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TTC After a Loss 6 Months+
shall923
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Court1 & others considering adoption
shall923
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After reading the crappy comment your family said, I wanted to share something with you. A friend of mine was adopted and he said his mom told him that adoption meant he came from her heart instead of her belly. He said as a kid that always made him feel like he was more special than the other kids because they were all in his words "belly kids."
I think that is a great way to look at adoption. Screw those people with their hurtful comments.
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I've always looked at it that way.
One of my BFFs in high school was adopted. She told me that it meant a lot to her that her parents went through the "hassle" (her words) of adopting her. Her birth mother was a drug user, too, so she always felt like her parents willingness to adopt her under those cirucmstances meant that they REALLY REALLY wanted her.
Thank you! I love that story, and that has been our mantra as well.
Who cares about biology, really? Love is blind - and I know all of us on this journey are going to be so in love with our little ones, it won't even matter.
I love this quote, and I can't figure out who said it. But it goes "Two of our kids are adopted. I don't remembe which two,"
Because all the parents I have talked to say the same thing: They put that child in your arms, and he/she becomes YOUR child in that instant. Period.
My brother's adopted, you know. And I can tell you with much assurance that he and I caused our parents equal depths of love, pain, joy, and happiness over the years.
And I love my brother as much as my two step-sisters - and my parents. Adoption is such a blessing, really.
We are SO BLESSED, IMO, to know people who have adopted - and for my children to grow up seeing - normalized - what life is like for people who create their families in different ways (whether that's single ladies/gay couples with sperm donors/birth moms, fertile hos, people who struggle with lots of loss, or people who adopt - she has examples of ALL OF THEM in her life). I think it's really awesome that when my kid plays Mommy - it's a crapshoot as to whether that kid will be her biological kid or not.
And I don't say that to make myself feel special - I say that because after the past year and a half of hell we've been through, if that ever happens to her, I want her to feel in her heart that families can come through all sorts of means, you know? I feel like if she normalizes and accepts these things now, she'll be better off when she's creating her own family.
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