Those of you who had "whoopsie babies"

redhotchili83 · June 2010

I was reading last night on TB and saw people talking about saving their positive pregnancy tests. I started feeling guilty that my first reaction to a BFP was NOT positive.... I sat on the stairs and cried while DH got a calculator and told me how we could NOT afford this..... There were not tears of joy in our house.... more fear.

Kai is TOTALLY worth it and had I known how easy this was, I probably wouldnt have reacted the same (I was also superficially afraid of losing the body I worked hard to get and would become "sweatpants lady" - which I havent). I still feel bad tho about not having the sweet, happy, tears of joy, hugging DH reaction.

Anyone else feel the same?

heather121709 · June 2010

I totally feel the same way, ironically I found my positive preg tests yesterday. It was weird to look at them and remember the feelings I had when I saw the positive lines, and how bad I felt that I wasnt happy. Of course now I know he is one of the best things that ever happened to us, I feel awful for not being so excited like I should have.

coastiewifey88 · June 2010

RIGHT THERE WITH YOU! (I'm coming over a little bit early, my DD will be 6 mons on the 30th)

I remember being super scared, nervous, and I had the holy crap what did we just get ourselves into feeling! Not only that, but I'm pretty young too. I'm 21. But it was by far the best thing that has ever happened to us, and I thank god every day that he blessed us with such a precious little miracle!

angie05161 · June 2010

We didn't "plan" DS, but we didn't adequately prevent him either. Our positive pregnancy test wasn't a happy one, more freaked out. I don't feel bad about it though b/c it was a risk we were taking. DH on the other hand was totally freaked and wouldn't even talk about it for 2 days after I took the test. We knew we were going to have kids someday, we just didn't know when. Looking back, we wouldn't change a thing.

Lindsey7521 · June 2010

Oh you're definitlely not alone in that! B was not planned. And I cried when I found out I was pregnant. Infact I probably cried twice a week for the whole 9 months. I felt so unready and would have random freak outs where I didnt know what the heck I was going to do! But, now that she's here, its like she was always meant to me ours

) I could not imagine a life with out her.

sgrl · June 2010

LOL - I was one of the test-savers.

Honestly, my baby was very much planned, but I didn't keep those tests for the happy memories. I had had a miscarriage, discovered at my 11-week appointment (baby stopped growing at 7.5 weeks). I had a D&C and then ended up getting pregnant again right away, before my first period following the D&C. I took a bunch of tests because I was terrified that I was losing the pregnancy (I bled off and on for 16 weeks). I didn't throw them away because I had this irrational fear that something would happen to the baby if I threw away the pregnancy tests that proved she was there! So I didn't exactly have super-positive feelings when I looked at them (when I was pregnant, anyway - now (well, before I threw them out) they don't make me feel bad or anything).

I'm sorry you guys had scary BFP experiences - but glad it's turned out so well!

pallorina · June 2010

Both of my babies were surprises. I kept the test from Eli and actually bought the same one for J. J was a 3-test baby because I just couldn't believe it. DH was overjoyed and I was less than happy for the first few weeks because it wasn't the "right" time, blah blah blah. Even then though, when he was so tiny, I loved him. I love now seeing his sweet face in the morning, and I love how connected we are to each other.

OhioBobcat · June 2010

I didn't keep mine and DH's immediate reaction was 'FVCK!'

Wasn't joyus to the IL's at first either whose immediate reactions were to tell us what bad timing it was.

Looking back, I'm so happy it happened when it did. Plus, when is anyone ever really ready?

ashleyc55 · June 2010

My son was a happy accident...we weren't planning to have a baby when I got pregnant, so it took a few weeks for the news and excitement to set in. My MIL cried when she found out, but not tears of joy, she was scared for us...what a drama queen.

I agree with PP, when are you ever really ready? Though this was unplanned, I wouldn't have it any other way now. I am so thankful everyday to have him in our lives.

blueyez09 · June 2010

angie05161:
We didn't "plan" DS, but we didn't adequately prevent him either. Our positive pregnancy test wasn't a happy one, more freaked out. I don't feel bad about it though b/c it was a risk we were taking. DH on the other hand was totally freaked and wouldn't even talk about it for 2 days after I took the test. We knew we were going to have kids someday, we just didn't know when. Looking back, we wouldn't change a thing.

Pretty much this...and oh I LOVE your siggy pic!!!!!!!!!!

Amber68W · June 2010

DS wasn't planned, but I knew I was pregnant right away. I took 3 home pg test's and a blood test that all came back negative. I waited a week and got a BFP, and we were thrilled. We had some time to warm up to the idea, since I was already convinced I was pregnant and the first few tests were wrong. We definitely wouldn't change a thing.

mrs_sherod · June 2010

LO was planned, but I didn't know it would happen so fast. I was not happy at first, but by the end of the week, I was super excited. DH started dancing when he saw the test...wtf dude...chill out!

Nicole731 · June 2010

Absolutely. There were lots of tears when we found out. And talks about what we were going to "do" and considering our "options." I feel horrible about it because I can't imagine my life without DD.