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Reallynervous83
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If you have had a miscarriage come on in...
Reallynervous83
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For those of you who have miscarried...was there always blood? I am suddenly without symptoms (which I know can be normal) but it's weird to go from m/s and sore boobs to absolutely nothing. So how did you know you miscarried? I have my first u/s wednesday, but I'm afraid of it...
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Re: If you have had a miscarriage come on in...
There were really bad cramps to the point where I could barely stand and then there was blood. Try to stay positive though and good luck with everything. It is probably nerves and maybe you should get a new title. I know this is a support board but some people may take it the wrong way and get mean.
Her title and post is not even close to offensive. Maybe ill-worded but not offensive. She should have posted in the miscarriage forum perhaps, but she's looking for input.
I don't think she meant any harm.
Edited to say: What I meant is... maybe she should have read/lurked the miscarriage forum to see what their symptoms were... don't run in there asking. Sigh... I hope that clears it up. Heck, or google symptoms.
No, there is not always blood. In fact, it is not uncommon to not know a loss has happened, even when symptoms persist. It can take some time for a miscarriage to actually start, once the loss happened.
But you are incredibly early, and symptoms come and go all the time in early pregnancy.
If you are really concerned, call your doctor. If you do have blood and/or strong cramps, call for sure.
I agree that the post is not offensive BUT PLEASE DO NOT POST THIS ON THE MC/PL FORUM. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.
It would be offensive there, as those women are dealing with confirmed losses, and grieving very, very hard. Tickers and the like are hurtful there, as are posts where the person really has no reason to think they are miscarrying.
OP - Best of luck, and I hope all is well. PLEASE do not post this on MC/PL.
I had very little blood in the beginning, and an early loss. One day, I just didn't feel pregnant any more. I didn't know what had happened until my levels were not rising properly, and the ultrasound showed nothing.
If you are concerned, you can ask for bloodwork. Good luck!
My first pregnancy was a missed m/c at 11w3d. I had no blood, was still experiencing symptoms and absolutely NO signs that anything was wrong. I went to my u/s and found out that the pregnancy stopped at 6w6d, but my body was not letting go, there was only an empty sac. I had to have a D&C.
Missed m/c are not incredibly common, but they are possible. There is nothing that you can do to stop a m/c from happening, and worrying doesn't help. Try to stay calm, and don't suffer through something that isn't happening if you don't have to.
Good luck.
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Why would this post be any more offensive than any of the others just like it? I've seen dozens of posts like this...
Reallynervous83, I know you must be scared of all the possibilities. I hope you get the answers you need, and I hope the news you receive on Wednesday is nothing but positive. GL!
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Yeah I realize this offended YOU, when you tried all of 3 months to get pregnant. I have suffered loss, I have suffered infertility and yet I have always been willingly to help others figure out what they are going through. I think you are out of line posting something was offensive, when you have suffered nothing baby related.
Thanks for all of those who helped. I guess it's just a waiting game. Thanks again for your willingness to answer my post.
OMG NO NO NO NO NO
For future reference, don't EVER do this.
Your title is fine. Good luck to you, and thank you for being sensitive.
And please know, you can always call your doc, even if you think it's silly. It's their job to help you through all this, and there is no reason they should not answer any concern you have (even if you "know" what their answer will be.) Your peace of mind is part of your care.
Great minds think alike.
I replied before reading the rest of the thread.
First, I am very sorry that you are worried and nervous. Yes, I had a previous MC. My symptoms went away and then I started to have brown spotting at 9w. I found at my 9w ultrasound that baby had stopped growing.
Honestly though, try not to worry. I am almost 20w pregnant and my symptoms come and go all the time and every pregnancy is so different. Your symptom loss could mean nothing.
If you are really worried I think you should call your dr. Good luck and I hope all is well.
Sadly, I did not know I m/c until a doctor appointment. I still felt pg, no bleeding or cramping.
If you are worried call your doctor, you will have a u/s on Wed. I know it feels like forever, but hang in there ((HUGS))
** Like PP said, please do not post on Miscarriage/PL board. They are all currently experiencing a loss and tickers are a lot to handle. **
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BFP #5 April 6, 2014; missed m/c May 15, 2014 @ 9 weeks; Misoprostol May 15, 2014; D&C May June 3, 2014
Please don't feel bad at all for posting this. It's scary to lose symptoms, and it's a perfectly reasonable question.
With my first pregnancy, the baby stopped developing around 6 weeks, but I didn't find out until my first appointment at 9 weeks. I still had most of my pregnancy symptoms through those 3 weeks in between, but I just had a really strong feeling that something was wrong. I only had one tiny spot of brown during that time.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DO NOT POST THIS TYPE OF QUESTION ON THE MC/PL BOARD!!!
To OP, Sweetie, I understand your your paranoid fears. As someone who has had 3 miscarriages I completely understand being utterly terrified by every symptom or lack of symptom.
