Visitation schedule

DREWLILY · July 2010

What is an appropriate and fair visitation schedule for an elementary school aged child when both parents live in the same city (about 45 mins apart)? DH has been asked to come up with a parenting plan and I was just curious what some of you have if your kid(s) are in school. Every other weekend doesn't seem fair to either parent or the kid...but it's hard when school is involved.

SWmama · July 2010

We have 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekends, alternating Holidays (Thanksgiving, Spring Break), half of Christmas Break, 30 days in the Summer, and one day during the week during the school year. This is the standard CO in Texas and has been in place since DH and BM spilt when SS was 18 months.

While not completely "fair" it ends up being about a 60/40 split in time.

We live about 45 minutes apart (with traffic) and while we don't live in the same city, we do live in the same county.

mom2one · July 2010

EOW, half of all vacations (including summer)?

Banana44 · July 2010

We live 30 minutes from BM - in the same county but different townships.

We share 50% custody of a 7 yo boy as foloows:

Mon, Tues - BM

Wed, Thurs - BD

every other weekend consists of Friday through school on Monday.

In the summer we switch to week - week switching on Mondays.

My sister lives about 1 hour from BM and they have 3 weekends a month and primary custody all summer. So in the summer, Mom sees kids eow. This is under 50% but a little more time than the normal eow schedule.

NikkiJ19 · July 2010

We have every other weekend during school and every other week during the summer. We also have Wednesday evening from 5:30 - 8:00 but the kids spent and hour of that time in the car and the other hour was a rush to eat dinner and complete homework. It was harder on the kids so we stopped. Luckily they are all in sports/activities so we still see them 1-2 nights a week but it is for gymnastics, baseball, etc rather then rush Wednesdays as the kids started calling it.

pinkfish920 · July 2010

I think if you guys are 45 minutes away you should be able to see her more than eow and split holidays.

What about 1 day during the week? Would you guys be able to get her to school if she stayed a week night at your house? 1 day during the week (Thursday would be good, so that if it is a holiday it can roll into the weekend. ) EOW, Extended time during the summer (at least 50%) and alternate holidays.

For the holidays, some people do one parent has chirstmas and one parent has christmas eve and they rotate that. We do one parent has from the time scchool lets out unitl the 28th and then the other parent gets him from the 28th until school resumes. It is sad we don't get to see SD some Christmas' but this schedule works better so that we have time to go on a vacation if we want.

HTH

DREWLILY · July 2010

pinkfish920:

What about 1 day during the week? Would you guys be able to get her to school if she stayed a week night at your house?

Right now we have every weekend and every other Wed. But we are in the middle of a change of custody and are trying to get the visitation scheduled changed for a variety of reasons. We want to be fair to BM and to SD, but there have been some serious issues that have occured that have prompted the change of custody in the first place. I was just curious what other people had and what was working or not working out for them.

Banana44 · July 2010

DREWLILY:

I was just curious what other people had and what was working or not working out for them.

Since you ask "what is working" our split week 50% schedule is great. Since we always have Wed, Thurs we can have SS in activities like swimming, karate, whatever becasue BM doesn't like weekday activities - but the every other week in the summer is nice because we can select different camps and take little vacations.

We also split Christmas break and Easter break we do every other.

MissSusieQ · July 2010

DREWLILY:
What is an appropriate and fair visitation schedule for an elementary school aged child when both parents live in the same city (about 45 mins apart)? DH has been asked to come up with a parenting plan and I was just curious what some of you have if your kid(s) are in school. Every other weekend doesn't seem fair to either parent or the kid...but it's hard when school is involved.

This is how it is for us but we are about 30 minutes away and I work 10 mins from his school and bm's house. We are in the middle of this ourselves and are asking that we have SS Thursday evening through Monday morning EOW. We would switch off who has his for spring and fall break every year. We would split winter break in half and then summer would be every other week. DH and I figured out it is only about 33% but it is better than what we have now and doesn't take SS completly away from his friends, plus we are so close that friends can come over any time. This schedule also allows us to be more involved with SS's schooling since BM has made it near impossible to do that. We are still waiting to hear from BM in an agreement. If she does not agree they go to mediation if that doesn't work a court date is immidiatly set. Being in CO the judges really like to be as close to 50/50 as possible so they might end up awarding us more time. It really has just been a waiting game for us.

flippy1234 · July 2010

a few years ago BM moved about 45 min away (she had always lived a couple miles away previously)

Kids were with us M-F and with her on the weekends, it sucked for them because they were always missing out on stuff with their friends. I think every other weekend is a better compromise.

LorelaiOctoberBride · July 2010

We orig had EOW and DH also did an activity with one of the kids, so he would see them 2 x during the week in the eves..., but now that that's not happening, we have them EOW and EO Tuesday. Gives us and myself some time to see them for dinner, etc... and hang with them. We're about 15-20 min away, though. Not a prob for him to get them after work. 45 min is tough...

might be an option for you... or whatever EO day you want.

Stephany10 · July 2010

Every other week plus alternating holidays (with labor day and memorial day being the three day weekend., mother's day weekend with mom and father's day weekend with dad. Parent's birthday with that parent and child's b-day split 50/50.

Parent A would drop off at school on Monday morning and then Parent B would pick up from school on Monday afternoon. Exchanges happening on Sunday.

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