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Flame Free Confession Session
At my first OB appointment today I was told I will have a scheduled c-section and will never go into labor. This makes me really happy as I am afraid of birth.
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Re: Flame Free Confession Session
By lilenatalem at 2012-01-28
I have the same feeling about mine. Can you tell me when they schedule you c-section in relation to your due date? 1 week prior? 2 weeks prior? Or do they just monitor to make sure you don't go into labor?
I had extensive uterine surgery (myomectomy) last year so I will be having a scheduled c-section as well. The doctor asked me before the surgery if I had any desperate need to have a natural birth. I told him I'd just like a child. So that was that.
No flames here. I'm sure your doctor told you that because it's necessary and there's nothing wrong with having a little relief. That being said, I have had a similar surgery (with no baby to speak for it..the myomectomy) and the recovery was hellish. They will be cutting into the same scar for my c-section.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
With multiple births it is recommended to go C. Sometimes the 1st gets delivered vaginally and the second one goes breech and an emergency c is done anyway. Some doctors think it is safer to avoid the "double whammy."
With my first, I went into labor at 30 wks, very scary.. I was in labor for 5hrs and the pain wasnt soo bad at first.. About 2 hrs before the emergency c-section, the pain was horrible. I remember being scared to death giving birth out the hole, lol and I still am.. Thankfully, my OB doesnt want to risk anything and I'll be having another, YAY.. I can say, the pain is like no other, kinda a good pain yet bad. I think the only bad thing with the c-section is the staples & recovery time.. My recovery was long, I was determined to be with my child every second of the day while she was in the NICU. The day after i had her, I was discharged from the hospital b/c they took my baby 65 miles away to another hospital and wouldnt transfer me... I'm hoping for a nice and easy recovery after this one come.. I'm just scared its not gonna be as easy..
Sorry didn't realize there was a rule. On the other boards I've been on they do them anytime.
That sucks that your doctor doesn't even want to give you the chance to TRY. My SIL delivered her twins completely naturally. That being said, I'm pretty sure she's crazy, lol.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
ah okay. I can totally understand that!
See for me I am scared to get told I need a c-section. >_< I want to have a normal birth because to me child birth is natural, a c-section is major surgery and scares the crap outta me! I am a big girl so I am really scared in the long run they will make me get one.
By lilenatalem at 2012-01-28
That is awful! I hope your experience is better this time!
AW's are wed
UO is thursday
FFC= friday
I forget if we had anything on Mon and Tues.
I am the EXACT opposite of you! I am so scared of the the vag birth because it is such an unknown and I have a narrow pelvis and DH's family produces gianted headed kids!!!! I've had other surgeries before and none of them were ever half as scary as I thought they would be so I'm not afraid of the c but a vag birth scares the bejesus out of me!
I don't want to try unless there isa guarantee it will all go well. I have plenty of friends who tried and ended up with emergency cs and their stories are awful.
I was able to have vag deliveries with my other two and I'm terrified of needing to have a c/s for ANY reason! Even if I have 2 in there, I want to attempt a vag delivery. I seriously doubt there's more than one, but you never know.
I'm glad you feel relief at needing a c/s-- I'd be pooping myself!
Yes, absolutely. Because nothing ever goes wrong when doctors cut through your skin, fat, muscle and organs and remove two people from you ... and then sew/staple you up.
Look, C/S ... vaginal, it makes no difference to me ... but I think being 'scared' of even trying to do something your body was made for is a little silly.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
I have never heard of a reputable hospital discharging a mother the day after a c-section. Especially when the baby was a preemie.
Tomato...Tomahto. Everyone is different. I think risking one baby flipping and getting tangled while the other one is in the birth canal is a hell of a lot scarier than someone cutting me open.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
True! My friend is a dr and she said the one birth she sat in on was a twin birth. And baby A came out fine and then suddenly baby B flipped, got tangled, HR dropped and they had to do an emergency c. She said it was so scary. That scenario just scares the crap out of me.
