XP- At what age did you become a first time mom? What were the good/bad things about being young or

kieko19 · July 2010

I'm 25, lurker on a lot of the bump's boards, DH is 26. Everything else in our lives are aligned for starting a family. Just DH says we're too young.

Princessn678 · July 2010

I was 28 when DD was born, DH was also 28.

carney09 · July 2010

I was (am) 31. Good thing about waiting is almost everything. I would not have wanted a baby at 25. We were just getting married and it was very important to me to have time to ourselves as a couple before adding a child. And we had already been together for 5 years at that point, but still...

The only downside I can see if that I would have probably had more energy at 25. But thats it.

Lindsey7521 · July 2010

I was 24. I wasnt planning on getting pregant at 24...we wanted to wait a couple more years. I dont feel like I was too young though. I actually think it was a great age to start a family.

g8trkim · July 2010

I'm 28 and DH is 29. We have been together 8 1/2 years. We got married last June and pregnant in July. Our plan was for him to finish pharmacy school, buy a house, get married, and have a baby. So we were definitely ready. Personally, I don't think you're too young, but it may just be more of an issue that he thinks things aren't in place for you guys yet. Best of luck.

NELCORP · July 2010

I wouldn't consider 25/26 too young to start a family. I look at maturity as individuals and as a couple, to be more important. Things change when you have a child. IF DH thinks y'all are too young it's probably him telling you that he's not ready to change the life y'all have now.

Edit: I was 25 and DH was 44. We were at a point in our lives where we ready to start a family, our ages had nothing to do with it.

anabell0920 · July 2010

Dh is 25 and I am 23 and we just had our first LO this year. He is AD Navy and I am a SAHM. We don't have tons of money but can more than provide for our son and allow me to stay home. To some we might be to young but it's what works for us! I don't really think there is a perfect age to being parents.

Vuja_de · July 2010

This is our first I had just turned 28 (DS was born 2 days after my birthday) and DH is 36. We had been married 5 years (together 6).

Couture21 · July 2010

I was pregnant at 21 and DH was 22, DS was born when I was 22 and DH was 23. I think we are too young, but he doesn't.

valg927 · July 2010

I'm 28, DH was 27 (now 28). We didnt wait long after we were married to get pg - under a year. Looking back now I may have waited another year, just to save up some more money to buy the house we want - we own an apartment now and I thought it would be big enough (and it is) but I think it would be easier if we had the house already. Now it's harder to save like we used to. Besides that, I don't think we were too young at all.

Soto Pop · July 2010

i was 24 when my little one was born and DH was 25. it was perfect timing in our lives. there isn't anything bad, life is just different but in a good way. i feel like my life has more of a purpose now that i'm a mommy.

stacieandclint · July 2010

I had my first son when I was 20 (got pregnant at 19) and I had my 2nd son when I was 32 (got pregnant at 31) I personally don't think there is ever the perfect time to have a baby, if I waited for the perfect time I wouldn't have any kids yet but I'm so grateful to have both my boys and I wouldn't change a thing!

lindsleek · July 2010

I was 26 and DH was 34. I would have waited a little longer but he is older and wanted to start trying right away. We just got married less than two years ago!

I would just say that it would be nice to enjoy life as husband and wife for a little while, before you add a baby into the mix... But that's just my opinion. I don't think 25 is too young however, especially if you've been married for a while!

GL

MrsWindyCity · July 2010

We were both a few months shy of 29, and had been married just under 4 years.

I was ready earlier, but DH wasn't. It's such an individual thing. I kind of wish we had started earlier, because we want 1-2 more and I would rather be done having them sooner. On the other hand, we are more financially stable, and bought a house in the meantime.

almostabuck · July 2010

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skmac05 · July 2010

When DS was born I was 22 and DH was 25. We will be married 4 years in August! (Spare me the "Wow that's way too young to be married and have kids." I heard it all before!) Anywho, love my life. I graduated college before DS was born, so I didn't have to worry about that. Now we are in the process of looking for a house, so we are right where we want to be!

simplyatomic · July 2010

I was 18. I have to say that I divorced when she was 2 and I spent many years as a struggling single Mom. I missed out on watching her and her sisters younger years so this time I am thrilled to be able to stay home.

dib · July 2010

I am 36. I'm glad I waited. Most of the waiting was for the right man. We were married less than two years when we conceived. I wish we had more time just the two of us, but I didn't want to be super old when I had my first, mostly cuz I knew I probably wanted a second and a little space in between the two.

But I lived the heck out of my youth and it was just time to settle down. I look and feel young still, so it's not too bad with all the sleep loss, etc. However, I look forward to having the second one and then he/she turning one and being able to sleep again!

Reagan1010 · July 2010

I got pregnant at 28, DH was 30, and I will turn 29 in 2 weeks. I am so glad we waited!! We have been married for 4 years and together for 8, so we really got to enjoy our time together and really got to know each other before adding a LO to the mix. We love to travel, so we were able to travel all over the world together and have a ton of fun. DH was able to finish his MBA and because we waited, we are financially stable so I can be a SAHM!

One big downside to waiting that we have seen is that originally, we were only going to have one child. Now that we have DS, we can't imagine only having one! Since I am a little older, we have more of a time issue. We will start trying to have a second when DS is about a year just in case it would take awhile. GL to you!!

justblessed · July 2010

I am 33 and DH is 39. We wanted to own a home first so that we would already have an idea of what to expect for those expenses. I wish I had started earlier because I want to wait three years before trying again, and by then, I will be in the high risk category because of my age.

fromymom · July 2010

We were both 25 when DD was born and had been married almost 3 years. I don't feel that we were young, we were financially stable, had a home, etc. I am glad we started at that age, that way we won't be too old by the time they are out of the house. I do however sometimes feel young when I take DD to preschool and most the parents are older but I don't care.

