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Father's Day (DH vs. your dad) - WDYD?

susanmosleysusanmosley member
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Or Mother's Day- whichever is applicable

and I don't really mean "versus"  

 

How do you do it between your/DH's parents and yourselves (as parents)?

Everyone gets together on the day to celebrate?  Separate days/times - your dad gets one celebration, DH gets another? Other?  I suppose I am only directing this at people who have their parents/in laws in the same city.

 

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  • 40+twinmom40+twinmom
    DH's celebration is combined with either his dad or mine.  We alternate, not necessarily every year but just some years it's with my dad and other years with his, just depending on what's going on that year (like my dad might already have plans w/my stepmom's side or whatever).
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  • Webbie3Webbie3
    This is our first year doing this, but I feel DH deserves to be able to do whatever he wants on Father's Day.  We may see his dad or step-dad on Saturday before, but I'm not sure.  My dad and step-dad live a few hours away so we will probably just celebrate the next time we see them.  I'll still call them, though, of course!
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  • jenifairiesjenifairies

    well, this year we'll be oot, so my dad is out. we'll probably go over there another day. usually the day of, i defer to what dh wants to do. on mothers day we do what i want.

     

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  • Daisy77Daisy77 member
    DD#1 usually goes with ex on Father's Day and we attend whatever gathering is going on with family.  My side usually does something at one of my aunts...grilling, yard games, etc.  DH's side typically doesn't get together for Father's Day (or Mother's Day).  If DH decided he wanted to do something different just for him that would be fine but he usually doesn't.
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  • lms_bridelms_bride

    For Mother's Day we had drama because for the first time we combined the celebration in a simple brunch so it was me/husband/son, MIL, BIL and his wife, FIL and his wife (husband's stepmom).  My MIL freaked because we did not separately "acknowledge" her as my husband's mom (as if we aren't all aware??).  So who knows what next year will bring.

    Father's Day will be easier because a) my dad and mom are 6 hrs away so we don't see them and b) frankly my FIL and husband really aren't sensitive about this stuff.  I think actually we are celebrating Saturday with the same group (minus MIL probably) because my brother-in-law made plans for Sunday to go wine tasting (wtf) and won't be around.  So Saturday we'll probably just do lunch or something with them and Sunday me, my husband, and our son will celebrate separately.  Since I'll be 38+ weeks preggo, its going to be super low key.  Maybe we will go out to lunch or dinner and I'll see if my husband wants to do anything special.  My MIL said something to him about she has a gift for him but "doesn't want to intrude" on his plans.  Sheesh MIL... get a grip.  He's your son, just ask for what you need and stop making passive-aggressive victimy commentary.

    To answer your question in general - it just depends.  For Father's Day this year because of circumstances we are doing 2 celebrations.  One with FIL/BIL and then a separate one with just us.  I'd imagine it will vary in future years but my husband doesn't have strong wishes either way.  

    And with that OK, that turned into a rant/vent/answer all in one!  :)

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  • Stacyc625Stacyc625 member

    Since neither one of us are particularly close with our parents- I/we send cards and call and then the day is for DH (on Fathers Day) and me (mom's day) ~

     

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  • MAprincessMAprincess member

    Generally we do something local and if my parents are in town, we do something with them.  We never do holidays with DH's parents.  DH will call them, though.

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  • Notwifezilla7Notwifezilla7 member
    We usually don't make too big of a deal for Father's day. DH's father is in nursing home and not in the best shape, so we kind of avoid that. (Since it's his father, I follow DH's lead.) Mother's day is usually either the day before or after my MIL's b-day. We are going to try and spend it w/her every year. She lives down the shore, so it's a win- win. My parents really don't care either way.
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  • norbert5norbert5 member
    We openly told our parents that now that we are parents it is a family day for us and we will celebrate them another day.  But instead of exchanging gifts the person the day is celebrating it is their day to plan as they like.  For example, on Mother's Day we went to the beach and ate at my favorite pizza place.  On Father's Day my Dh has planned out a day at a car show (Sad not my favorite thing but it is his day so I will screw on a smile and go).
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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Yeah, that doesn't work for father's day as DH is on one coast, Dad is on the other.

    MIL and her mom are fairly close, so we get together for lunch on mother's day.

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  • MattsWifey<3MattsWifey<3

    For Mother's Day, we go up to NJ and spend the day with my family. My entire family (aunts, uncles, etc. etc) and family friends all GTG for a big celebration.

    For Father's Day, we stay at my ILS which is local. 

    I wish I got to see my parents and family for all the holidays though. 

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