Wow, thank you very much for being so thoughtful and instead of answering a simple question about effectiveness of hpt and when to get a blood test you feel that you need to post rude comments. Yes, I am healthy except for acid reflux. Thank you for pointing that out I should have posted I am otherwise healthy with a mild case of acid reflux. And why should I not be trying to get pregnant? I didn't ask a stupid question, am married, have an education and am strong financially. You must be very angry with you infertility issues to be so rude to someone who was asking a simple question.
You fail. At life.
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I use fertilityfriend.com and track my basal temp every morning. I've been off of bc for three months now. I am definently not coming back to this community board again. Obviously it is for the 35+ women who can't concieve. Good luck with it but I really hope your children won't be raised with such negativity.
I am 21 you B****. Go to hell.
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I am a newbie and a lurker, and feel really intimidated some times because it seems that everyone on these boards has been best friends forever. I have never posted because a lot of questions are answered in other people's posts, but it's things like this that keep me from posting some times, but now I have something to say.
OP- I am so sorry that this has gotten out of hand.
To the people who have replied - Why do you (you know who you are) feel the need to judge her? She may only be 19 years old, but she has a desire JUST LIKE ALL OF YOU to become a mom. Obviously, she is new at it, just like you all were at one point. Her age has nothing to do with anything, and it's really none of your business what her and her husband's decisions are. She came to this board probably intimidated in the first place. She already knows she's 19 and doesn't need you all to shove it in her face and pick her apart. I think all of you who have bombarded her with rude comments about "growing up" need to take a look at your own lives and maybe tell yourselves the same thing. When do we ever really stop "growing up" and learning?? This may be a public forum, but it's a "place" women of all ages come to find support and answers. She IS young, but that doesn't make you the Baby Making Police.
I use fertilityfriend.com and track my basal temp every morning. I've been off of bc for three months now. I am definently not coming back to this community board again. Obviously it is for the 35+ women who can't concieve. Good luck with it but I really hope your children won't be raised with such negativity.
Hmmm...I haven't read the rest of the replies, but I'm really looking forward to them after this post.
FTR, I'm only 31 and I have one child who is anything but negative.
I am a newbie and a lurker, and feel really intimidated some times because it seems that everyone on these boards has been best friends forever. I have never posted because a lot of questions are answered in other people's posts, but it's things like this that keep me from posting some times, but now I have something to say.
OP- I am so sorry that this has gotten out of hand.
To the people who have replied - Why do you (you know who you are) feel the need to judge her? She may only be 19 years old, but she has a desire JUST LIKE ALL OF YOU to become a mom. Obviously, she is new at it, just like you all were at one point. Her age has nothing to do with anything, and it's really none of your business what her and her husband's decisions are. She came to this board probably intimidated in the first place. She already knows she's 19 and doesn't need you all to shove it in her face and pick her apart. I think all of you who have bombarded her with rude comments about "growing up" need to take a look at your own lives and maybe tell yourselves the same thing. When do we ever really stop "growing up" and learning?? This may be a public forum, but it's a "place" women of all ages come to find support and answers. She IS young, but that doesn't make you the Baby Making Police.
Idiotic..
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and btw, I do agree about the infertility comments...uncalled for. but just let her apologize already and accept it!! we all say stuff we shouldn't and then feel REALLY badly about it... all our hormones are flaring up and we're missing the point of this board!
I use fertilityfriend.com and track my basal temp every morning. I've been off of bc for three months now. I am definently not coming back to this community board again. Obviously it is for the 35+ women who can't concieve. Good luck with it but I really hope your children won't be raised with such negativity.
I'm 29. Shut up, you don't know what you're talking about.
and btw, I do agree about the infertility comments...uncalled for. but just let her apologize already and accept it!! we all say stuff we shouldn't and then feel REALLY badly about it... all our hormones are flaring up and we're missing the point of this board!
Hormones flaring up is a BS excuse
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and btw, I do agree about the infertility comments...uncalled for. but just let her apologize already and accept it!! we all say stuff we shouldn't and then feel REALLY badly about it... all our hormones are flaring up and we're missing the point of this board!
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and btw, I do agree about the infertility comments...uncalled for. but just let her apologize already and accept it!! we all say stuff we shouldn't and then feel REALLY badly about it... all our hormones are flaring up and we're missing the point of this board!
There's a difference between saying something we don't mean and what she said. Just because somebody says sorry doesn't mean you have to accept it.
and btw, I do agree about the infertility comments...uncalled for. but just let her apologize already and accept it!! we all say stuff we shouldn't and then feel REALLY badly about it... all our hormones are flaring up and we're missing the point of this board!
