Alcohol at Baby Shower- Normal?

ArmyWife3 · July 2010

My shower is Sunday and I found out a few details from one of the hostesses today who had a few questions and wanted to run them by me. One thing she asked me is what I would really like to have to drink there that is non-alcoholic because the other hostess who is in charge of food and beverages has decided to make a yummy sounding rum punch drink but didn't plan much for non-alcoholic except for maybe some pink lemonade. I told her that was fine, as I usually only drink ice water anyway.

I've never been to a baby shower that had hard alcohol being served. I'm just wondering if this is a normal thing or not? I've been to some where mimosa's were served, but I think that's on a different level than rum! Anyway, just curious what you ladies have heard of/had at showers.

Simply Fated · July 2010

ArmyWife3:
My shower is Sunday and I found out a few details from one of the hostesses today who had a few questions and wanted to run them by me. One thing she asked me is what I would really like to have to drink there that is non-alcoholic because the other hostess who is in charge of food and beverages has decided to make a yummy sounding rum punch drink but didn't plan much for non-alcoholic except for maybe some pink lemonade. I told her that was fine, as I usually only drink ice water anyway.

I've never been to a baby shower that had hard alcohol being served. I'm just wondering if this is a normal thing or not? I've been to some where mimosa's were served, but I think that's on a different level than rum! Anyway, just curious what you ladies have heard of/had at showers.

Often alcohol is left out of the showers because the mom-to-be can't drink. However, there are cases in other parties (weddings, birthdays, etc) where the guest of honor can't drink, but alcohol is served, anyway.

Parties can exist without alcohol, it isn't unheard of. But does it bother you? Should it bother you? Do you care if your guests drink alcohol?

ArmyWife3 · July 2010

Simply Fated:
ArmyWife3:

My shower is Sunday and I found out a few details from one of the hostesses today who had a few questions and wanted to run them by me. One thing she asked me is what I would really like to have to drink there that is non-alcoholic because the other hostess who is in charge of food and beverages has decided to make a yummy sounding rum punch drink but didn't plan much for non-alcoholic except for maybe some pink lemonade. I told her that was fine, as I usually only drink ice water anyway.

I've never been to a baby shower that had hard alcohol being served. I'm just wondering if this is a normal thing or not? I've been to some where mimosa's were served, but I think that's on a different level than rum! Anyway, just curious what you ladies have heard of/had at showers.

Often alcohol is left out of the showers because the mom-to-be can't drink. However, there are cases in other parties (weddings, birthdays, etc) where the guest of honor can't drink, but alcohol is served, anyway.

Parties can exist without alcohol, it isn't unheard of. But does it bother you? Should it bother you? Do you care if your guests drink alcohol?

No, it really doesn't bother me- I just find it to be a little odd. It's a baby shower at 2:00 in the afternoon on a Sunday. I don't really see the point of having hard alcohol at an event like this. If the guests feel like enjoying a beverage, more power to them...as long as nobody gets out of control, which I don't see any of my guests doing anyway. It's not a big enough deal to say anything. I just had never heard of such a thing and was wondering what others opinions were.

TColeman · July 2010

I've never been to a baby shower where alcohol is served. I wouldn't be bothered by it, a little odd, maybe....My mom is throwing mine and she has already told me she's having wine. My mom is turning my baby shower into a party for her and her friends but that's a totally different situation.....:)

Simply Fated · July 2010

ArmyWife3:
Simply Fated:
ArmyWife3:

My shower is Sunday and I found out a few details from one of the hostesses today who had a few questions and wanted to run them by me. One thing she asked me is what I would really like to have to drink there that is non-alcoholic because the other hostess who is in charge of food and beverages has decided to make a yummy sounding rum punch drink but didn't plan much for non-alcoholic except for maybe some pink lemonade. I told her that was fine, as I usually only drink ice water anyway.

I've never been to a baby shower that had hard alcohol being served. I'm just wondering if this is a normal thing or not? I've been to some where mimosa's were served, but I think that's on a different level than rum! Anyway, just curious what you ladies have heard of/had at showers.

Often alcohol is left out of the showers because the mom-to-be can't drink. However, there are cases in other parties (weddings, birthdays, etc) where the guest of honor can't drink, but alcohol is served, anyway.

