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pretty upset...and a dilema

shauna060708shauna060708
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I can't decide if it is just hormones making me upset about this but here goes.  My (single) mom has been saving for an amazing vacation (that she totally, totally deserves to take) for about a year and a half.  I found out yesterday that she has planned a trip with several of her friends to the DR from 2/3-2/11.  I am due 2/11 but had Maya 8 days early.  Not to say that Lewie would come early but if he/she did my mom would definitely be out of the country.  The date can't be moved and if she decides to go anyway that is 100% fine but I feel like she should have all the info before she decides.

She is literally seconds away from booking her plane ticket.  I was planning on telling her the good news this Friday when she comes to town for Maya's party but I'm afraid that the good news will be ruined for everyone the second that she asks when I'm due and realizes that she'll be out of town.  I just don't want to tell her over the phone. Sad  My mom and I are very close and she will be crushed if this actually plays out like it seems it may...

 I could call and ask that she hold off on booking her ticket but she'll know something is up.  I could cross my fingers that she drags her feet on booking.  I could make some crazy lie up if someone will help me think of something...

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Re: pretty upset...and a dilema

  • MrsJMBMrsJMB

    Oh no!!!

    I have nothing on the lie front, but gosh...I would almost tell her if it meant the difference between having her there and not.  I'd hate for her to find out after booking her trip then you'd both be SO upset.  Ugh...what a tough situation. 

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  • MrsOzzyMrsOzzy
    Oh, bummer! My advice would be to just tell her the good news--even if it has to be over the phone.  She would be devestated, and I'm sure deep down, you would be too (if she decided to go on her trip/possibly missing Lewies arrival).   Good luck!  Smile   And congrats on Lewie!
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  • lemen99lemen99 member

    :/

    I would tell her over the phone. I'm sorry things aren't working out like you'd hoped :(  If I were her, I'd rather know before I booked the trip.

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  • IU_babyIU_baby member
    I know it's not how you planned it, but I'd tell her over the phone before she books her trip. 
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  • Val&B0604Val&B0604 member
    Tell her just that, you wanted to tell her in person at Maya's party but you need her to know this info before she books her trip.  While over the phone may not be what you had in mind, it sounds like it could save some serious mixed emotions at the birthday party.
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  • iucarrieiucarrie
    Can you Skype with her and do it over video call on the computer?  If not I would just tell her over the phone before she books the trip.  Sorry the situation isn't turning out like you planned or wanted.
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  • shauna060708shauna060708

    Half of me knows that you guys are right but half of me is realy working up a doozy of a lie so that I can get her to hold off on booking...

    What if I told her that I started looking at my calendar and I was thinking about crashing the vacation and going with them (I am also friends with most of them and we have vacationed together before...) but my boss was out of town until Friday and could she wait until then to book the tickets?  I mean, she never invited me along but I bet if I asked, she wouldn't say no, even if she wanted to.

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  • MommaMcGMommaMcG
    Ah man, I would just tell her.  She'll be excited whether or not you tell her in person or over the phone.  I'd hate for her to book the trip and miss the new baby!
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  • NDwife07NDwife07
    imageshauna060708:

    Half of me knows that you guys are right but half of me is realy working up a doozy of a lie so that I can get her to hold off on booking...

    What if I told her that I started looking at my calendar and I was thinking about crashing the vacation and going with them (I am also friends with most of them and we have vacationed together before...) but my boss was out of town until Friday and could she wait until then to book the tickets?  I mean, she never invited me along but I bet if I asked, she wouldn't say no, even if she wanted to.

    I think that's a pretty good lie!

     

    That being said, I think I'd say something like this, over the phone:

    Hey mom! [insert small talk here] So this isn't at all what I had in mind when I envisioned talking to you, but given that you're about to book your tickets to the DR I needed to let you know. [insert your amazing news, in whatever words you'd like] [insert tears of joy, screaming].

    I totally wanted to tell you in person, but the thought of you booking your ticket and then realizing you'd be out of town on my EDD was breaking my heart. I just needed you to know sooner.

    Awww buddy, that just sucks. I am so sorry you have to navigate this!

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  • Bride7-14-07Bride7-14-07 member
    What Lauren said! I'm sorry Shauna.
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  • fruitcakesfruitcakes member

    Oh crap.  Tough call!  You've probably already made your decision, but I like the idea of using Skype.  You would still get to see her reaction and it's not like you would have to wait long to see her and have the excitement all over in person.

    With that said, I do think your lie is pretty good...  Smile

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