Hormones flaring up is a BS excuse
This exactly. This is a board on the internet. You CAN think and edit your words before you post. That is if you had that ability. I suggest giving it a try. Emotions don't have to play a role like you think.
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Nah, I'm fine where I'm at. I just dont think we all have to be so hateful. SHE DID become hateful after everyone flamed her, and that is not acceptable. But when you all started making fun of her because she was only 19, that's not ok either. I can not tell you how sick I was of people telling me how young I was! When I got married, when I wanted to start my family... it just gets old. When you are a new person trying to break the ice, it's hard enough...then people go an insult your intelligence.
Additionally, I don't think I've said anything bitchy in my posts, I just think we can all find better things to talk about than waste our time flaming people who have a simple question. The girl was just trying to get it right. Her comments after the fact were definitely more rude than anyone elses and I do not commend it what so ever! I'm really wasn't trying to stand up for her in particular....just for all newbies that get made fun of for something or another. It's not even in a joking/initiation manner, it's just to be hateful.
and btw, I do agree about the infertility comments...uncalled for. but just let her apologize already and accept it!! we all say stuff we shouldn't and then feel REALLY badly about it... all our hormones are flaring up and we're missing the point of this board!
If she was mature enough to think before she spoke...she wouldnt have to apologize! There was no need for her comments!
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Nah, I'm fine where I'm at. I just dont think we all have to be so hateful. SHE DID become hateful after everyone flamed her, and that is not acceptable. But when you all started making fun of her because she was only 19, that's not ok either. I can not tell you how sick I was of people telling me how young I was! When I got married, when I wanted to start my family... it just gets old. When you are a new person trying to break the ice, it's hard enough...then people go an insult your intelligence.
Additionally, I don't think I've said anything bitchy in my posts, I just think we can all find better things to talk about than waste our time flaming people who have a simple question. The girl was just trying to get it right. Her comments after the fact were definitely more rude than anyone elses and I do not commend it what so ever! I'm really wasn't trying to stand up for her in particular....just for all newbies that get made fun of for something or another. It's not even in a joking/initiation manner, it's just to be hateful.
I am pretty sure you are not included in this "we". you chose to waste some of your very first posts sticking up for some stranger you don't know who didn't deserve it. Plus it is not like she couldn't just log off and let it go. Why can't you just butt out?
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Nah, I'm fine where I'm at. I just dont think we all have to be so hateful. SHE DID become hateful after everyone flamed her, and that is not acceptable. But when you all started making fun of her because she was only 19, that's not ok either. I can not tell you how sick I was of people telling me how young I was! When I got married, when I wanted to start my family... it just gets old. When you are a new person trying to break the ice, it's hard enough...then people go an insult your intelligence.
Additionally, I don't think I've said anything bitchy in my posts, I just think we can all find better things to talk about than waste our time flaming people who have a simple question. The girl was just trying to get it right. Her comments after the fact were definitely more rude than anyone elses and I do not commend it what so ever! I'm really wasn't trying to stand up for her in particular....just for all newbies that get made fun of for something or another. It's not even in a joking/initiation manner, it's just to be hateful.
I've had NO issue "breaking the ice". However, I also don't act like a douche.
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As far as being a newbie goes...stupid questions get asked...then they get flamed! I got flamed for my first post...but I did not go on the attack and start insulting people! I let it go and didn't take it personally...Iurked for a while longer and then began posting again...and with that have gotten to see how totally amazing these women are on this board! Any one who can't see that just needs to go away!
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Nah, I'm fine where I'm at. I just dont think we all have to be so hateful. SHE DID become hateful after everyone flamed her, and that is not acceptable. But when you all started making fun of her because she was only 19, that's not ok either. I can not tell you how sick I was of people telling me how young I was! When I got married, when I wanted to start my family... it just gets old. When you are a new person trying to break the ice, it's hard enough...then people go an insult your intelligence.
Additionally, I don't think I've said anything bitchy in my posts, I just think we can all find better things to talk about than waste our time flaming people who have a simple question. The girl was just trying to get it right. Her comments after the fact were definitely more rude than anyone elses and I do not commend it what so ever! I'm really wasn't trying to stand up for her in particular....just for all newbies that get made fun of for something or another. It's not even in a joking/initiation manner, it's just to be hateful.
