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Do you worry about TTC again?

eganknegankn
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I haven't been on here much lately but wanted your ladies' opinions...

Do you worry about TTC again since we've all had m/c issues in the past?

DH would love to start TTC now but I won't have a job next year and don't want to TTC until I have another more stable job but then again I don't want to wait too long since I'm 30 and had 2 m/c's before my DD was born....

(Sorry if this brings up any bad thoughts for people...)

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Re: Do you worry about TTC again?

  • mrsmiller06mrsmiller06
    Yes I think about it very often. It took us nearly 3yrs to get our dd- so we would welcome anothet anytime, and don't use any bc. I am bf'ing though and still haven't gotten my 1st pp af.
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  • BeachBride72106BeachBride72106

    Good to "see" you.  Lucy is a doll.

    I think about it often.  With my I history question if we should try again at all, but then worry that emotionally I will think we lost even more when we lost Wyatt if we don't get to raise two kids.  My DH won't even discuss it for another year so I guess we will see.

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  • erinkate23erinkate23
    Yep.  I definitely worry.  So much that I'm not sure I want to do it again... see my post above, lol!
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  • xnbridexnbride member

     I have had the fortune of experiencing both loss and success so I know that the pain is not horrible enough to deter me from trying for and wanting more children.

    But I was almost at the point of stopping. Had the pregnancy for DS2 not ended well, then I would have been done and content with that decision. I am so glad that it ended well though.

     

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  • lkstorlkstor
    Yes. The idea of another loss is daunting... Although for me the pain of the loss is nothing compared to the joy of DS. For me I worry about a second ectopic... After 2 ectopic pregnancies most OBs will recommend IVF because risk of recurrence is so high... We would not opt for IVF at this point since we have DS. But to commit to TTC certainly makes me worry about all the "what ifs".
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  • GTBrideKCGTBrideKC
    I do worry.  We went through 2 losses and difficulty getting pregnant.  It took almost 2 years to get pregnant with DD.  I'm afraid we'll have to go through that rollarcoaster again.  But, I think I'll understand the losses more.  They won't be easier, but I think I'll come to terms with them more quickly if that makes sense.  Seeing the miracle that is DD, I understand more how perfectly the stars have to align to create such perfection....
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  • SPC2007SPC2007

    i think about it....but i definitely want DD to have a sibling so I will definitely go for it.  I may start earlier TTC than if I had not experienced my loss but that is just because I would like to have my kiddos close in age (under 3 years apart)

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