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I don't understand my MIL somedays
I have to first say, I know I'm lucky. My MIL adores me (not that I feel exactly the same way, but you know....) She helps us out more than most and never has said anything negative about me or anything like that.
But she's starting to make me shake my head. First of all, she visited us when we first moved here. While here, she showed me something on her leg that her doctor said needed to be removed. I asked her what it was and she replied, "I don't know; I didn't think to ask..." Seriously??? If my doctor called and said that I need to have something removed from my body, I'd want to know why. I told DH it didn't make sense, and he kept asking her about it. She kept saying it was just a "boo boo" and taken care of. Come to find out, it was cancer! Now, if she didn't want to worry us, that's one thing. But this is part of his medical history, too. Don't you think we have the right to know???
Then, she calls me this morning and asks if I'll come home with G via a train if she buys the ticket. Um, well.....I've NEVER been on a train or in a train station. I don't think I want to try that for the first time with an active 2 year old. And, I'd prefer not to travel without DH if I can avoid it. I'm sure it will take longer than a plane ride and he barely makes that. I know what to expect with plane rides (layovers, boarding, etc.) and I still don't like doing it alone. Seriously, she just doesn't think sometimes.
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Re: I don't understand my MIL somedays
It took me a while to click on this b/c I am having MIL smothering issues right now and I had to gather the strength to even read about someone else's : ) But yeah, even the smallest things start to bug you with MILs and most of the time they are coming from the right place (as in: she probably just didn't want to worry you with the cancer and she just wants you to come home so she can see her gc) but for some reason - the delivery just bugs the heck out of you!
We took trains all over Europe - mostly first class/business class and it was fine. We took the train to NYC when I was pregnant and the bathroom was so gross I will never go on another US train again. I held it the entire way home - like 9 hrs. I told DH that I don't care how afraid of flying he is - I'll fly and he can meet me at the hotel.