This is a question aimed at the single mamas out there who are parenting without the child's father ...
If you gave your child his/her father's last name, why?
I'm asking this question because of this: I have an acquaintence who has a 3 month old daughter. The child's father is a jerk, never treated her right, ... straight up bad news. She got pregnant, he begame an even bigger jerk, she kicked him to the curb. She has nothing good to say of him, he's not at all in the child's life -- wasn't there for the pregnancy, shockingly WAS invited to the birth (and even more shockingly he attended), but hasn't seen the baby since she was in her first week or two of life. He's got nothing to offer the child and thus isn't even giving child support. I don't understand why this girl gave her daughter this guy's last name.
I see this same situation all the time with the teen moms I work with too. I don't think I'd want to give my child the last name of some jerk just because he donated sperm and treated me like crap. BUT, I've never been in the situation before so I don't know the mindset, I don't know the "why?" of it. My thought process leads me to think, "hey, if I'm the one doing the work and I'm the one who is here... the child should have MY name."
Re: baby's last name -- I'm curious
I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
I have two single mama friends that gave their kids their dad's last name. Both dads were huge deadbeats and have not been in the picture. I've asked both my friends and at the time they thought it was the right thing to do. They both believed things would work out and they would be a family.. Well 5 years later both my friends are at the courthouse changing their kids last names before they go into school.