Parties can exist without alcohol, it isn't unheard of. But does it bother you? Should it bother you? Do you care if your guests drink alcohol?

No, it really doesn't bother me- I just find it to be a little odd. It's a baby shower at 2:00 in the afternoon on a Sunday. I don't really see the point of having hard alcohol at an event like this. If the guests feel like enjoying a beverage, more power to them...as long as nobody gets out of control, which I don't see any of my guests doing anyway. It's not a big enough deal to say anything. I just had never heard of such a thing and was wondering what others opinions were.

I, personally, don't see anything wrong with having a drink or two at an event. 2pm or otherwise.

Rum punch isn't so bad. I mean, will they be doing tequilla shots? That, to me, is hard liquor, lol. That might be where I draw the line. And kegs. I always draw the line at kegs.

Maybe you can discuss doing a punch with the same ingredients minus the rum. You can have both and this way you'll have punch for the ladies who choose not to drink.

babyonthebrain2010 · July 2010

I have been to two where mimosas were served and I do think it's kinda strange.. but most of the other guests seemed to enjoy it? not sure about the guest of honor, tho...

lilygirl · July 2010

I think it's a bit off to have a hard liquor punch at 2 pm on a Sunday. I think mimosas are pretty run of the mill but I'm most puzzled about your hostess not taking you (and other guests) into account. Others may not want the rum punch but might prefer a punch/NA version over just water.

CrazyToast · July 2010

All of my showers had alcohol at them - but no hard alcohol - wine, beer, etc. Frankly, it's stupid that you have to have alcohol at a party, where the guest of honor cannot drink. Plus when you're having a 2:00 shower - like you are, and I did for one - it's not necessary!

I have noticed this becoming a trend. I think a rum punch is excessive. We had non-alcoholic punch.

EastCoastBride · July 2010

I've been to and thrown showers that have had alcohol at them. As said, though, champagne and beer. Not liquor

ntlapointe · July 2010

My family is a bunch of drinkers, so we had alcohol at mine! I have hosted 2 and I served mimosas and wine, along with lemonade and ice tea. I think that's a little more normal!

Gotta love family...

pam1005 · July 2010

I had it at all of mine. I also have served punches with alcohol in it at baby showers I have thrown. All of the showers were rather large and I had no problem with it. I knew I could not have it, but I had no problem with my guests having cocktail or two.

ArmyWife3 · July 2010

Yeah, I think it's just a bit much but oh well. I just talked to my MIL as we the shower is being thrown at her house. She said she will make a few pitchers of homemade blackberry lemonade so there is a yummy non-alcoholic option as well. I'm looking forward to that.

bekah22587@hotmail.com · July 2010

TColeman:
I've never been to a baby shower where alcohol is served. I wouldn't be bothered by it, a little odd, maybe....My mom is throwing mine and she has already told me she's having wine. My mom is turning my baby shower into a party for her and her friends but that's a totally different situation.....:)

Mine too....there are going to be about 100 people only about 20 of which are my friends. So I feel your pain.

bekah22587@hotmail.com · July 2010

I've never heard of alcohol at a baby shower. I find it a bit odd and I personally would be mad if they served it at mine. I know it sounds bad but if I can't drink no one is drinking.

Shell24 · July 2010

I don't think it's weird at all, but we're kind of a drinking crowd. Mimosas, champagne, etc. are all fine. And it's not really hard liquor...it's a rum punch. They're very sweet and I think it's fine for a middle of the day shower.

It's not like they're setting out bottles or heaven forbid, cans of Miller Lite.

Stellar1 · July 2010

We had beer at my shower but no hard liquor. We had a BIG co-ed shower and my friends like to drink. It was a blast!

abetsch · July 2010

I've never been to a baby shower where hard alcohol was served but most I've been to do have wine and champagne.

klaus · July 2010

This is totally normal and acceptable! I can't remember a baby shower int he last 5 years that I have been to that HASN'T had alcohol. Usually, the alcohol served goes with the theme or the food. i.e. mimosa's or bloody mary's for a brunch, beer, wine, champagne for a hors'douerves/dessert shower, punch or signature drink of some sort for a lunch shower...

jessiesnwbrd · July 2010

I think it's fine to have a punch with alcohol at a shower...HOWEVER, it shouldn't be the primary drink. There should be many non-alcoholic options and if they don't want to provide those (for cost reasons or whatever), they should dump the alcohol one and just go with a regular punch.

