
I think both of you should weigh the pros and cons of enlisting. DH and I were dating since high school and I knew it was something he wanted to do for awhile.Though part of me did not want him to enlist being the fact that I come from a military family and I know all the sacrifices that came with enlisting we all got through it. I knew him going to school/deployments/being away from each other almost half the year was the worst part but pros did outweigh the cons. He wanted to make his grandfather proud being that he was the only grandson that decided to go to the military and he wanted to serve his country. I knew all the sacrifices that came with this and emotionally it was tough. I hope you and your husband the best of luck deciding but most of all listen to why he wants to enlist and if its important to him. Let me know how it goes! What branch is he thinking of going into?
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Just to add in my two cents, DH's little brother is following in his footsteps and just enlisted in the Army. Just for common knowledge, as of right now, there are NO available sign on bonuses for the Army. They are still over strong and until their numbers go down, they are stopping all extra money for bonuses. This has been confirmed by street recruiters, my dad's team of special operations recruiters, and today, our base command team.
Just something to think about when you choose from branches if the decision is made to continue in. Also, Afghanistan is where all US bases will be sent once Operation New Dawn goes into affect. Afghan is currently just as, if not more, violent than Iraq was at the beginning of Operation Iraqi Freedom. DH's group, thank the stars, is in Iraq and had no issues thus far, yet my best friend's husband's group was sent to Afghan and had 5 casualties 3 days after arriving.
I'm not trying to be negative, but I've realized many people enlisting don't realize these things are very real.
This was a really douche thing to say right now. Im glad your husband is ok. But seriously to come on here and say how bad Afghanistan is right now, and then to follow that up with something along the lines of "thank god my DH is in Iraq" Is completely horrible. Espceially since there are some of us here whos Husbands are in Afghanistan right now. Thanks for that.
Thank you for this, Ashley. I couldn't find the words that would be appropriate for board posting.
On second thought, I don't care - my DH *is* in Afghanistan so fvck you. I'm crying now because of your smug "thank goodness it's not my husband" attitude and insensitivity.
I also don't appreciate the implication that going to Afghanistan should cause someone to reconsider enlisting. It comes with the damn territory, and I couldn't be more proud of my husband.