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DH bought a truck this past winter and now basically he cannot tell anyone no when they ask for help moving stuff.  We have some friends that is multiple times  a week they need to move things, or buy things form home depot etc etc etc.  And i'm getting VERY frustrated.  With having these contractions all the time I pretty much work and then come home and lay down.  Our house is a disgusting mess and i can't get him to help out around here and get stuff done (cause he's always either at work or helping OTHER people!)  besides the fact that i'm getting lonely cuase the nights he's not working late he's helping move ....and then tomorrow morning before he goes to work he's helping out some more!!!!! GRRRRRR why wont he grow some balls and tell people he's too busy around here helping his pregnant wife!

(ok vent over)
1 chemical and 1 loss at 9 weeks prior to DS
IVF #1 1/10-transfered 2 blasts- DS born 10/2010

Trying for # 2 since 2012.  2 failed FETS 1 failed IUI.
IUI#2 4/14/14-- BFP !!!!! Beta #1 14dpiui= 45 Beta #2 16dpiui= 80  Beta #3 18dpiui= 88 (chemical pregnancy)
March 2015- Chemical pg

1/25/16- BFP  Beta1 12dpo = 17, Beta 2 14 dpo = 28.. resulted in one beautiful boy born 9/21/16 :)

Now I'm a stay at home loving life and pursuing my love of photography!!!
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  • Addicted2thenotAddicted2thenot member
    You should get him a just say No bumper sticker as a reminder. 
    It is nice that he helps his friends but not if it means he is gone during alll of his free time. 
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  • HElizabethDUHElizabethDU
    After I married DH, I made him sell the truck for this very reason.  We then got a family SUV in return. No one asks us to move anymore.  I am sure he loves his truck, but gosh helping people move sucks!!
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  • itsmyangelitsmyangel member

    yeah now it just casue a fight cause he says they  are friends and that means you help each other.....but i mean seriously?!  3 nights a week or so? and if he's not working they are borrowing the truck?  and the few thigns we've asked for help for dh doubles back and says he can do himself or they cancel because of something or anohter....

    i mean..i've been trying to get him to run the vacuum upstairs for 2 FREAKING WEEKS...and then i'll mop....and the dining table has been moved to the side of the room for almost a week as well and stuff around here isn't getting done cause all his free time is helping friends...

    i know this sounds bad but im just getting frustrated about stuff not geting done here

    1 chemical and 1 loss at 9 weeks prior to DS
    IVF #1 1/10-transfered 2 blasts- DS born 10/2010

    Trying for # 2 since 2012.  2 failed FETS 1 failed IUI.
    IUI#2 4/14/14-- BFP !!!!! Beta #1 14dpiui= 45 Beta #2 16dpiui= 80  Beta #3 18dpiui= 88 (chemical pregnancy)
    March 2015- Chemical pg

    1/25/16- BFP  Beta1 12dpo = 17, Beta 2 14 dpo = 28.. resulted in one beautiful boy born 9/21/16 :)

    Now I'm a stay at home loving life and pursuing my love of photography!!!
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  • ShellShockedMamaShellShockedMama member

    he lets other people drive HIS truck?

    Has he never watched an episode of Judge Judy? Um, that's NOT ok. You need to have a sit down talk with him, what's he think he's going to do when the baby is here? Be away three nights a week? I don't think so. 

    Talk to him when you're both calm, a night perhaps when he's not out helping friends. Tell him how you feel without "blame" like "When you leave I feel 'x'" this way it's not him doing something TO you it's how his actions make you feel. 

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  • vlewis515vlewis515 member
    imageitsmyangel:

    yeah now it just casue a fight cause he says they  are friends and that means you help each other.....but i mean seriously?!  3 nights a week or so? and if he's not working they are borrowing the truck?  and the few thigns we've asked for help for dh doubles back and says he can do himself or they cancel because of something or anohter....

    i mean..i've been trying to get him to run the vacuum upstairs for 2 FREAKING WEEKS...and then i'll mop....and the dining table has been moved to the side of the room for almost a week as well and stuff around here isn't getting done cause all his free time is helping friends...

    i know this sounds bad but im just getting frustrated about stuff not geting done here

    Not at the expense of your wife's sanity and it's ok to say no here and there!

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