Kind of odd she didn't think of a non-alcoholic drink, not everyone will want to have booze.

ArmyWife3 · July 2010

Shell24:

I don't think it's weird at all, but we're kind of a drinking crowd. Mimosas, champagne, etc. are all fine. And it's not really hard liquor...it's a rum punch. They're very sweet and I think it's fine for a middle of the day shower.

It's not like they're setting out bottles or heaven forbid, cans of Miller Lite.

Oh dear God. Now THAT I would have a real problem with.

angie2184 · July 2010

Perfectly normal! All the showers I have been too have had alcohol. Granted they start at 6-7ish, mine will be starting at 2 and I plan on having alcohol. Why not nobody gets out of control so there's no problem for me. There just better be some delicious punch for me!!

erin033 · July 2010

I've been to plenty with and without alcohol. Mine is brunch shower and we will be having a mimosa bar (a few different juices to mix with champagne) which I am super stoked about. It doesn't bother me that I cannot have any...I just love the idea and I know my guests will love it too. Although because it can be a touchy subject with some mommies-to-be I think the host should always ask if mommy is ok with it. Some pregnant women women find it offensive when people drink around them. Although I still think there is a line between tacky and tasteful. Shots at a baby shower = tacky. Mimosas, champagne, or even beer or punch = can be done tastefully.

StephieLM · July 2010

If your fine with it I think it is totally appropriate...especially it being punch. Safe choice, I don't think anyone will be offended or think it's odd...and plus the non-preg ladies will be very happy to have drinks

GL!

sassyracing79 · July 2010

IMHO I think it's a little rude that they would have alcohol there. I mean something like mimosa's I could see but rum is different. It's almost like rubbing it in your face or like she just really wanted to have a party and that it has nothing to do with you. I would talk to the hostess and make sure that it will be just the rum punch and tell her that you would like non alcoholic options as well for those who don't want to drink. And it would also help keep things from getting out of control. Good luck.

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tct1219 · July 2010

Simply Fated:
I, personally, don't see anything wrong with having a drink or two at an event. 2pm or otherwise.
Rum punch isn't so bad. I mean, will they be doing tequilla shots? That, to me, is hard liquor, lol. That might be where I draw the line. And kegs. I always draw the line at kegs.
Maybe you can discuss doing a punch with the same ingredients minus the rum. You can have both and this way you'll have punch for the ladies who choose not to drink.

i agree. and honestly, i've never been to any kind of event, baby shower or otherwise, where alcohol wasn't served. my shower will be at our country club at noon on a saturday and i know almost everyone will be having drinks. not tequila shots, like SF said, but i'm sure bloody marys, mimosas, champagne, etc.

it may be a regional thing but i just can't imagine going to something like that where alcohol isn't available [and i don't even drink much in general].

Ivana_Stolichnaya · July 2010

I'm not against it...but it seems sort of odd and borderline trashy to have hard alcohol for some reason. I don't mind wine, champagne or beer, but mixed drinks seems unnecessary. Oh well to each their own.

BSSnCEB · July 2010

tct1219:
Simply Fated:

I, personally, don't see anything wrong with having a drink or two at an event. 2pm or otherwise.

Rum punch isn't so bad. I mean, will they be doing tequilla shots? That, to me, is hard liquor, lol. That might be where I draw the line. And kegs. I always draw the line at kegs.

Maybe you can discuss doing a punch with the same ingredients minus the rum. You can have both and this way you'll have punch for the ladies who choose not to drink.

i agree. and honestly, i've never been to any kind of event, baby shower or otherwise, where alcohol wasn't served. my shower will be at our country club at noon on a saturday and i know almost everyone will be having drinks. not tequila shots, like SF said, but i'm sure bloody marys, mimosas, champagne, etc.
it may be a regional thing but i just can't imagine going to something like that where alcohol isn't available [and i don't even drink much in general].

I agree with all of the above. I think you might be looking too much into it. I'm throwing a shower this weekend and we are having sangria and white wine (along with a homemade raspberry lemonade for a non alcoholic fun drink). I've never been to any type of shower that didn't have alcohol. I would find it odd not to have any, and honestly as a gues I would be disappointed if there wasn't any. I wouldn't worry about it - people typcially don't get drunk at baby shower.

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