Morbid Importance of Pictures

Arcadia1114 · July 2010

My mom passed three weeks ago. She lived 1,600 miles away and we are doing a memorial luncheon next weekend for everyone in her home state for everyone who wants to share memories for my wonderfully crazy mom. My aunt just called to make arrangements to get together and make a collage of pictures. While I have Mom's engagement picture and my parent's prom picture, I only have four pictures of just my mom and I. One when I was a baby, one at my first communion, one three years ago visiting her, and one on my wedding day. I think of all the times I have refused to let DH take my picture with Liam because my hair was a mess, I didn't have on foundation, etc, and it makes me sad. I just realized I only four pictures of Liam and I. While it is as many as I have of Mom and I in 33 years, it is not enough. Years from now, our LOs won't notice if our clothes are frumpy, our hair is messy, or we have a zit. I think this may have been touched upon a few weeks ago, but it is worth the reminder. Sorry to be morbid but it seemed worth mentioning.

pammi2003 · July 2010

::Hugs::

I am so very sorry for your loss.

StephE623 · July 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. I agree with you on the importance of taking pictures and being in them.

happilyhis · July 2010

Yes

I am so guilty of this.

Danikat15 · July 2010

I am so sorry about your loss. And yes, it's important to step out from behind the camera every now and then. We have a ton of pics of DH and Cadie, but not so many of me.

lindylogana · July 2010

I am so sorry for your loss.

Hot Sauce on a Stick · July 2010

{{hugs}} I'm so sorry for your loss of your mom, but thank you for the reminder.

I did a photo book of 2009 for our family and I am in TWO of the pictures from last year. Unacceptable. I told my DH his New Year's Resolution was to take more pictures so I can be in some.

soko987 · July 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. This post strikes a chord - I am very guilty of picture dodging. I'm going to rethink this stance.

usornothing · July 2010

happilyhis:

I am so guilty of this.

Me too. Sorry for your loss.

Pamela_B · July 2010

Sorry for your loss. You are so right. Pictures are so important. I also have a video camera that i am hoping to use.

nattyncbride · July 2010

Wow. Thanks for this. And I am so sorry for your loss.

CalMum_Momma · July 2010

So sorry for your loss. Thanks for the reminder. I am obsessed with taking pics of DS, but have very few of us together, mostly because I am usually the one behind the camera (I am also mysteriously missing from most family gatherings). I am going to take this to heart and make a point to have more pics of us together, starting as soon as he wakes up from his nap.

v1x3y · July 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm going to make an effort to be in more pictures as well. Thanks for the wake-up call.

Shortycube · July 2010

Danikat15:
I am so sorry about your loss. And yes, it's important to step out from behind the camera every now and then. We have a ton of pics of DH and Cadie, but not so many of me.

this

Arcadia1114 · July 2010

Thanks, Ladies. That was my point. DH sold some of his RC planes and bought me a really good camera for mother's day. I have tons of pictures of he and Liam and very few of me. In DH's defense, every time he tries to take my picture, I refuse for some various reasons such as a zit, messy hair, etc. No more. I have pictures of my feeding Liam in 104 degree heat yesterday. I never would've let those pictures be taken three weeks ago. Thanks for the support. Hugs!

CTri17 · July 2010

so true, I'm, sorry for your loss. Hug Liam extra close.

Marc's Mrs. · July 2010

happilyhis:

I am so guilty of this.

Ditto this - and I am so sorry for your loss!!

scubaspot · July 2010

I am sorry for you loss.

I understand about the pictures. When my mom died I realized that there was only one photo with both of us in it and that was a group shot with a few other family members. There are also only 5 pictures of me from my childhood. We have about a hundred pics of DD.

Your DS is still young so you can remedy the lack of pictures.

KRMac · July 2010

I am so sorry to hear about your mom.

I am always the one taking the pictures in our house - I really need to make sure I am in them more and not worry about how I look in them. Excellent point.

Ivana_Stolichnaya · July 2010

Danikat15:
I am so sorry about your loss. And yes, it's important to step out from behind the camera every now and then. We have a ton of pics of DH and Cadie, but not so many of me.

Same here, I'm always behind the camera.

NeverKnew · July 2010

You're absolutely right. I noticed this when I was trying to compile my belly pics. I was so bad about taking them from second tri on because I never looked perfect. Now I realize it just doesn't matter.

:::hugs::

shindylahoe · July 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mommy passed away 4 months ago. You are so right about the pictures . Every single one is a treasure even if we are frumpy!

CheriLooWho · July 2010

I hate getting my picture taken. I don't think I'll mind so much anymore.

I'm very sorry for your loss. ::HUGS::

NiniJ55 · July 2010

I am so sorry for you loss - I just can't imagine.

I have been doing the same thing and I am happy for the reminder. I think I may have 2-3 pictures of Tristan and I together.

lindsleek · July 2010

lhoweth · July 2010

I am so sorry you are going through this. Lots of prayer your way.

I was just speaking about this with a patient and we were agreeing to just take as many pictures with him as possible!

Headed2Hoboken · July 2010

So sorry for the loss of your mother. This is a very thought provoking post. I don't feel I'm very photogenic, so I know I shy away from pictures. And now that i'm putting thought into this, I realize I don't have many pictures with DD. That has to change! When DH gets home tonight, I'm going to ask him to take some pictures of DD and I playing.

mickey1330 · July 2010

I know what you mean- my grandmother passed away 6 weeks after DS2 was born, she only got to see him once. I am so thankful that I brought my camera with me that day, or I'd have no pics of them together. My brother is also glad I thought to take pics of her with his girls too.

Those pics mean the world to me.

fromymom · July 2010

It's not morbid and you are completely right. I have tears running down my cheeks from reading this. I am so sorry for your loss. I know a lot of times I don't want my picture taken because I feel like I still look huge but you are right, what does it matter?

Fwendly · July 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for such an important reminder.

Hip2Bsquare · July 2010

I agree, that should be a reminder to to try harder to be picture worthy...then we will take more pics with our kids and in general feel better with ourselves. There have been times I have felt so gross to answer the door let alone go anywhere with the husband.

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