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When to get pregant
Hi,
I am new to the boards. My fiance and I are getting married OCT 9th but due to his age we are thinking about getting pregant soon after the wedding. He is 37 and I am 28. How long after the wedding did people wait to start having kids? We have lived together for 3 years now, we have a beautiful house on 2 arces and plenty of room for children.
Let me know what you think. Thanks
Lyn
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Re: When to get pregant
Hi and welcome to the boards!
You know, every couple's different in how long they wait to TTC. Some people try even before the wedding to get a head start, some people have honeymoon babies, and some wait months or years after the wedding. No matter what, though, you won't be the only one in your situation whichever time-frame you choose.
A lot of people wait until they reach certian goals, too. For instance, get a promotion, switch careers, finish school, have more money in savings, get a house, etc.
You just have to analyze how having a child will change you life. Ask yourself, will one of us stay home with the child? Are we in the right place financially? Will this decision affect my or my DH's career? I'm sure there are lots more others can chime in on.
We waited 6 months to start TTC.
It's up to you. If you want to try right away, and you think you're ready, go for it.
Every couple must make their own decision; there is no right formula.
My husband and I were together a year and a half before our wedding. We waited four-years after our wedding to start trying. We bought "the" house, renovated it, made sure we were financially viable and that I could stay home full time with our children, and happily began trying, expecting we could pregnant easily. Years later, we're still childless and still struggling with infertility. I no longer tell people to wait for the "right" time. There is never a truly right time, even when you've followed all the advice and thought you were setting yourself up for a perfect future.
I can't speak for all women or couples, but I strongly regret, in light of our infertility, that we waited. You just never know how long it might take to conceive.
Hubby and I dated for 3.5 years before getting married. We didn't live together beforehand, and we decided that we wouldn't try to get pregnant but also wouldn't act to prevent it.
Well, the wedding was May 1
So we waited two weeks!
BFP #2 12/20/11 | EDD 8/24/12 | Natural M/C 12/22/11
BFP #3 5/13/12 (Mother's Day!) | EDD 1/23/13 | Natural M/C 6/9/12 (blighted ovum discovered 6/7/12 at 7w1d)
"And to think when their little eyes opened, the first thing they saw was the face of Jesus."
My Ovulation Chart | My Baby Name List
I would stop taking BCP/remove IUD a few months before you decide to start TTC to give your body a chance to regulate from the hormones.
Good luck.
Hi Lyn, we're doing the same.
Not cuz of his age really (he is 35 and I'm 28), just because it feels like the right time for us!
We got married in April, and were originally going to wait "a year or two" because this is what we heard was common and a good thing to do. However, a couple months after the wedding, and we realized that we really didn't want to wait anymore! We have been together for 4.5 years, living together for 3 years. From all angles, there just didn't seem to be any reason that made us want to wait...we have had the baby bug for a year already, but we waited because I wanted to fit into my wedding dress lol.
So yeah here we are...2 more days until we can take the first pregnancy test.