BabyLove987 · July 2010

You should wait (and this opinion has nothing to do with what age you are). If everything is aligned now to have kids, it still will be in a few years. If DH thinks you are too young, then he isn't ready. It doesn't matter the average age or how old your friends were when they had kids. You could have 100% of people having kids at a younger age than you, but that won't convince DH that you are ready to have kids. Get off the bump boards and avoid the baby stuff for a while or you will just get more and more impatient and push DH into something he isn't ready for. If he isn't ready, you won't have the support from him that you need and want while pregnant or after the baby os born.

lildevil968 · July 2010

I was 22 and DH was 21. Yes we where young, but we wanted it that way. We where AD Air Force at the time, and had the financial means to provide for our family. The good is that we had a lot more energy at the time, and the bad was that we did miss out on some stuff, but not everything.

JaysonandKristin · July 2010

I got pregnant when I was 25, DS was born when I was 26. DH was 29 when we got pregnant and when DS was born.

I think we are the perfect age for having DS. It had nothing to do with our ages, though. Our marriage is just disgustingly perfect. We're one of those barfy couples that know every detail about each other, share dumb inside jokes all the time, love both sides of our families and RARELY fight. When we accidentally got pregnant, while I was freaking out, DH was of the opinion, It is what it is... And, he was right. I love my little family.

marsh1128 · July 2010

I don't think there is a perfect age for children but if either one of you isn't sure you are ready yet....then you're not ready yet It completely changes your life (for the good of course) but if there are any goals you have as just a couple (traveling, large purchases, etc) get them out of the way first because once the LO is here, that is your whole life.....

We were both 31 when we had our DD and it was pretty good timing for us.

GL!

VanderLaan · July 2010

I was (am) 30 and DH was 37. Thought waiting was great.

VampyAuthor · July 2010

I was 25 when we got pregnant, 26 when I had DD.

Athena5692 · July 2010

I had DD at 27, DH was 34. I think one of the best things about waiting is, after five years of marriage, if DH comes home and I'm stressed he can tell if it's the take the baby now, I need a hug, or leave me the eff alone deal. It's helped things stay peaceful in the house.

RedHeadedLeo85 · July 2010

I had DD1 at 19 and DD2 at 24.

only1erin · July 2010

i was 29 when i got pregnant and 30 when i had ds. dh was 30 when i got pregnant and 31 when i had ds.

cschlomann · July 2010

I was 22 when DD was born. I LOVE being a young mom. That way I know I'll always be around for her and my grandchildren. Once I graduated college, I was done with the partying and wild. I wanted to settle down and start my family now. I wouldn't have it any other way.

MarMat · July 2010

Athena5692:
I had DD at 27, DH was 34. I think one of the best things about waiting is, after five years of marriage, if DH comes home and I'm stressed he can tell if it's the take the baby now, I need a hug, or leave me the eff alone deal. It's helped things stay peaceful in the house.

This!!

It really helped us a lot to work on the communication part first, to really be stable as a couple before DD arrived.

GL!

lpstl · July 2010

Me: 29, H: 27

I can go on about the pros and cons for me, but that's irrelevant. Some people are wonderful parents and very much ready at 22, I know some 40 year olds who shouldn't even dream of having kids any time soon. Age doesn't have anything to do with it, and I'm sure if you ask your husband why he thinks you are too young you'll find there's more too it.

monj76 · July 2010

I was 27, and I think it was the perfect age. I got all my partying done, and was more confident in myself. Even though my first was not planned at all, I was ready to be a mom.

kiki_1218 · July 2010

We were both 31 when DD was born, she's our 1st/only child. We got married when we were 25 and wanted to wait until we'd had some "us" time. We also wanted to be settled in a house.

The only bad thing is, I feel like I'm an old mom, or at least I will be once she get's older.

Dr.Loretta · July 2010

Why does your DH think you're too young?

I'm an outlier. I didn't get married until I was 36. We TTC'd for 3 years and then started the adoption process. We got DD this March.

Pros to starting young: You're young! And more energetic. And the kids will be way out of the house by the time you retire. Their grandparents may have a higher chance of being around.

Cons to starting young: You're young! You still want to party, and stay out late, and not be "burdened" by a small child you have to adjust your life for. And you may not have the debts paid off and the retirement fund where you want it to be. Much less a college fund.

Pros to waiting: You can get your ducks lined up before you take the plunge. You can go out and party to the wee hours and get it out of your system. You tend to have more job stability and a better salary, and more time to pay off SLs, etc. You also have more patience.

Cons to waiting: Getting mistaken for the kid's grandma, still having kids in school at/near retirement age, less energy

FutureMrsDavidson · July 2010

I was 21 and my DH is 30.

DASHSKIDADDLE · July 2010

26. Started to TTC at 25. I don't think 25 is too young IMO.

beblankster · July 2010

DH and I were both 30

Valentines Day Baby · July 2010

I was 28 when he was born. I wanted to have kids when we first got marrried at 25 but I am glad we waited, that's just my opinion. We got to travel and do thinks that would be hard having a baby.

Brytany09 · July 2010

I was 19 and DH was 23. We are young, this baby was not planned, but I can't imagine anything different for our lives. Sure it is a struggle, but I've never been the party type and I love being a young mom. I love that I will have my kids close and be done by a younger age. I have lots of energy to give to her. There definitely would be pros to waiting a few years, and we were planning to start a family at around 22/23 for me and 26/27 for DH. But what happens happens!

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