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My "bad mommy" moment of the week
Sunday night E started screaming/crying/kicking/thrashing around (think Jack jack from the Incredibles) close to 10 pm and woke every other hour doing the same thing. We tried to figure out what was wrong with him (we think he had a touch of diaper rash that burned when he wet his diapers) so we kept him home yesterday to take care of him. He screamed/cried/thrashed for most of the day and into the night. By 9pm I couldn't take it anymore and put him in his crib and called for DH to take care of him. I fed him once during the night and fed him this morning and then had DH get him ready for daycare.
I was soooooo relieved when I dropped him off, and that made me very sad. I feel like I need a break from my baby. I have no idea what is wrong with him or how to make it better. After all of his reflux and issues I figured this would be about the same, but the past 2 days were seemingly worse.
We have another call into the doctor, but I don't have high hopes for a "fix." I knew having a baby would be challenging, but I am at my wits end. I have never been this happy to get to work. At least there is no crying here.
Okay, I feel better now and hope that I will be somewhat refreshed when I go home to deal with my little screaming baby.
Dx: PCOS and short luteal phase
18 cycles (3 with our RE) - Metformin + Clomid + HCG booster did the trick!
BFP #1 6/22/09 EDD: 3/2/10 DS born: 3/8/10
TTC #2 since Dec 2011
BFP #2 7/8/12 EDD: 3/18/12 M/C @ 9w1d: 8/16/12
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Re: My "bad mommy" moment of the week
Mathis also has reflux and when he has had fits like that (and he has. Oh yes. He has) it has often been a big gas bubble and the best way to clear it up has been to hold him upright and whack him pretty firmly on the back. It usually takes a few minutes but then he'll let out a burp- big or small- and it will help. Might be something worth trying.
I know several working moms who are definitely better mothers because they work. I don't work but Truitt goes to daycare like I do because we have a much better, happier relationship when he does. That is nothing to be ashamed of and it doesn't make you a bad mom; it's not a bad mommy moment. It's realistic. We all need a break.
Collin Thayne 10.11.2010
Listen to her. She is wise.
Honestly, I had a morning last week where Cooper was just a grouch. He's normally super happy but all morning he was a Crankasaurus and I felt so bad taking him into daycare because I thought "If he's this fussy for me, my god he's going to scream all day at daycare!" We walked in the door, he looked around at all those other babies and just grinned at his teacher. Yeah I felt stellar. Yet, I was so relieved to go to work.
Ditto.
You're not a bad mommy. We all need a break every now and then. Heck, I need a break on days when my baby is great...we just need a break sometimes. Doesn't make us bad or mean we love them any less. Just makes us human.
Thanks, ladies. I'm just glad I'm not the only one to feel this way. I know so many people who act like their child is always a joy and I was feeling bad for feeling like mine is having fewer and fewer of those moments.
I just hope we can make him feel better soon. I just get down when I feel like we were finally making progress and then we start to backslide with a new issue. I want my smiling baby back.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Dx: PCOS and short luteal phase
18 cycles (3 with our RE) - Metformin + Clomid + HCG booster did the trick!
BFP #1 6/22/09 EDD: 3/2/10 DS born: 3/8/10
TTC #2 since Dec 2011
BFP #2 7/8/12 EDD: 3/18/12 M/C @ 9w1d: 8/16/12
I'm sorry you're feeling bad. It really does sound like you have a challenging baby who has higher needs than average. Sarah was like that and still is at times.
I have guilt because our younger daughter Elizabeth is the most easy-going pleasant child and she's been that way since the day she was born. I feel bad sometimes because I've totally enjoyed her so far, but I didn't feel the same during Sarah's infancy and toddler years. I guess there are always things we'll feel guilty about!
I have said on more than one occasion to DS "man I'm ready to drop you off at daycare."
It happens. It doesn't make you a bad mom...it makes you human.
Those women who act like their children are always a joy are either:
Delusional
Getting off on making other moms feel inferior
Having a terrible life otherwise and having to compensate and make themselves feel better
Or are just plain lying!
Hahaha I always say to Cooper "You better straighten up or I'm leaving you out back for the coyotes!" Which was a joke because we live in a neighborhood inside the beltway, then our neighborhood association actually photographed a coyote on my street. So I guess I need to stop saying it huh?
Ditto, ditto, ditto and ((((hugs)))