You must not have lurked long, this is the bump, not baby gaga. The bump is not the girl scouts and we are all not best friends. People get flamed whenthey open their big mouths and say stupid things. And I am pretty sure most regular posters have been flamed once or twice. (I know I have but I dont get butt hurt about it. I move on.)
But somethings are just unforgivable. And if you have lurked any amount of time, you would know that. the OP crossed that line with the infertility issue. And I haven't been ttc #2 very long, and I know that.
Do yourself a favor and learn when to just lurk. We all had to start out as a Newbie, and when I was a newbie I dont remember having to "break the ice" or defend myself.
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As far as being a newbie goes...stupid questions get asked...then they get flamed! I got flamed for my first post...but I did not go on the attack and start insulting people! I let it go and didn't take it personally...Iurked for a while longer and then began posting again...and with that have gotten to see how totally amazing these women are on this board! Any one who can't see that just needs to go away!
I agree wholeheartedly. I just dont think she had a stupid question to begin with...that's ALL. I will admit that I didn't read every single post before I posted my defense. I just saw a whole bunch of bashing. I did go on to say that it was really lame of her to insult women experiencing IF. If I could take defending her back, I would, but I can't and now I'VE been flamed too. I'm not upset by it, I know I deserved it....that's what I get for not reading all the replies. I completely jumped the gun on this one.
I agree wholeheartedly. I just dont think she had a stupid question to begin with...that's ALL. I will admit that I didn't read every single post before I posted my defense. I just saw a whole bunch of bashing. I did go on to say that it was really lame of her to insult women experiencing IF. If I could take defending her back, I would, but I can't and now I'VE been flamed too. I'm not upset by it, I know I deserved it....that's what I get for not reading all the replies. I completely jumped the gun on this one.
Like I said before: nobody was bashing. I've read a lot of these threads while I lurked and the ladies just like to have fun with the silly questions while giving helpful advice. The rudeness didn't start until the OP made the infertility comment and that was all on HER. I agree with PP who said to lurk more. I've been flamed before, I stepped back and lurked and realized how the board runs and the ladies on here are really great.
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As far as being a newbie goes...stupid questions get asked...then they get flamed! I got flamed for my first post...but I did not go on the attack and start insulting people! I let it go and didn't take it personally...Iurked for a while longer and then began posting again...and with that have gotten to see how totally amazing these women are on this board! Any one who can't see that just needs to go away!
I agree wholeheartedly. I just dont think she had a stupid question to begin with...that's ALL. I will admit that I didn't read every single post before I posted my defense. I just saw a whole bunch of bashing. I did go on to say that it was really lame of her to insult women experiencing IF. If I could take defending her back, I would, but I can't and now I'VE been flamed too. I'm not upset by it, I know I deserved it....that's what I get for not reading all the replies. I completely jumped the gun on this one.
Well, there is your problem: You didn't read.. OP asked about getting negative tests and what to do and if she should use another brand. She stated she's done tons of research, charts, etc etc. Yet according to her FF ticker she's on CD 33 with NO ovulation. Asking about negative tests when you haven't ovulated IS A STUPID QUESTION!!
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I agree wholeheartedly. I just dont think she had a stupid question to begin with...that's ALL. I will admit that I didn't read every single post before I posted my defense. I just saw a whole bunch of bashing. I did go on to say that it was really lame of her to insult women experiencing IF. If I could take defending her back, I would, but I can't and now I'VE been flamed too. I'm not upset by it, I know I deserved it....that's what I get for not reading all the replies. I completely jumped the gun on this one.
Like I said before: nobody was bashing. I've read a lot of these threads while I lurked and the ladies just like to have fun with the silly questions while giving helpful advice. The rudeness didn't start until the OP made the infertility comment and that was all on HER. I agree with PP who said to lurk more. I've been flamed before, I stepped back and lurked and realized how the board runs and the ladies on here are really great.
I know when I've made a mistake and I'm a big enough person to admit it. I probably will still lurk, and seeing as I, too, am TTC....I'll probably be back. AND probably get flamed for it :-) I'm sure every one on here IS really great, and I wish nothing but the best for EVERY single one of you in your TTC mission. I really do apologize with all my heart for defending her before I read the entire thread. Forgiven or not...I'm only human.
I know when I've made a mistake and I'm a big enough person to admit it. I probably will still lurk, and seeing as I, too, am TTC....I'll probably be back. AND probably get flamed for it :-) I'm sure every one on here IS really great, and I wish nothing but the best for EVERY single one of you in your TTC mission. I really do apologize with all my heart for defending her before I read the entire thread. Forgiven or not...I'm only human.