My first was a vag birth and it was as perfect as I could have asked for... until a year later when I had an abscess form because of a stich that never healed properly. (I tore naturally and only had 3 stitches.) The abscess turned into an anal fistula (Google it if you want, it's not fun tho!) So 3 surgeries later I'm all healed up and doing great. So now with this next delivery we're planning a c-section and even though I cried when the OB told me I'd need a CS I'm actually ok about it now, esp since my friend had a scheduled one and it was so easy-peasy. No labor, no waiting, just soreness after recovery. I think CS are scary when they're emergency CS. Otherwise I think they sound great if vag birth isn't an easy, natural choice for you.
amen. I have 3 friends who all delivered their twins vaginally. Two of them at home even!
This!!!! And I am so sorry about your complication. That sounds awful.
My doctors have also said the same thing - scheduled CS. I am at peace with this and it sets my mind at ease to a degree. I think it all depends on the experiences you have around you. I have two sets of family members who had twins and had very scary experiences trying to have them vaginally. Both had emergency CS to get Baby B out and one of those Baby B's has severe complications that were caused by problems during the birth of his sister.
I think it's a too each their own decision.
What's crazy is my dad is an identical twin. My uncle (RIP) and my dad were 2 minutes apart. She didn't even know until that day she was carrying two. Sometimes I think technology has made us overly cautious, but I hear more stories sadly like your family's than like my dad.
It's hard to block out the stories - sometimes they cause unnecessary worry
Espically with a worrier like me. I guess I'd rather be overcautious than end up one of the stories. Although I'm well aware of the risks of a CS, DH and I are comfortable with our decision.
Exactly how we feel.
That's logical, be afraid of something that your body is made for and in the majority of situations can handle and be ok with major surgery and 6+weeks of recovery not to mention the possibility of incision infections and ruptured cervix. yeah. that's logical.
Before I was a cardiac nurse I worked in L&D and I can tell you from experience at the hospital where I worked there were more complications from vaginal deliveries than there were from CS deliveries and that included singleton births and multiples.
I know that most people(particularly those outside the medical community) think that surgery is risky and bad and sometimes it can be but honestly surgeons are trained to be three steps ahead of everything...if a mother starts to hemorrhage during a CS the surgeon can immediately clamp the bleed and tranfuse giving the mother a great chance of recovery and future fertility. Whereas if a mother starts hemorrhaging during a vaginal delivery it can be alot harder to stop it and about 95% of the time the mother ends up in surgery to stop the bleeding anyway and that is if they CAN stop it by that point. I have seen women experience HORRIFYING complications during vaginal deliveries...one of the worst was a 29 year old perfectly healthy mother that was active during her pregnancy with no high risk factors or anything and when she came into deliver the baby got stuck due to shoulder dystocia and we tried everything we could to get the baby out including the doctor using the vacumn while I was literally on top of her belly pressing but nothing would work, the doctor couldn't get his hands in the right position to perform a clavicular fracture so we rushed into the OR for an emergency c-section and by the time we were able to get the fetus delivered it was too late and the baby couldn't be revived.
I'm defintely NOT trying to scare anyone, and I am not saying that one option is necessarily "better" than the other but I can tell you from experience that it is alot easier for complications to arise during a vaginal delivery than a CS and because of that, I can totally understand why someone would want a c-section..it is a much more controlled enviroment and particularly if the person is high risk I can see their desire for that even more.
Oh yes, I can definitely tell you're 'not trying to scare anyone'. Also, it's kind of crappy to say, 'I'm a nurse!!! I know what I'm talking about!!!' and then throw around personal percentages of where something 'horrible' happened.
If you got your '95% of time the mother ends up in surgery to stop the bleeding' from some journal of medicine, please reference that and I'll eat my words. Otherwise, please stop throwing around numbers.
Again - I have no problem with c/s -my point is that the 1st tri is REALLY early to be making huge decisions on how you're going to give birth. Do some research, read some books, TALK to your doctor about your options.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
Are you crazy? First of all, YES you are trying to scare people... why else would you tell that story that is obviously a rare case and not the norm. Second of all, 95%? Give me a break.
I don't buy your statement that it is "alot easier for complications to arise during a vaginal delivery than a CS". Birth is a natural event that women have been dealing with naturally for thousands of years.
