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Wailing in crib... don't want to CIO... help!

TarheelsInNJTarheelsInNJ member
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DS has just started wailing inconsolably when we put him in the crib. I'm wondering if it's separation anxiety. Though he's never really STTN, he's rarely had a problem actually going to sleep at night. Typically I'll put him in the crib sleepy but awake, and he'll fall asleep on his own (sometimes I'll have to go back in and get him once or twice - he tends to nurse "in courses!")

But lately, the minute he hits the sheets he starts SCREAMING. He pulls himself up to a standing position and just cries and cries. We try to lay him back down and he cries harder. This happens when he wakes up in the middle of the night to eat too.

I really don't want to CIO- not trying to start a debate, I'm just not comfortable with it - but I'm not sure what to do.

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Re: Wailing in crib... don't want to CIO... help!

  • CassRWCassRW member
    We've been going through the same thing...interested to see what is said!  He's never been like this either.  I let him cry for a while for two nights, but I don't think I can do CIO...and he didn't go to sleep either.
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  • laruasuelaruasue

    We're starting to come out of this. I think it's the novelty of being able to stand in the crib, and that disrupts the routine. I actually resorted back to rocking to sleep- just until his eyes got heavy, then I laid him down and patted his back til he fell asleep. This has been going on for about a month, and he's just starting to put himself to sleep on his own again.

    This has been a very frustrating phase!! We had it so good there for a while! I'd lay him down and he'd go to sleep.... easy peasy... not any more!

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  • amramr
    We are in the same situation.  DS just started to become very attahced to me.  If I am in the room he wants me to hold him all the time.  When I put him to sleep awake but drowsy he last for 15-20 minutes and then starts wailing in his crib.  I wait a few minutes to go comfort him, pick him up and he usually settles down within minutes.  Rinse and repeat.  No advice but I am definitely going to watch this post!
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  • CTJourneyCTJourney
    It's got to be a phase that they go through around this age b/c my DS has been doing the same thing for over a week.  Once I pick him up he will cuddle with me (and he's never been one to cuddle), and it takes 1-2 hours to get him back down into his crib.  Unfortunately I do not have any advice for you because, but hopefully it is a stage that they pass through soon! 
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  • mommabluejmommabluej

    I went through something similiar with DS, although I did a modified CIO that helped.  I also introduced a stuffed animal to the crib for him to snuggle.  It is a whale shaped pillow I find safe for him to have.

    I also spent time in his room with him in the crib with toys playing while I folded laundry.  This was during the day and not nap time.  I felt he should have time to like his crib and see it as a comfortable, happy, space instead of a place of terror.  I played music and once he got in to play and did not notice me I would leave the room and come back every few minutes.  This helped, but the modified CIO really did the trick. GL

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  • mari_goldmari_gold
    When this happened to us, it turned out to be a double ear infection.

    We've had to do Ferber, but the kind of crying he was doing was not the kind he does when he doesn't want to go to sleep on his own. I could tell something was wrong.
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  • TarheelsInNJTarheelsInNJ member

    imagemari_gold:
    When this happened to us, it turned out to be a double ear infection.

    We've had to do Ferber, but the kind of crying he was doing was not the kind he does when he doesn't want to go to sleep on his own. I could tell something was wrong.

    Hmm, that is interesting. What made you finally realize it was an infection? Did he have any other symptoms?

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    imageTarheelsInNJ:

    imagemari_gold:
    When this happened to us, it turned out to be a double ear infection.

    We've had to do Ferber, but the kind of crying he was doing was not the kind he does when he doesn't want to go to sleep on his own. I could tell something was wrong.

    Hmm, that is interesting. What made you finally realize it was an infection? Did he have any other symptoms?

    Just the way he was crying -- it was instant, top-of-the-lungs, full-blown hysterical crying. You could just tell he wasn't going to be able to calm himself down. On top of that, he started waking up more often at night. I would nurse him back to sleep as usual, but it took longer and he'd still wake up and scream when I put him in the crib.

    He wasn't tugging at his ears or running a fever or acting any differently while he was awake, which is somewhat surprising. An antibiotic took care of the infection quickly and he went back to sleeping/falling asleep much better.

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