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My battle with PPD

I went for another app. with my Dr. and after a very long talk with her, she said to me, "Stop trying to fight it.  Why don't you just accept help and enjoy your beautiful son and motherhood"

This was it for me.  It all made since.  I was fighting the diagnosis and thinking that I could beat it.  I could make myself, happy, ignore the feelings (I never had the urge to harm myself or Anderson).  But I was trying so hard to just "fix" it on my own and I can't. 

I wanted so badly not to be on meds.  I thought that made me weak and I didn't want the "crazy" label attached to me.  My marriage was being affected with my fight to "win" and I was not able to be the best mom I could be.

So it was time to just accept the fact that I need the meds.  I need the help, and I need to stop trying to "win" because it isn't something that I can help. 

So I have started taking medication and my journey to try to beat PPD.  I have asked my hubby to not say anything to my family b/c I feel like in some ways I am weak and couldn't handle whatever it is I was supposed to.  I just want to keep it to myself but wanted to let you ladies know b/c I have brought it up before.  A few have asked how things were going and I appologize for ignoring you, but I was just not ready to talk about it.

I hope that now I am, and maybe can help to answer questions to other mommies that might be going through something similar.

I know there is a PPD board that I think I will visit.  I never wanted to go over there b/c I was in my "fight", but now that I am beginning to accept this, I feel I'm starting to be able to talk about it. 

Re: My battle with PPD

  • Talking about it is the first step hon! I am so proud of you for discussing it with us!! Taking meds does not make you weak!!! It takes a strong person to admit that they need help! And that is okay!!!! Anderson needs the very best Mommy you can be, and if you need a little help to get over this PPD than so be it....You will not be on meds forever, this will pass!!

    You can talk about this anytime to us..That is why we are here....for better or for worse!!!

    ((Huge Hugs)) 

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  • You are not weak.  You are brave and strong and you are doing what you need to do to take care of yourself and your beautiful baby. 
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  • Thank you so much Mel and April.  I am in tears right now knowing that I have your support and I am not in it alone...or weak...or crazy.  It is such a comforting feeling knowing that I have a lot of support whenever I need it.  It means so much to me!
  • Hugs to you! You are not weak, you are very strong and brave!!
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  • Exactly Mel- for better or worse. I'm glad that you feel comfortable to share w/ us. Please talk it out anytime. It sounds like you are taking the right steps for you and your family. We will always be here, no matter what direction your treatment takes. Please continue to keep us posted.
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  • Acceptance and openness are the opposite of crazy and weak. You're so strong. ((hugs)) I truly find your honesty inspiring.
  • I think you are very brave. While I have no experience with PPD, I know all about feeling weak and that others will view me as weak. Even though I am very open in my blog and the boards about my battle with endometriosis, in my private life I don't talk about it except to people who I know also have it. I feel like if I talked to others about it they wouldn't get it and would just think I'm complaining since I don't look physically sick.
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  • You are not weak! You are doing what you need to do to be the best mommy to Anderson you can be, and that is what is important. We're all here for you! *Hugs*
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  • Hugs! We are here for you whenever you need us. Don't feel bad for a minute about taking meds - you are doing the best thing for A!
  • J - I hope the meds are just what you need to get back to some sort of "normal"...whatever that is.  I had my struggles as well after G was born.  We would never judge you if you need to talk about what you're going through.  I hope this can be a safe place for you!
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    Thank you so much Mel and April.  I am in tears right now knowing that I have your support and I am not in it alone...or weak...or crazy.  It is such a comforting feeling knowing that I have a lot of support whenever I need it.  It means so much to me!
    I'm in tears reading your post, love. I just wanted to tell you you are the furthest from weak... You're strong and courageous. It takes a LOT to "give in" to something you've been trying to fight for so long. We're all here for you- whether u want to talk or if you want us to just leave it alone. We love you and Anderson very much!!
  • the other ladies have said it best-- you are strong!  I imagine it was hard to tell us about it, but you know that we all are here to support you.  Meds do not make you weak, they just help you on your journey back to finding what is best for you and your family!
  • As someone who's struggled with depression and fears PPD, I know just where you're coming from.

    It's a HUGE step to finally "give in" and realize you need to do what's best for YOU.  Judy, you're definitely not weak and in fact are a stronger woman for accepting help.

    Drugs are merely a way to help you cope.  Depression is a very real disease that takes a lot out of you.  We're all here to listen whenever you need it.

     

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  • Girl you a so strong for being able to acknowledge to do the right thing for you, your DH and A-man! You are truly inspiring!

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  • Oh sweetie I am so proud of you. You are a strong and loving mother. Please remember that PPD is caused by a hormone imbalance that is NOT your fault and you had no way of knowing your body would react like this after delivery. It is actually quite common, more common than you think (becasue it goes unreported for so long). And the best part about it is, its treatable. I'm so happy that you have decided to ask for support.

    We are here for you and you are not alone. Giant hugs!

    -Jul

  • big hugs to you. We are here for you, whatever it takes.  I'm sure it wasnt easy posting this, but it had to feel good at the same time. Please dont feel weak because your hormones are out of sorts. Please feel free to vent anytime.
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    This makes me very happy!  Please let me know how it goes.

  • Ladies I cannot even begin to tell you how much your words and support mean to me.  I was and still am worried and devastated with the diagnosis.  But as I sit here and read your wonderful posts I KNOW that I will be able to get through it.  I feel so blessed to have each of you for support and to lean on when and or if I need you. 

    You have made me so thankful that I posted this and it great to know that you all care.  Thank you so much!  I wish I could hug each of you, but here is my cyber hug Right Hug

  • What you are experiencing is a change in your brain chemistry.  You are not cazy.  If the drugs help you regulate you brain chemistry so you can enjoy motherhood, then by all means accept the help.  I wish you well on your road to recovery.  It will come in time.  The drugs take awhile to take effect.  Most antidepressants start working almost immediately on a chemical level, but on behavioral level it takes time, so if you don't feel better right away, please keep taking the meds for 6 months to see if they can help you.  Best of luck and feel free to join us on here.

  • for better or for worse, we're all here for you! I'm glad you're getting the help you need!
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  • You are not weak at all.  You are so strong and brave and an amazing mother/wife/person for admitting and accepting help with your PPD battle.  I can imagine it is scary, and to be honest, I am almost afraid I will deal with it after, but reading about people who have accepted it makes me remember it is okay.  Sure you might take a small pill each day, but what difference is that and a pill to help a headache, or blood pressure, or anything?  Honestly, nothing.  I am so proud of you, and we will be here to support you 110% of the way.  We love you and are here for you. 
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    As someone who's struggled with depression and fears PPD, I know just where you're coming from.

    It's a HUGE step to finally "give in" and realize you need to do what's best for YOU.  Judy, you're definitely not weak and in fact are a stronger woman for accepting help.

    Drugs are merely a way to help you cope.  Depression is a very real disease that takes a lot out of you.  We're all here to listen whenever you need it.

     

    Very well put and exactly what I was going to say.  The hardest part is asking for help.  Once things start working for you all you'll feel is relief that you're not at that point anymore.   Best of luck, lots of hugs and vibes, and definitely keep us in mind if you need to talk. 

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