Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Reasons not to circumcise your son
This... Don't try to force your opinion down people's throats. Anyone can go to google and find information supporting all different kinds of opinions and beliefs.
BTW- my DH is circumcised and their is no problem in the sex department. That whole part of the article you copied and pasted is ridiculous.
Thank you! This is the most accurate post in this thread!! The benefits and risks are so evenly balanced, that circumcision is not recommended (or pushed) by health care professionals.....
This is one choice I feel strongly that it is truly "to each their own."
Seriously, you have got to be kidding me?!? I just about died laughing when I read this.
honeymoon night? doesnt your siggie say "boyfriend and i are ttc" when did you and your "boyfriend" go on your honeymoon?
WOW.. Just read the siggy after you pointed it out.
OP, How about you take your scare tactics somewhere else. No need to come over here and open up a can of worms.
WOW! Calling someone crazy because they are not going to circ...wtf? If you don't agree with the opinions she has you are free to refute them - as you did. But I would say she is no more "crazy" then you. And I also think that The Bump is the PERFECT place for this discussion. Good Lord.
Erm....reading comprehension skillz? You needz them.
I'm not calling her crazy because of her opinion. I'm calling her crazy BECAUSE SHE'S CRAZY. Read my posts in this thread. There are good arguments either way and it's a personal choice, and I (nor anyone else) has the right to be all high and mighty on a personal subject. She has no actual investment in this issue and she is lecturing women who are ACTUALLY faced with this decision for their babies that are ACTUALLY conceived and coming soon, and that can be stressful for some without quackery like OP is spouting off.
Not to mention, look at her number of posts. $100 says she's an AE anyways, just here to make us all pissy.
I don't think Ready was calling her a crazy because the OP is choosing not to circumcise. I think she was being called a crazy because of the way she decided to push her opinion.
Exactly. Thank you.
I wonder what would happen to little girls if all men convinced themselves that our labia is rather hideous looking...and who needs those silly-looking hoods on our clits?! I mean they serve no more purpose then the foreskin and get torn during labor anyway ... right?
Honestly?? This is the website you used to try and convince us.. If I were a professor and you were a student writing a paper on this issue and I saw your sources.. you would get a big fat F. haha
https://infant-toddler-health.suite101.com/article.cfm/reasons_not_to_circumcise_your_baby"I'll gladly take cold sores over eye herpes" -ElieFin
"Unicorn glitter gives me UTIs." -Leila'sMommy
Most of those ingredients are vitamins and minerals and are synthetic versions of what's already in breastmilk.
Faaar from poison. Just because an ingredient has a long name does not mean it's harmful!!
I was thinking the same thing....
I was wondering why it took so long for someone to pick up on this!
Meh, probably just someone with multiple AEs who got them all confused.
Oh sweet jesus. She's not even KU. OP- go back to the TTC boards and try your trolling there.
Now I'm thinking this is complete MUD to get the board all worked up.
"I'll gladly take cold sores over eye herpes" -ElieFin
"Unicorn glitter gives me UTIs." -Leila'sMommy
Ditto.
~Started TTC 2/09. BFP #1 11/09. EDD 8/7/10. DS born 8/7/10.~
~Surprise BFP #2 5/11 while still BF'ing. Natural M/C @ 7w3d.~
~BFP #3 8/11. EDD 4/24/12. Heavy bleeding episodes from a lost twin. DD born 4/14/12.~
~Started TTC 2/13. BFP #4 3/13. EDD 11/8/13. Hoping for smooth sailing!~
I just love how the siggy says FF=bottled poison.Those 'long words"in the ingredient list are mostly minerals...
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This.
Popping in from 0-3 because we got linked!
My DH isn't circumcised and obviously I did not run screaming from the room the first time I saw it. Frankly, it doesn't look that different from a circumcised penis to me, unless it's flaccid. Just has an extra little bit. Whatever. Our son isn't circumcised and we are happy with that decision! DH has always been clean and has never had an STD or a UTI or any of those other things.
Choosing whether or not to circumcise is a deeply personal choice. Don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not do. Make the decision that is best for your family. To the OP: if that means someone wants to have their baby circumcised then it's none of your business.
Ok, I am having a girl so I'm not thinking about the original topic here.
But I am quite bothered by the whole formula feeding = poison comment.
NOT EVERYONE CAN PHYSICALLY BREASTFEED! I had to have surgery that left me unable to do it, I have NO DUCTS. How dare someone hint that I would be "poisoning" my child because I am not physically able to breastfeed! It's all fine and dandy if you would like to comment on how you want to breastfeed your child...but to call formula poison??? That's just ignorant.
Seriously. Shame on OP. If you were in my shoes and were unable to breastfeed, would you stop TTC because you don't want to "poison" your child? So sad...
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yeah who didn't know the troll would stirr up so much controversay... ( sp? )
::slowly backs out of post::
I just pulled up your bio, your interest=shopping your job=queen. Go back to being a queen and let this conversation die.
I know! It's great!
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This is exactly what I was thinking. It's nobody's business...you do what you want, let me do what I want. Babies have survived a long time despite BF vs. FF, circ vs intact, etc. It's fine if you have your own views, but don't criticize others if they don't agree.
And then you can look to see how OLD that video is!! My DH was able to accompany my son. He was NOT strapped down and had a parent there to comfort him the whole time. AND there was not much need because he barely made a peep during the whole thing! (he did however pee on the pediatrician LOL)
Most of the horror stories and videos out there are horridly outdated and don't reflect how things are today.
Ella is finally here!
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