MIL hates our favorite girl name

Kristi221 · May 2010

When I say hates, I mean HATES! It's Mackenzie Elizabeth. Elizabeth is my mom's name and my middle name. I have loved the name Mackenzie for years now and DH loves it too. She asked our girl name yesterday when she was over for DH's b-day and her thoughts on it were, and I quote..."...I hope it's a boy. But I do like the name Elizabeth...I'll call her that."

grrr! I didn't really care either way what we have, boy or girl, but now I find myself really wanting a girl just so I can use the name Mackenzie and correct her every time she calls her Elizabeth. She did the same thing with DH's cousins baby...Harli Rose. She hates the name Harli, so only calls the baby Rose.

She repeatedly tells us that we have to choose a saint's name...I'm not Catholic!

Stacyc625 · May 2010

and this is the reason why you don't share names with family.

mr&mrswelch · May 2010

this is why you don't tell anyone the names you've picked (:

Kristi221 · May 2010

I figure if it's the girl name we are set on there's no need to keep it from anyone. She'll just have to get used to it. I've just never heard of anyone hating that name.

elizabeth429 · May 2010

That would just confirm the name choice for me. Make sure you correct her every. single. time.

Is it June yet? · May 2010

LOL And THIS is exactly why I think we're going to keep LO's name a secret until s/he is born.

SweetPeanis · May 2010

And that is why we didn't share any names with anyone until after DD was born. It's a lot harder to say you hate a name when it's attached to a real baby as opposed to one thats not here yet.

People are already asking our name picks for this one and I just laugh and tell them we aren't telling...again.

Britty685 · May 2010

this is your babys name. you and DH should choose what you both like. If MIL likes it GREAT, if she doesn't well then she will deal with it.

mr&mrswelch · May 2010

also, I met a mackenzie last week and she was adorable.

SuperThat1006 · May 2010

HMM, if MIL is willing to call the child by its middle name AFTER it's born, telling her the name before s/he is born is pretty irrelevant.

Good luck OP. Correct her endlessly.

brown_bride07 · May 2010

That is exactly why I won't tell my MIL our names...

TheSkimmy · May 2010

ChrissieW3:
HMM, if MIL is willing to call the child by its middle name AFTER it's born, telling her the name before s/he is born is pretty irrelevant.
Good luck OP. Correct her endlessly.

Exactly!! I would rather know people's negativity before the baby is born than hear something afterward. I will tell the baby's name as soon as we have it figured out. Your DH should say something to his mother- end the drama now!

Temp984666312503071 · May 2010

Kristi221:
I figure if it's the girl name we are set on there's no need to keep it from anyone. She'll just have to get used to it. I've just never heard of anyone hating that name.

People are less likely to share their feelings once the baby is born and named officially than when you are still pregnant. In their eyes they have time to change you mind.

If you are confident - be confident. Not everyone loves the name Makenzie. EVERY name has people that don't like it. No biggie.

babyblueize314 · May 2010

elizabeth429:
That would just confirm the name choice for me. Make sure you correct her every. single. time.

LOL....This exactly:) Just for spite now I would definitely 100% give her that name! Which by the way is a beautiful name:)

Kristi221 · May 2010

elizabeth429:
That would just confirm the name choice for me. Make sure you correct her every. single. time.

This is my plan! I even said, out loud where all could hear, that if they don't like it they'll have to learn to love it because if it's a she, it will be her name. DH backed me up too. I knew she would be like this, we've avoided telling her the name for months now but she wouldn't let up, so I bit the bullet. Oh well, she'll have to get over it.

babyblueize314 · May 2010

Kristi221:
When I say hates, I mean HATES! It's Mackenzie Elizabeth. Elizabeth is my mom's name and my middle name. I have loved the name Mackenzie for years now and DH loves it too. She asked our girl name yesterday when she was over for DH's b-day and her thoughts on it were, and I quote..."...I hope it's a boy. But I do like the name Elizabeth...I'll call her that."
grrr! I didn't really care either way what we have, boy or girl, but now I find myself really wanting a girl just so I can use the name Mackenzie and correct her every time she calls her Elizabeth. She did the same thing with DH's cousins baby...Harli Rose. She hates the name Harli, so only calls the baby Rose.
She repeatedly tells us that we have to choose a saint's name...I'm not Catholic!

I would definitely have my hubby talk to her about this and if all else fails then I would have to start calling her (MIL) by her middle name:) lol

Kristi221 · May 2010

babyblueize314:

I would definitely have my hubby talk to her about this and if all else fails then I would have to start calling her (MIL) by her middle name:) lol

I like that idea!!

mamafoxX2 · May 2010

Going through the same thing with my MIL and my next little girl... I can't wait till Elliot is old enough to tell HER grammy "My name is Elliot, not Ellie!" because my MIL refuses to call this child by her name her father and I chose for her.

