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Would you trust your child with your parents if...
Would you trust your child alone with your parents if they have friends & acquaintances that are registered sex offenders and/or child abusers? - Especially if there is a chance that your child could have contact with these people???
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Re: Would you trust your child with your parents if...
Someone pretty much asked the same question yesterday, although the sex offender was flat out living with the parents and would most likely be there if they left their kiddo to be baby-sat.
And no, probably not.
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Child abusers would be a definite no and as far as a sex offender I would want to know what the person did. If they molested a little kid or something then no but if they peed in public (indescent exposure) or was like 19 and had sex with a 17yr old that owuld be a idfferent story. But more than likely no!
good God.
No. And I'd have a long talk with my parents if either one of them had friends/acquaintences convicted of sex offenses. (unless the offense was one of those "I was 17, she was 16, her parents got pissed off and bam, I'm a sex offender" type situations.
okay... so I guess I'm not being overprotective after all???
They think I'm being "mean" for telling them I would never leave her alone in their care.
yes, I'm talking sex offenders that have molested and/or raped children/teens as well as public exposure to children...
I know they wouldn't think much of it to invite them over if my child was there, if they didn't see an issue inviting them over while I was growing up.
Child abuser no, sex offender needs the circumstances looked at.
If they were 19 and having sex with a 16 or 17 year old and suddennly girl's mommy gets mad and now they are a sex offender...I do not see the harm there. Now if it was a violent sex offender or someone who acted inappropriately with a young child (someone with no choice in the matter) then NO.
One of them has been in jail multiple times for sex offender (don't ask me why they keep letting him out? because he goes to jailhouse bible studies or something?)
The other raped a girl. I suspect he abused his own children then also stalks/sexually harasses adults.
It's men in their 50s (my parents age)... Just because a sex offender goes to church doesn't mean a thing to me. A church is a perfect place to find new victims.
Child molesters do not change their preferences - they will always prefer sex with children to an adult. They may go to class to learn how to control their impulses but they will always have that desire underneath. Because of that, how could you trust your child to be in a room- possibly alone at some point- with a child molester. It's like putting candy in front of them.
As for your parents thinking he's a great guy- he could be to them. Your parents are too old to be his type. However, I doubt they've seen him in a room alone with 5 year olds (or whatever age is his thing). I'm sure he is different then.
I would never leave my child alone with anyone- whether they had been convicted or not- if I thought they were or could be a child molesterer. I'd never forgive myself if something happened and I'd rather be seen as the crazy overprotective mom than worry about offending someone's feelings.
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because they seem to think I'm being too overprotective... I didn't think I was... but they claim I hurt their feelings, etc...
they can get over hurt feelings... but if one of their friends hurts my child, sexual abuse is a hell of a lot harder to "get over."
I have no desire to change my mind on this anywhere in the near future. as long as they defend their child rapist friends, I won't trust my child alone in their care.
One of 'em is highly likely about to go to jail (out on bail)... the other likely will because he's likely to be charged with a few more kids he hasn't been with. he's been in and out of jail for years for abuse. hopefully this time they lose his key when he gets locked up.
But even if these two guys are locked up, I still don't feel comfortable leaving my child with someone that won't stand against sexual abuse of minors. I don't care if it's family, a day care worker, or my neighbor.
I don't feel like I'm over-reacting with this... am I?
wth?
no.
this...
these are their "church friends." They somehow think they still must be okay people if they go to church...(they were also attending church while abusing children - it's not like they "found jesus" in jail and truly changed)...
You are not over-reacting at all.
You are 1000% doing the right thing. Dont, for a second, let them guilt you in to feeling otherwise.
I realize they are you parents, but I would have a really difficult time having any type of relationship with people that supported convicted sex offenders.
I'm really sorry you're dealing with this.
no.
I'm not okay with people who enable deadbeats.
believe me, I do have a lot of issues maintaining our relationship... mostly over this.