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I feel sorry for my own LO

mandeline21mandeline21
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So, last night was DD's first night in the crib.  She's been taking naps in there for a while, but I put it off because I wasn't ready.  We had the video monitor all set up, I woke up several times through out the night to see her sleeping peacefully.

This morning, my FIL, asks how she did.  I said "Great!  She slept for 7 hours!"  He tells me that, no, she woke up about 1 am screaming her little head off.  He waited for me to get up with her, and when I didn't, he went in to comfort her.  I had no idea!  My poor baby was put in her crib for the first night, and when she starts screaming, Mommy didn't come to save her. 

I feel like a horrible mother, and all I can think about is "What if my FIL hadn't been staying with us?  How long would she have screamed for before it actually woke me up?" 

Well, I'm traumatized and DD is sleeping in our room tonight.

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  • lindsaynjasonlindsaynjason

    I can understand completely.  DD is going in her crib tonight for the first time (unless DH caves for a 4th straight night and makes another excuse).  I'm so afraid to have her in another room and that I won't hear the monitor.

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  • Melly MelMelly Mel member

    Don't be so hard on yourself. Try again. This time turn the monitor sound up higher so you will hear if she cries.

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  • 1momma1momma member
    This happened to me once, with the volume all the way up. His crib got moved into our room the next day. When I feel comfortable enough, it'll go back in his room. I felt so bad the next day, I know what its like. But there was someone there to comfort her.  Feel better momma
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  • ckstokesckstokes
    remember, he's a boy and "screaming her head off" could have been a mild cry that she could have soothed herself through (and should be able to do at her age).  DD went to her crib (from the PNP in our room) at 4 weeks... with the video monitor, I turn it up loud enough to hear her cry, but not loud enough to hear every breath and when I hear her, I turn on the screen... if she's just twisting about, after her thumb, I let her be.... if she picks up truly screaming her head off, I go.  But this is rare and she's slept at least 10 hours a night for >2 weeks.  GL. Don't be traumatized and DON"T BACK DOWN!! She needs to be in her own space. 
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  • mandeline21mandeline21
    Thanks, ladies.  I know that it happens sometimes, and it's probably the result of being sleep deprived for almost 4 months, but it just hurts my heart knowing that my baby girl was crying for me, and I slept right through it.
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  • Kim B.Kim B.
    DD has been in her own room since she was 2 months old. When she woke up at night, I turned the sound down on the monitor so that it didn't wake up my DH. Well, one night, in my sleep deprived state, I forgot to turn the sound back up. I woke up much later and realized what I had done, turned it back up to hear her sleeping. But I went to check on her just in case and she was facing a completely different way than what she was when I put her down last and had tear stains on her face. Yep, she cried herself to sleep at about 2 1/2 months...I felt HORRIBLE and since then, don't turn the sound down at night. I don't care if I wake up my DH...there's no way I'm chancing letting my baby scream herself to sleep again :( But she's still in her own room...We all make mistakes and as long as we learn from them (like turning the sound WAY up on the monitor :P), we're still very good mommies :)
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