I'm sure if you lurk and come back you'll be fine. You apologized and seem sincere about it. Good luck TTC!
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I know when I've made a mistake and I'm a big enough person to admit it. I probably will still lurk, and seeing as I, too, am TTC....I'll probably be back. AND probably get flamed for it :-) I'm sure every one on here IS really great, and I wish nothing but the best for EVERY single one of you in your TTC mission. I really do apologize with all my heart for defending her before I read the entire thread. Forgiven or not...I'm only human.
I'm sure if you lurk and come back you'll be fine. You apologized and seem sincere about it. Good luck TTC!
I agree wholeheartedly. I just dont think she had a stupid question to begin with...that's ALL. I will admit that I didn't read every single post before I posted my defense. I just saw a whole bunch of bashing. I did go on to say that it was really lame of her to insult women experiencing IF. If I could take defending her back, I would, but I can't and now I'VE been flamed too. I'm not upset by it, I know I deserved it....that's what I get for not reading all the replies. I completely jumped the gun on this one.
Like I said before: nobody was bashing. I've read a lot of these threads while I lurked and the ladies just like to have fun with the silly questions while giving helpful advice. The rudeness didn't start until the OP made the infertility comment and that was all on HER. I agree with PP who said to lurk more. I've been flamed before, I stepped back and lurked and realized how the board runs and the ladies on here are really great.
I know when I've made a mistake and I'm a big enough person to admit it. I probably will still lurk, and seeing as I, too, am TTC....I'll probably be back. AND probably get flamed for it :-) I'm sure every one on here IS really great, and I wish nothing but the best for EVERY single one of you in your TTC mission. I really do apologize with all my heart for defending her before I read the entire thread. Forgiven or not...I'm only human.
If you continue to lurk, you'll probably get sick of the "Why isn't this stupid stick telling me I'm pregnant?" posts, too. They happen every day. And the responses here always start out the same. How they turn out depends on the OP.
Wow, thank you very much for being so thoughtful and instead of answering a simple question about effectiveness of hpt and when to get a blood test you feel that you need to post rude comments. Yes, I am healthy except for acid reflux. Thank you for pointing that out I should have posted I am otherwise healthy with a mild case of acid reflux. And why should I not be trying to get pregnant? I didn't ask a stupid question, am married, have an education and am strong financially. You must be very angry with you infertility issues to be so rude to someone who was asking a simple question.
Oh boy. I hope you have your flame-retardant panties on.
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Saucy- you crack my sh*t up!!!! I was thinking the same thing but you worded it perfectly!
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
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BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
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Re: Negative test but still don't have my period...
You fail. At life.
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I am 21 you B****. Go to hell.
I am a newbie and a lurker, and feel really intimidated some times because it seems that everyone on these boards has been best friends forever. I have never posted because a lot of questions are answered in other people's posts, but it's things like this that keep me from posting some times, but now I have something to say.
OP- I am so sorry that this has gotten out of hand.
To the people who have replied - Why do you (you know who you are) feel the need to judge her? She may only be 19 years old, but she has a desire JUST LIKE ALL OF YOU to become a mom. Obviously, she is new at it, just like you all were at one point. Her age has nothing to do with anything, and it's really none of your business what her and her husband's decisions are. She came to this board probably intimidated in the first place. She already knows she's 19 and doesn't need you all to shove it in her face and pick her apart. I think all of you who have bombarded her with rude comments about "growing up" need to take a look at your own lives and maybe tell yourselves the same thing. When do we ever really stop "growing up" and learning?? This may be a public forum, but it's a "place" women of all ages come to find support and answers. She IS young, but that doesn't make you the Baby Making Police.
Hmmm...I haven't read the rest of the replies, but I'm really looking forward to them after this post.
FTR, I'm only 31 and I have one child who is anything but negative.
Idiotic..
and btw, I do agree about the infertility comments...uncalled for. but just let her apologize already and accept it!! we all say stuff we shouldn't and then feel REALLY badly about it... all our hormones are flaring up and we're missing the point of this board!
I'm 29. Shut up, you don't know what you're talking about.
Hormones flaring up is a BS excuse
bump hiccup
There's a difference between saying something we don't mean and what she said. Just because somebody says sorry doesn't mean you have to accept it.
If that's all you have to say, I've just proved my point.
I'm assuming that is directed at me, in which case I'm glad you feel validated.. so that means you can go away now, right?
