I am going to have to talk to my mom about smoking and the baby. I don't want her to smoke around the baby to begin with, but now I am hearing a lot about 3rd hand smoke. (https://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/35318118/ns/health-addictions/) I love my mom very much, and I don't want to see her with lung cancer or anything, and I believe that it is time for her to quit. I just don't know what to say to her. My husband thought of making a book for her, and having everyone (ex: my two sisters, my aunts/uncles grandparents ect) write why they would like for her to quit smoking and that they love her too much to see her doing this to her body. The we could give it to her.
I was just wondering if anyone else had any experience with this sort of situation.
Re: How to Ask My Mom to Quit Smoking
You are probably much closer to your mom than my DH is with his mom (my MIL). But when we announced to his family that I was pregnant with K, DH told his mom that she had to quit otherwise she would not be able to see the baby. A little harsh (but that is their relationship), but it worked. K was a good reason for her to quit.
I agree with the PP, if she isn't willing to quit/cut back/whatever, set up ground rules and stick with them.
I'm actually preparing to have a similar conversation with my mom. She's been smoking for 40+ years, has tried to quit a few times (even under doctor supervision), but she doesn't really want to quit so none of her half-hearted attempts have worked. She has been diagnosed with COPD after years of chronic bronchitis, and her doctor has told her she is very close to an emphysema diagnosis.
We have tried to convince her several times to quit - for herself, for me and my sister, for her husband, for the step-grandchildren she already has. The closest she got to quitting (she actually quit for 2 days) was motivated by my step-brother and his wife having a child, and they talked with her about it. It went well initially, but by day 3 my step-dad busted her smoking in the garage. They decided it was enough that she not smoke in the baby's presence. That's not enough for me, so my conversation with her will be different.
If your mom has never tried to quit, be prepared for a few failures. It is very difficult and it is an addiction, so a strong, encouraging support network is critical. Long-time smokers need to know that others have quit after smoking a long time, too, so if you know someone who has, that might be helpful. And quitting under doctor supervision can help put the source of the pressure elsewhere - if a doctor is helping by being her 'enforcer,' he/she can be the 'bad guy' instead of you
I wish you and your mom success!