Britty685 · May 2010

Kristi221:
babyblueize314:

I would definitely have my hubby talk to her about this and if all else fails then I would have to start calling her (MIL) by her middle name:) lol

I like that idea!!

love this idea. If LO is a boy we are naming him Nathan Cooper. DH aunt said I'm going to call him Cooper. What are yall planning on calling him, "Nathan or Nate". Well I want to call him Cooper. (Bad thing is shes the one who is keeping LO when I go back to work Bleh)

moonfaerie · May 2010

I was going to say she'll get over it, because my mom was not at all into London but she's fond of it now that she knows her grandaughter. But it sounds like your MIL is a piece of work...GL! I hope it is a girl so you can spite her!

ssf10 · May 2010

I think its a very pretty name. If its a girl name her what you and DH want to name her. I'm naming my daughter Hailey and my SO's mom hates it. We love it and don't care lol. As long as your happy with it.

VRS10 · May 2010

moonfaerie:
I was going to say she'll get over it, because my mom was not at all into London but she's fond of it now that she knows her grandaughter. But it sounds like your MIL is a piece of work...GL! I hope it is a girl so you can spite her!

My mom was not fond of my LO's name either, but she never told me until recently, she said she didn't like it at first but now she can't imagine her being called anything else.

klregelm · May 2010

Tell MIL this: I'm sorry you do not like it but it is the name your son and I have chosen and love. MacKenzie is a beautiful name which will fit her well throughout her life- it works for a child and adult. It will sound great with "Aunt" in front of it and it will be a well-respected sounding name for even the most prestigious of professions.

I have taught 4 different Mackenzies and they are all very respectful, intelligent, and very sweet girls. The majority of my students (boys and girls) who have Christian names are a little on the bratty side! I think you have chosen well!

Maybe she's being snotty about the name choice b/c she assumes she should have been let in on the naming decision and she's feeling a little hurt... maybe for the next baby you and DH could come up with 2 or 3 names you really like and ask which OUT OF THOSE NAMES she likes best- then she can't hate (hopefully)!

hailey_marie_2006 · May 2010

I would be like who is having this baby oh yea ME!!! Her name will be Mackenzie and that is what you will call her! My MIL and i dont get alone at all so we are not telling her what we are naming the baby till we know for sure what it is!

simplegirl226 · May 2010

I was going to name my little girl Mackenzie Elizabeth and then my MIL Died so we are going to name her (if its a girl) Mackenzie Judith. Elizabeth is a family name for us also. Sorry she hates your name!

KristaNbHam · May 2010

Same thing happened to me! I told a co-worker our name which is Lela Elizabeth, and she said, "I'll just call her Lela Beth!"

No, just call her Lela like we will. We're southern, but I'm not into calling the child by both names every time. It gets old!

joeandmarsha · May 2010

My DH and I were just talking about your situation, and we agree, MIL is S.O.L.

MSC03 · May 2010

If you ask me, if she doesn't want to call your baby by her right name, she doesn't get called Grandma. Fair and square, eh? ;-)

That's total crap. Mackenzie is a totally fine name.

chris5olson · May 2010

Kristi221:
When I say hates, I mean HATES! It's Mackenzie Elizabeth. Elizabeth is my mom's name and my middle name. I have loved the name Mackenzie for years now and DH loves it too. She asked our girl name yesterday when she was over for DH's b-day and her thoughts on it were, and I quote..."...I hope it's a boy. But I do like the name Elizabeth...I'll call her that."
grrr! I didn't really care either way what we have, boy or girl, but now I find myself really wanting a girl just so I can use the name Mackenzie and correct her every time she calls her Elizabeth. She did the same thing with DH's cousins baby...Harli Rose. She hates the name Harli, so only calls the baby Rose.
She repeatedly tells us that we have to choose a saint's name...I'm not Catholic!

exactly why dh and i are keeping our name a secret. honestly dont even let her bother you because its your child not hers she'll learn to deal with it. and if she keeps on you about it tell dh about it.

denise_m · May 2010

elizabeth429:
That would just confirm the name choice for me. Make sure you correct her every. single. time.

YUP. And when the kid is old enough she can correct them too. We had to do this when people would call dd nicknames. And she still HATES them, if you dare call her Kate or Katie she will quickly correct you and tell you that you're being rude.

GenRN45 · June 2010

I would tell your MIL that if she can't call your child by her name, then she won't be seeing your child.

I personally could care less what people think of the names we've chosen, and we have also shared them. But no one has been rude enough to say they would call her something else.

You husband needs to talk to your MIL, now.

GenRN45 · June 2010

piecesofflare:
Haha, MSC! Here was my initial reaction:

"Oh, I'll just call her Elizabeth."

"Great! That'll make it easy for her to remember that you're Grandma Crazy, the one who can't figure out that her name is actually Mackenzie. This will work out well!"

I didn't read through all off the responses before I answered... but I LOVE this.

candr09 · June 2010

Name your baby the name that you and DH love, who cares what MIL says!? And yes, correct her endlessly. Or start calling her by her middle or last name. Or tell her if she can't use the baby's correct name, then she won't be able to see the baby, because you don't want the baby to get confused and not know what its name is! lol. GL.

And I LOVE your name choice, by the way.

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