MIL's Big Sister comment

CoachElle · July 2010

So my MIL said to me today that my DD is a Big Sister, but she is not a big girl. I asked what she meant and she got choked up and said "She is still a little girl. She is a little girl and this one is the baby." Basically telling me I shouldn't be calling her a Big girl. I told her my DD calls herself a Big girl and this one is the Little girl. Does this seem like nonsense to you? As if I don't have enough on my plate.

w2smd · July 2010

I cant even begin to imagine why she cares in the first place!! Call your girls what you want

MJN9510 · July 2010

Well, no matter how "little" your dd is....she is still the big girl in terms of being the big sister. But really, what does it matter to your MIL if you call her that?

larivierek · July 2010

I think that at your DD's age, they want to feel a little more grown up (they're learning to potty train, sleep in a toddler bed, will get to "help" with baby), and calling her a "big girl" helps her identify with those big-girl things. Obviously she's not a teenager or anything. Your MIL is being overly sensitive.

MJN9510 · July 2010

Well, no matter how "little" your dd is....she is still the big girl in terms of being the big sister. But really, what does it matter to your MIL if you call her that? Wierd!

BabyCakes3 · July 2010

Very strange. Sometimes DD says she's a big girl & sometimes she's the baby! Who cares!

CoachElle · July 2010

Thanks ladies. My MIL's big thing lately is that once the baby is born my DD is going to get left out in the cold. She also keeps mentioning that I have to make sure to spend extra time with her because her world is being turned "upside down". It's funny, she's the only one who feels this way. My DD seams so excited. She keeps talking about all the things she is going to teach the baby, how she's going to help with the baby, asks to buy the baby gifts, and if anyone comments on my tummy she grabs it and says "MY baby sister".

delg23 · July 2010

I think letting your daughter be a "big girl" gives her an identity that is helping her cope w/ her world being "turned upside down". You know better than anyone how she is handling the new situation. Although often children are excited about things and then when the actual situation happens their mood changes. I would just roll my eyes and ignore her. Don't let her paranoia get to you. She just wants to be the expert.

Pumpkin&Roo · July 2010

I try to ignore my parents when they're sentimental. I'm not a mushy type.

MJN9510 · July 2010

CoachElle:
Thanks ladies. My MIL's big thing lately is that once the baby is born my DD is going to get left out in the cold. She also keeps mentioning that I have to make sure to spend extra time with her because her world is being turned "upside down". It's funny, she's the only one who feels this way. My DD seams so excited. She keeps talking about all the things she is going to teach the baby, how she's going to help with the baby, asks to buy the baby gifts, and if anyone comments on my tummy she grabs it and says "MY baby sister".

Yea....like you are really going to ignor your dd! REALLY? Your MIL is trying to stress you out and you dont need it!

bone2595 · July 2010

Does MIL have an oldest child complex???

Sounds like she is maybe projecting feelings she had onto your DD.

I wouldn't worry about it!

jazzcrawford · July 2010

neece28:

CoachElle:
Thanks ladies. My MIL's big thing lately is that once the baby is born my DD is going to get left out in the cold. She also keeps mentioning that I have to make sure to spend extra time with her because her world is being turned "upside down". It's funny, she's the only one who feels this way. My DD seams so excited. She keeps talking about all the things she is going to teach the baby, how she's going to help with the baby, asks to buy the baby gifts, and if anyone comments on my tummy she grabs it and says "MY baby sister".

Yea....like you are really going to ignor your dd! REALLY? Your MIL is trying to stress you out and you dont need it!

^^^ I so agree with the underlined!

your MIL needs to back off!! words are powerful and it's sounds like your MIL is trying to bring the drama and give your darling big girl a complex!!

Limit MIL's time with your dd without mentioning anything seems like she's the type to fill your daughters head full of drama!!