The bad news is that no blood does not necessarily = healthy baby. I never so much as spotted during my three miscarriages. They all were discovered during the u/s.
The good news is that disappearing/reappearing/changing pregnancy symptoms IS perfectly normal. I know it's scary but hang on until your u/s and good luck.
Hi there,
Congrats our your pregnancy! Symptoms coming and going are normal. To answer your question, I had no signs of loss, my pregnancy had gone perfectly, the baby's heart just stopped beating in the 17th week. It's very, very rare though.
I see your siggie and it looks like you've been through quite a lot to get pg. Again, congrats! If you are dealing with an RE, I am sure they'd be more than happy to alleviate some of your fear by running another beta or maybe even doing your u/s early if they can squeeze you in. They are used to this kind of worry from their patients. But if your betas have been nice and doubling so far, and you aren't cramping or bleeding, chances are very good everything is fine.
I agree w/ ambrandau, it's probably not best to post this on the MC board. Those women have comfirmed losses, most which have happened in the past few weeks, and seeing tickers c an be like salt in the wound. Especially when chances are, you are doing just fine and they know that their baby is not.
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Thank you for not asking this on the MC/PL board. I knew about my loss when my betas didn't double correctly. If you are really concerned...call your RE and see what the nurse says, but I don't think loss of symptoms is cause for much worry. GL!
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Her title and post is not even close to offensive. She should have posted in the miscarriage forum perhaps, but she's looking for input.
I don't think she meant any harm.
I agree with this
The mc/pl board is not an appropriate place for a question like this. Those ladies are still healing from a very difficult time in their life. They do not need to answer questions like this when their wounds are so fresh. That is their safe place.
OP: Call your doctor if you are concerned. I know it can be stressful, but symptoms come and go and it can be normal
Good Luck!
My first miscarriage I had no symptoms at all. My second my symptoms weren't strong initially but they did die down completely before I lost it. But I was also in a lot of cramping pain and had some spotting for 2 days before I miscarried completely.
While loss of symptom is a sign of miscarriage, i know people who only had morning sickness and sore boobs for a week. Don't worry until you start to feel cramps and see blood.
Let me restate my earlier point since I think I also misworded what I meant to say. She could have lurked around there, maybe read some of their symptoms... and if she's truly having a miscarriage, then yes, she can go there.
I would not mean to suggest asking people who clearly have suffered losses to "come in if they had a miscarriage" or anything like that.
Or she could look up possible miscarriage signs online. My main goal was to state that I didn't think she was offensive.
I'm sorry if my post was a concern for anyone.
For the OP, I'm pretty sure every one of us has had concerns, especially those of us that have had losses, but at this point, and until you get much further along, there isn't anything you can do anyway, so just sit back and relax.
Also, with both of mine, blood was the first sign, then came the cramps. However, that's not to say any blood is a M/C. I bled a good bit two weekends ago, and I'm fine, and baby's fine. Small clot by the placenta.
One more to chime in:
Thanks for not posting this on MC/PL. First tri is DEFINITELY the place for this discussion. I hate it when First Triers try to relegate people like you to MC/PL - both because the MC/PLers don't need the tickers and the like AND because this is a real, viable, IMPORTANT discussion for first trimester - you're probably not alone in thsi experience.
For me:
M/C #1 was the result of spotting and low betas at 6w3d.
M/C #2 was FULL of pregnancy symptoms - even for the 2 weeks after confirmed fetal demise while I waited to miscarry.
M/C #3 was early - with lots of cramping and spotting
and M/C #4 had perfect betas, perfect pregnancy symptoms, and a full arrest of fetal heart rate at 7w5d.
In other words, I was feeling VERY pregnant with all of my miscarriages. I had morning sickness like crazy - sore boobs, you name it, I had it. This time around, I had very little - sore boobs, but low nausea, no real exhaustion, etc.
This lasted until 12 weeks when I said "Woo HOO I'm going to make it through without morning sickness!!". I woke up the next day barfing and it hasn't stopped since.
Here's hoping this is the most eventful part of your pregnancy. I understand your worry. Good luck on Wednesday.
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wow! I kinda think YOUR response is offensive
Don't feel bad for posting this, I understand that you're scared. I miscarried & didn't know for over a month (until an ultrasound showed baby had stopped developing) & my symptoms actually persisted.
And please, please don't post this on MC/PL. Those ladies are experiencing confirmed m/c & won't take this the right way. Best of luck to you.
Sigh... like I said... I didn't mean to try to "relegate people like her". I just meant that if she was having one, that would be the place to go. I don't know if she is having one.
Jeez. My main post was to say...
"I've lost babies too. I know how it feels. I wasn't offended by her post."
Also I think you're not giving most women enough credit to think they can't handle tickers. I never minded while I was trying to conceive after repeated losses. But the "am I, aren't I" might have been an issue.
