(Get your mind out of the gutter)
Long story short: We had a friend of mine that I've known since we were 15 years old. She needed a place to stay, and for the first while was a really good room mate.
Then she hooked up with this dickbag of a boyfriend and her life went down the toilet in a big hurry. She got fired from a really good job, which was also paying for a bunch of university courses. She got a payout of $10,000 when she was fired and squandered ALL of it in the matter of a month and a half or so (The majority was spent on this winner of a boyfriend). To the point where she couldn't pay for her "rent" which was $200/month
She ended up thinking the grass was greener, so signed a lease for a friend of hers, who ended up moving out on her with no notice. She's now stuck with a lease on a shitty basement suite @ $900/month.
She called me on Sunday morning - she totalled her car while driving drunk. She lost her job because she had an outstanding warrant because she couldnt afford to pay a minor ticket, and ended up spending 2 nights in jail. She's lost her license for at least 6 months, and has court next month. She's being evicted from her house at the end of the month.
Last night, I get a phone call, asking if she can move back in with us, because she wants to get her life on track.
I'm kind of against the idea, and BF is against the idea. We both figure it's too much of a liability to have her living with us. God knows what she'll do next.
I still, however, feel bad telling her this. I haven't yet, because I'm a big fricking chicken sh!t. I always end up helping people, but there comes a point where enough is enough.
Ok, that ended up being much longer than I thought it would. If you made it through my rambling - congrats!
Re: Ugh, I hate being put in this position
Do...not...let...her...move...in...
Help her get her the help she so clearly needs, but don't let her invade your space again.
Yeah, it'll be a definite no when I talk to her. I'm just a fricking bleeding heart and hate seeing people in bad situations.
I just hate that I've tried to help her SO many times, and I always get slapped in the face for it.
This! You are not responsible for fixing her mistakes. That's her job. You are going through enough of your own stuff and should not have to take on hers. (((hugs)))
This! I'm so sorry you're in that position. Its hard when you just want to help someone who can't help themself.
Sweetie DO NOT DO IT!!!!!! I can not scream that loud enough!!!
I know u feel bad for her and want to give a a chance... but u have your own life... and really adding her in the picture will just make it worse!!! Please dont do it!!
I learned the hard way this one too...DON'T LET HER IN!!! Once she's in she'll NEVER EVER LEAVE!! Our 4 week stayer stayed for 4 MONTHS!! DON'T DO IT!! JUST SAY NO!!
You won't be helping her you'll just end up being a crutch. She needs to learn how to help herself. You are being a better friend by saying no and allowing her to pick herself up!!
Do NOT, under ANY circumstances, allow this person to move in with you.
NONE. No way. Uh uh.
This. It's better to have to feel bad saying no now, than having to kick her out after she's done something else stupid and insane while in your home.
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Don't do it. It sounds like a bad idea.
Can you help her find a place of her own maybe with a rommie or something?
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