Had the talk about not texting after 10pm

bebe11 · June 2010

My dh asked BM #2 to not text after 10pm anymore, and in return he got a 3 page single spaced typed letter about it, with a cc to her attorney. I didnt' hear there conversation, but knowing my husband he blamed me (which it sounded like in the letter) and he didn't clarify that she can call or text at any hour if there was an emergency. What next? It never ends does it?

karatechrissy · June 2010

Not to sound too harsh, but honestly, it sounds to me like your DH really needs to just buck up and say what he means. He keeps skirting around the issue, which is causing more problems and making this bigger than it needs to be. This shouldn't be something that you have to CC lawyers on for crying out loud. He needs to say 'BM, asside from an emergency, I would appreciate if you would refrain from texting me past 10PM. Thank you'. That's it. There shouldn't have been a 'conversation' that took place and him blaming this that and the other.

bebe11 · June 2010

I totally agree! It's frustrating, mainly because he thinks ignoring an issue or problem makes it go away, or that he doesn't have to deal with BM, but that never happens,it just puts off in the short term.

DREWLILY · June 2010

Your DH should stop responding to her calls/texts after that hour then, she'll quit eventually. It doesn't need to be such a big deal, cc'ing lawyers and all, really!

KristenFMR · June 2010

Are you sure that he did not say the right thing? Maybe he did and she is blaming it on you. We went thru the same thing with BM and she blames everything on me because she see's things are changing and assumes it's because I told him to do that. At least he took some measure to get her to stop doing it

mom2one · June 2010

Why can't he just ignore the texts until it's a convenient time? Sad that people have to get lawyers involved in petty discussions like this.

odear · June 2010

Ignore texts and calls after 10pm. Just because we have cell phones does NOT mean that we need to be accessible 24/7. I wish more people would realize that.

J&A2008 · June 2010

Well, he did the right thing up until he put the blame on you.

For those who ask "why does this have to be such a big deal," I hope you're asking the BM. She's obviously the nutty one.

bebe11 · June 2010

mom2one:
Why can't he just ignore the texts until it's a convenient time? Sad that people have to get lawyers involved in petty discussions like this.

He needs to keep his phone on for work, and if there is an emergency, we don't have a land line. My biggest issue, is that she texts things that can wait until the morning, and the phone wakes me up. I know it sounds petty, but she doesn't work, and I have to get up really early for work. The funnier thing is she didn't have gas for her car to meet for the drop off this weekend, but she has a lawyer?

J+R · June 2010

We have a similar problem. My DH has to keep his phone on for work also, and it wakes me up a lot. We had to tell DH's parents probably ten times to stop calling us so late.

There is an option on cell phones to make certain phone #'s have different ring tones. You should have your DH make BMs # a silent ring, or just a vibrate.

That will help your situation! Good luck!

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