Relax people... please. And I think she gets the point not to ask this over there. It's been stated 20 times.
OP: Yours is a common concern, but unfortunately, there is not standard response. Some people bleed, others don't. Some people continue their PG symptoms (sometimes even getting worse), others don't. The process is different for everyone.
Really, the only surefire way to rule out miscarriage is to get a looksie inside the ute via u/s. If you see a heartbeat, then you know the fetus is currently alive. Then, it's a countdown to your next u/s. But honestly, until you have a live baby to take home with you, that fear is always going to be in the back of your head. Remember, the only way to rule out a miscarriage is by an u/s.
I wouldn't recommend posting this question on the MC/PGL board unless you want to get flamed to high heaven.
Please reserve the support of that board for people who have gone through or are currently going through a confirmed miscarriage.
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I think your title is fine. Losing all of your symptoms and thinking you are miscarrying is a scary thing. Like others, I had a little bit of brown spotting, some lessening of symptoms and some bad cramping, but no red blood. Growth stopped at 5-6sks, but I did not find out until my NT scan at 11wks.
I waited to mc naturally (it didn't happen), and I ended up having mild pg symptoms until my d&c.
Please call your dr. If your practice/office is not sympathetic, I would definitely think about finding another one. Good luck!
I really hope the OP deletes this thread now that she has the info she needs, because it's only going to get worse in this thread. I can see it already.
For the last damn time...
I simply meant IF she was having one, that's the place to be. I don't have utero-vision. I was more concerned with defending her right to ask that here, and mis-worded what apparently has everything thinking I'd intentionally wish to hurt a bunch of miscarriage survivors... of which I happen to be one... x2.
She gets it. Don't ask there. I get it... be more clear in what I say.
Let it go away and not turn into a war when she was looking for help and I was only trying to stick up for her.
Most of us are the women currently posting on MC/PL, so when we say tickers are not a good idea over there, we speaking for ourselves and the others we are currently posting with us. This has come up often, esp. in the last few days, and it is the common feeling that seeing tickers when the wound is so fresh is not a great thing.
And no one is hyper or over-reacting. They are answering the OP's question while responding to your post. Not everyone reads all the responses, and just wanted to make sure she doesn't get flamed for following what you yourself admit was unclear advice.
What is wrong with you? No one called you out, or said anything negative to you. They were helping the OP, and correcting a common misunderstanding about where these posts should go.
This thread was not about you. I know, you seem to have a hard time with that idea.
If you want a post (this or the ticker thing) to end, here is an idea - stop telling OTHERs to let it go, and let it go on your end.
Unreal.
No the point is I see 30 people stating "Oh please please don't post this over there" as if I personally took her hand and guided her there. I'm sure she's a smart woman. She gets it.
I feel like SHE'S being bombarded at this point. I am not worried about me at all.
She said thank you, and stated that she would not post on MC/PL. Worry about yourself, and let the OP (who is a big girl) take care of herself.
With one exception, everyone was lovely and helpful here, and no one but you is saying differently.
Unbunch your panties and take your own advice. Others are sharing their loss experiences because the OP asked for it. You are the only one freaking out.
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I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
Unbunch your panties and take your own advice. Others are sharing their loss experiences because the OP asked for it. You are the only one freaking out.
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!, DS is now 3.5yrs!
TTC #2 - 6/12 surgery #3, FET #1 & 1.2 = BFN, 12/2012 FET #2 = BFP! DD is 1.5 yrs!
Surprise! 12/16/14 BFP, loss #2 12/31/14
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
OP - for me losing my symptoms was a sign, but when I asked about it other people told me not to worry that symptoms coming and going is normal. So I guess there is no exact right answer, in my case though it was a sign. Neither time did I have bleeding first - one m/c was confirmed by my betas not doubling and one by no hb on an u/s.
I would say without a doubt though that both times I *knew* something wasn't right. Maybe it was intuition, I don't know. I think when you've had a loss before you are more sensitive to everything and your fear is heightened, so you were fine to ask about this here.
I hope that everything turns out okay for you. (hugs)
Emjay is never going to let it go if the thread is still up. It's apparently "her way". She'll bash it in and in about how right she is and how bltchy we are.
OP- With my first m/c, I started spotting and found out the LO had passed a week prior. I never had any pregnancy symptoms so I didn't lose any at all. With my second one, I bled for 3 weeks with a growing LO. Then, one day, the blood stopped and I randomly passed tissue. It was only the tissue and no blood. Then the bleeding started back up.
My levels rose perfectly with the 1st m/c and rose slowly with the 2nd even though the LO grew. Like a PP said, you can only really know with a u/s. Also, have them check progesterone. That's what gives you your symptoms. If it's too low, that could be a reason for lack of symptoms. (You can also have excellent progesterone with no symptoms, just to warn you)