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either you worked in the worst hospital known man, complete with completely incompetent MDs....or you're a liar. One or the other.
a) This is wrong on so many levels I actually want to scream.
b) You are trying to scare people.
c) You're about as much a labour and delivery nurse as my husband was after he spent a few rounds in L&D trying to keep out of the way and wondering when his rotation would end there.
d) You're absurd ramblings are the reason so many women mistakenly think that sections are safer. When they aren't. In almost all instances, major abdominal surgery is NOT safer than vaginal deliveries. This is proven.
a) I'm pretty damn sure that I stated in the very FIRST sentence that this was MY experience from the hospital where I worked. I did not state that these were national averages or statistics so I am sorry if some of you don't like it but it is a reality that BAD things happen during vaginal births JUST like bad things can happen during CS deliveries. I am also pretty certain I stated that I wasn't saying anything about CS being "better" than a vaginal birth I just merely said I can understand why some women would be scared of a vaginal delivery and the complications that can arise.
b) NO I am not trying to scare anyone...trust me if I was trying to scare you I would..there is alot more things I could tell you that would make you run for the hills...Do you get pissed off at people who tell you to get a mammogram or pap smear because they have seen what CAN happen if you don't? Do you jump on them and tell them "well not everyone gets cancer and dies so how dare you tell people there is a risk of it" NO you don't..the only reason you are jumping on me is because you THINK you know better than I do because our opinions differ.
c) Lanie30- I defintely don't appreciate you saying ANYTHING about my experience as a nurse. I was not simply "on rotation"..I am certified by the American Academy of Pediatrics in Neonatal Resuscitation AND I am a certified Pediatric Advanced Life Support Instructor, meaning I TEACH doctors and nurses advanced life saving techinques so before YOU start YOUR absurd ramblings maybe you should shutup and RE-READ my post that specifically said "I'm not saying that CS is better than a vaginal delivery I am simply saying that I can understand"
GOD all of you need to get over your damn attidude and quit thinking that you know everything. YES you are right, vaginal delivery can be very safe and YES it is natural BUT how many women do you believe died in childbirth BEFORE c-section deliveries became an option? How many children do you think died because they got stuck in the birth canal or because their mothers weren't progressing normally? Before you start putting down modern medicine and shoving your "vaginal is natural and we are designed to do it" down people's throats maybe you should think about the vast number of children and women that LOST THEIR LIVES before there were any other options.
I'm not actually going to quote you because you're rambling and shouting and it takes up too much space.
If you're so 'knowledgeable' on both ends of the spectrum, how about you post REAL statistics on BOTH sides of the fence, instead of walking into a 'vag delivery is skerry!' post and saying something along the lines of, 'OMG you're so right! I'm a nurse and people DIE from giving birth vaginally!!!1!'.
Maybe think before you post, and try a little harder not to scare a bunch of women who are brand new to this and don't know what to expect. Hmmm???
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11
yep. because NO ONE dies in childbirth from c/s complications. Right. Got it.
You're still full of sh!t. Because that's one really, really crappy hospital to have such high numbers of emergency situation in L&D...
Oh and for the poster that made the comment about the hospital and doctor I worked with...well I worked at a military hospital and the doctor I worked with had been an OB for 21 years....the reason the doctor waited to do the c-section and attempted the c-fracture FIRST was because THE MOTHER was begging the doctor to do EVERYTHING he could so she wouldn't have to go in for a c-section.
Maybe if that mother had known that c-sections can be safe and complication free she wouldn't have been so terrified to have the surgery..this mother literally risked her life and the life of her baby because she was scared of what might happen in surgery.
That is why I believe that people should be educated about things like c-sections, because so many people have made it into this horrifying thing and made mothers feel inadequate because they chose a c-section over a vaginal delivery. Mothers should have all the education about all options and then choose the one that is best for them. I wouldn't judge a mother who chose a medicated birth over a natural birth and I don't think it's right to judge someone for choosing a c-section over vaginal delivery either.
OMG you're an idiot.
NO ONE in this thread is saying that c/s are a bad thing. NO ONE is saying they aren't necessary. All we're saying is that deciding to have a c/s in the first tri without ANY knowledge about the risks of BOTH SIDES is lunacy. And you're perpetuating it by throwing up inaccurate and skewed statistics.
The Mouse ~ 06.12.08 | The Froggy ~ 02.23.11