Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: FYI to all posters - please read
look at the birds | bless this food
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I'm with t.bird--LOST!
That is so not true, and you are the lame one.
If you don't like what different people are posting ~ then IGNORE IT ~ don't be IGNOR ANT.
Don't you have mommying to do? Am I your new toss about to make you feel good?
Savannah
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"Someday we will look at our babies and know it will be worth it. If it was easy, we would not have had our babies, the babies we were meant to have." From Amy052006
Yes, I posted a link to another post calling her out and got this in response:
CBL - or Cyble -p lease MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS. If you ever went through ANY OF THIS you would have a heart and stop fcking with other peoples lives. The multiple posts are done PURPOSELY to get SOMEONE to give SOME information ~
..would you jump off a bridge without knoiwing what's underneath you?
LEAVE ME ALONE AND MINDF YOUR OWN BUSINESS
THESE BOARDS ARE FOR INFORMATION GATHERING PURPOSES/personal support. If you have nothing to offer - f**k off
Yep, that's SOO me - I've hung around this board since it's inception just to fark with people's lives
gunk/junk whatever your name is: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/3745550.aspx
meet eco..: https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/3684103.aspx
Ok - long story short. There was a poster on my local board that totally HARRASSED me and others. That poster was banned from the nest.
All of a sudden, 3 days later 2 other posters pop up on the nest with VERY similar posting styles and very similar "stories"
I do not know 100% certain if the 1st poster is the same as the second and third. But it seems kinda weird.
Yesterday there was a post on my local board and also on here. But the post on here was the exact same post but 2 different posters. She later admitted that she was both ecopledge and ghjunkie. Now, she is switching back and forth between the two and even answering the same post as two different posters.
Since the 2nd and 3rd poster (same person) has not out-right posted anything mean on this board - you can make your own opinion on why she uses two different screen names and switches them in a matter of minutes.
i just wanted to put the info out there
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Go away slowly and play with Cyble on the sidelines, perhaps the two of you have something in common besides harassing others wanting to join a group of women for information gathering/exchanging.
Stop harassing me ~ I will be reporting this string to the Nest if they do AYTHING about anything, hopefully you will be made to stop.
My answer to this will be a quote from one of your own replies "It is an INFORMATION BOARD. I am SHARING with others in the TTC mode"
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I just think her responses show that she's a troll. If I was acussed of being a troll, I'd maybe explain, provide some background on my situation etc. She's just ripped into people.
I also think it's weird that she's just popped up here in the last couple of days and is now posting so regularly. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but people usually don't go from first post to posting all the time within a day or two.
I agree with you, Amy - everyone can do what they wish, but should be aware that they are using their time and heartbreaking experience to respond to someone who is most likely posting just for kicks.
In any case, I'll make like the Simpsons and "just don't look". And just in case ignoring her doesn't make her move on, I'll block her so I don't have to deal with her.
Go ahead, please report this post. And it is not harrassment.
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Severe MFI - on to IVF w/ ICSI
IVF#1-2: BFN
IVF#3: BFP! - 1/24: ET - 5d - 2 blasts - 2/02: Beta #1: 16.2 ...... 2/04: Beta #2: 35 ...... 2/09: Beta #3: 401.5 - I'm pregnant! - 2/13: u/s #1 - baby boy, due 10/12, born 10/16! ...... 8 lbs 0 oz, 22 inches!
I am on here and no matrer if a Lucy - Amy - Terri - Linda - or whoever else happens to write in the same manner, or has the same things going on or WHATEVER does not give you the right to start a ludicrous fight for the only benefit of starting stuff on the boards.
And for me to even listen to you is just giving you BOTH ammunistion to continue the thread.
Have fun ~ shouldn't you both be working instead of wasting time on here? I don't have to work, but I will be tending to my garden to get you both out of my mind momentarily.
Isn't it funny how a web can be strung?
I'll just watch the rest of you on the side lines. Have fun....don't get caught up in it.
OK - it wasn't deleted - here's the link:
https://community.thenestbaby.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/3684762.aspx
This is the link I was referring to where she posts as eco and replies to her own post, as herself, as gh.