This exactly. This is a board on the internet. You CAN think and edit your words before you post. That is if you had that ability. I suggest giving it a try. Emotions don't have to play a role like you think.
Nah, I'm fine where I'm at. I just dont think we all have to be so hateful. SHE DID become hateful after everyone flamed her, and that is not acceptable. But when you all started making fun of her because she was only 19, that's not ok either. I can not tell you how sick I was of people telling me how young I was! When I got married, when I wanted to start my family... it just gets old. When you are a new person trying to break the ice, it's hard enough...then people go an insult your intelligence.
Additionally, I don't think I've said anything bitchy in my posts, I just think we can all find better things to talk about than waste our time flaming people who have a simple question. The girl was just trying to get it right. Her comments after the fact were definitely more rude than anyone elses and I do not commend it what so ever! I'm really wasn't trying to stand up for her in particular....just for all newbies that get made fun of for something or another. It's not even in a joking/initiation manner, it's just to be hateful.
If she was mature enough to think before she spoke...she wouldnt have to apologize! There was no need for her comments!
I am pretty sure you are not included in this "we". you chose to waste some of your very first posts sticking up for some stranger you don't know who didn't deserve it. Plus it is not like she couldn't just log off and let it go. Why can't you just butt out?
I've had NO issue "breaking the ice". However, I also don't act like a douche.
As far as being a newbie goes...stupid questions get asked...then they get flamed! I got flamed for my first post...but I did not go on the attack and start insulting people! I let it go and didn't take it personally...Iurked for a while longer and then began posting again...and with that have gotten to see how totally amazing these women are on this board! Any one who can't see that just needs to go away!
You must not have lurked long, this is the bump, not baby gaga. The bump is not the girl scouts and we are all not best friends. People get flamed whenthey open their big mouths and say stupid things. And I am pretty sure most regular posters have been flamed once or twice. (I know I have but I dont get butt hurt about it. I move on.)
But somethings are just unforgivable. And if you have lurked any amount of time, you would know that. the OP crossed that line with the infertility issue. And I haven't been ttc #2 very long, and I know that.
Do yourself a favor and learn when to just lurk. We all had to start out as a Newbie, and when I was a newbie I dont remember having to "break the ice" or defend myself.
I agree wholeheartedly. I just dont think she had a stupid question to begin with...that's ALL. I will admit that I didn't read every single post before I posted my defense. I just saw a whole bunch of bashing. I did go on to say that it was really lame of her to insult women experiencing IF. If I could take defending her back, I would, but I can't and now I'VE been flamed too. I'm not upset by it, I know I deserved it....that's what I get for not reading all the replies. I completely jumped the gun on this one.
Like I said before: nobody was bashing. I've read a lot of these threads while I lurked and the ladies just like to have fun with the silly questions while giving helpful advice. The rudeness didn't start until the OP made the infertility comment and that was all on HER. I agree with PP who said to lurk more. I've been flamed before, I stepped back and lurked and realized how the board runs and the ladies on here are really great.
Well, there is your problem: You didn't read.. OP asked about getting negative tests and what to do and if she should use another brand. She stated she's done tons of research, charts, etc etc. Yet according to her FF ticker she's on CD 33 with NO ovulation. Asking about negative tests when you haven't ovulated IS A STUPID QUESTION!!
If this board is so full of crazy b****s then way the hell do you bother coming back?? Honestly??
And if you're on the board, that makes you........
I know when I've made a mistake and I'm a big enough person to admit it. I probably will still lurk, and seeing as I, too, am TTC....I'll probably be back. AND probably get flamed for it :-) I'm sure every one on here IS really great, and I wish nothing but the best for EVERY single one of you in your TTC mission. I really do apologize with all my heart for defending her before I read the entire thread. Forgiven or not...I'm only human.
I couldn't help it... I am feeling testy today. I blame it on DS teething and metformin making me sick.
I'm sure if you lurk and come back you'll be fine. You apologized and seem sincere about it. Good luck TTC!
Thank You:-) You too.
If you continue to lurk, you'll probably get sick of the "Why isn't this stupid stick telling me I'm pregnant?" posts, too. They happen every day. And the responses here always start out the same. How they turn out depends on the OP.
Your comment really annoys me. I've never said anything rude to anyone.
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.
Repost- Sorry, meant to quote here, so people would know which post I was referring to...
Saucy- you crack my sh*t up!!!!
  I was thinking the same thing but you worded it perfectly! 
BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011
BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident
BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown
To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.