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Feel like I lost all my friends :(
Ever since I had my baby I feel like all my friends have abandoned me. When I was pregnant they seemed excited that I was having a baby (I'm the first one in our group to have a baby) and now that he's here they never seem to come around. I feel like all we do is play phone tag and say we'll get together but it never happens. My best friend came to see the baby in the hospital when he was born but hasn't seen him since. He's 3 months old now and she lives about 20 mins away! The same friend just sent me an Evite for her B-day weekend which is a girls weekend in Lake Tahoe (not exactly something I can take a baby too!) I'm just disappointed and needed to vent, I was hoping they would continue to be excited about my baby but I guess their not. I'm thinking about joining a local mom's group to try to make some new friends who have kids. Thanks for listening!
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Re: Feel like I lost all my friends :(
Your LO looks like he has the cutest dimples! At least we have our "bump" friends to chat with
I'm fine with it, because I wouldn't trade DS for the world. I can't join a mommy group, because the state I live in they either don't have it or it's maybe 3 moms in it.
Maybe you should try planning thing and invite them? Easy things, like bbq's at your house. It sounds like they want you to be involved, but I know from experience it's hard to know what/when to invite new parents to, especially when you don't have kids. Plan things to show them that yes, you can and still want to do things, but they may be a little different from now on. I'd bet anything if you keep trying, they will reciprocate.
And - it's ok to leave the baby with DH for a night so you can go out with the girls.
Definitely join a mommy's group or Gymboree type place w/ LO. Sometimes, people don't want to be around other people's kids if they do not have any themselves. Like another pp said, they are in a different place and when people have not had kids yet, they don't like the constant distractions they create. Even when I get together w/ my new mommy friends and their kids, there is always a distraction for one of us that takes away from the conversation, etc. We all "get it" though, and just carry on. It really is more fun to get together w/ people in the same situation as yourself. You will have more to talk about, advice to share, and more understanding.
Some of your old friends will come back around too, once they start families themselves. GL!
I have friend like this and it bugs the crap out of me. Why would you refer to yourself as DD's aunt if you are never around and not related to us? I can see if you were a major player in LO's life, but really.
After DD was born we ran into this for awhile. I honestlly think that people just don't want to be a bother. They just assume that you are too busy with your LO. They don't know the LO's habits and schedules and don't want to call and potentially wake up the baby. In the begining DH was kinda upset that a couple peeple hadn't called much, once these people saw I was online on Facebook, the phone would ring. They just don't want to disturb the new family. We just made it a point to let people know it is ok to call whenever ( within reason), if we are busy and can't chat we just won't pick up the phone. We also let them know that we are flexible with invites to things, we will try our hardest to make it to all the events, so keep the invites coming.
Maybe try calling your friend and letting her know that LO is less demanding now and that you would love for her to come over for a playdate