And just to clarify, I could care less that she has 2 signons. Just don't lie about it if you're not going to be careful.
My first haircut!
Severe MFI - on to IVF w/ ICSI
IVF#1-2: BFN
IVF#3: BFP! - 1/24: ET - 5d - 2 blasts - 2/02: Beta #1: 16.2 ...... 2/04: Beta #2: 35 ...... 2/09: Beta #3: 401.5 - I'm pregnant! - 2/13: u/s #1 - baby boy, due 10/12, born 10/16! ...... 8 lbs 0 oz, 22 inches!
Says alot about their persona. It's really an insult for us here to gather information instead of tearing others down.
And for those with a brain ~ and not in it to tear others down ~ I am a real IVF'r TTC ~ and you other mindless twits can just blow away with the wind.
Perhaps you can find an abusive troll site to subscribe to?
Really? See my post above. And don't worry about deleting it now b/c I have it saved off as well.
My first haircut!
Severe MFI - on to IVF w/ ICSI
IVF#1-2: BFN
IVF#3: BFP! - 1/24: ET - 5d - 2 blasts - 2/02: Beta #1: 16.2 ...... 2/04: Beta #2: 35 ...... 2/09: Beta #3: 401.5 - I'm pregnant! - 2/13: u/s #1 - baby boy, due 10/12, born 10/16! ...... 8 lbs 0 oz, 22 inches!
Oh dear god...It does look like it's the same poster, but is it wrong if I just don't care? I never even noticed the post(s) by her...if they are posting under 2 names, clearly just too much time on their hands (as evidenced by the repeated replies here).
Oh well, we haven't had drama in a couple weeks; this will do.
Um, she claims that is not not the same poster. Um, yeah - OK. Here is a little screen print from yesterday - in case the post get deleted "on accident"
She even said that the dup posts were done on purpose. See for yourself:
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Get a F'n life for GOD's sake. You're just rediculous ~ the lot of you playing with this sh*t.
Well said!
How in the world would I even be able to have two different names on the board when they take your phone#, address, etc and send confirmation emails?
And, I am not on here everyday, just some days off ~ have a real life. I was on this morning, waiting for my daughter to arise so we can get the day started, and since the meds are knocking the heck out of me am taking "ME TIME" ~ NOT that I have to explain to anyone.
So you girls have fun ~ continue to concoct any type of bs you may ~ your boring lives will be there when you get off........if you ever do.
just an fyi - anyone who has an e-mail address can have a nest account. They do not verify any information except your e-mail. Since there are many ways to get a free e-mail account, getting 2 nest accounts would not be hard.
After you sign up for a screen name, it takes 3 days before you can post on the nest.
So, yes, it is possible to have multiple screen names, as long as you use a different e-mail address.
please go ahead and try it and prove me wrong
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Riiight...because it would be IMPOSSIBLE to (a) set up an email account at gmail and (b) make up an address...just no way around it. And certainly no one who wanted two sign-ons to the nest, for whatever completely inane reason, would go to so much TROUBLE.
I don't know about you guys, but I am way more likely to believe the newbie with the terrible spelling and pretty pictures than the 2 girls who have been here for ages, supporting and accepting support.
TEAM ECO-whatever & Gunkie!
Amber
TTC since March '06
MFI, LPD, possible PCOS
3 chem pgs * m/c identical twins at 9w 10.06
IVF w/ICSI #2 - beta - 187! (9dp5dt), beta - 367! (11dp5dt)
IVF w/ICSI #3 - it's a girl!
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EXACTLY what I was thinking, again. Schmoodle, you can just post for me from now on.
Hehe - happy to help! Maybe we can take turns, odd and even days?
This is better than a soap opera, y'all!
(okay, I don't normally say y'all, but it's such a trailer-trashy kind of drama that I just couldn't help myself.)
I too am WAY more likely to believe two newbies who post asinine things about colon cleansing products over women who have held me up and supported me in grief and rejoiced with me in success. Absolutely.
Drama is funny.
I just love drama in the morning! Hold on - I need more coffee. Don't post more until I get back.