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Question regarding baby showers..
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Re: Question regarding baby showers..
So its not like I am sitting on my ass doing nothing.
that's true you are usually lying on your back!
Jerry actually tapes in CT now! My friend went to a show.
I remember being pregnant with my daughter and going home at lunch to eat tots and watch Jerry. But those were the days when they could actually hit each other.
(Again, I admit that I haven't read all the replies.)
I figured when I first read that question, you mean tested for STDs. Lordiebee, I hope you have been?
And, I'm not sure if this has been asked. How do you support your two children and the one on the way? Do you have a job?
So you are able to support two children, and the 3rd that's on the way with these jobs? Or are the fine tax paying citizens of Minnesota supporting them?
That was the best when they could hit eachother!! When I remember watching it the fights always got broken up.
A) Your uterus begs to differ.
Normally supportive lurker here...but, this has to be MUD - seriously, look at the "jobs" she's taking on - none of them are conducive to pregnancy...
And if it's not made up - please - get off the Bump and go seek help - the women of this board are good people who do everything possible to make their kids lives as wonderful as possible - despite issues with the douche bags they may have been with- I read these posts and am inspired - and they help me appreciate what I have (especially when I want to throw my husband out of the window)...this is not the forum for you...
Please stop having sex...please.
Too bad you don't live in Colorado. You could register for pot.
Thanks.. it's especially hard with so many people against you.. Good to hear there are still some positive people out there. Makes it easier to keep looking forward.
What kind of a job gives you crippling migraines, just out of morbid curiousity???? And if you are 19 weeks pg I would think that something like a painting job wouldn't be the best choice given that you will likely be on ladders, scaffolding, etc.
But then again, I am speaking to someone who confessed to smoking marijuana while pg so standing on a 10 foot tall ladder when you are 19 weeks pg is probably not a big deal to you.
If I lived in CO I probably wouldn't need it! Too many mountains and trails to explore! Where I live is all farmland.
And the quote of the day goes too.......
A) My kids I appreciate and love to be around.. its everyone else in the family that I was directing that about. So my uterus has nothing to do with my siblings and other relatives.
Oh, so now we are blaming the marijuana use on boredom....I thought you used because you were depressed? Maybe try scrolling back to view the excuse you originally used. At least it will be one less inconsistency in your story.
Oh eff. This.
Yes. You can have a baby shower.
Throw it yourself. Just pick a new location.
Partying in your pants has already been done. Too many time.
And, if I was attending the party, I def wouldn't be drinking the crazy/fertile water..
And, if I was attending the party, I def wouldn't be drinking the crazy/fertile water..
It's the kool aid....don't drink the kool aid.
No, no.....what they MEANT was that you referred to yourself as not really having a social life but somehow you have enough of one to have conceived FOUR (that we know of) children by the age of 25. Not too shabby of a social life I would say.
I have done more for them than they have ever done for me.
that's right she gives them babies to keep!
So your saying you don't clean or do any yard work? And if I recall a lot of people call it nesting.. I'm just doing it for other people also.
I am a good person despite past mistakes and I give my kids the best I can offer. They are very happy with their lives. My life personally may suck, but I do all I can to make sure theirs doesn't. And good people don't put other people down. Very few on here have shown to be good, and the ones that have I appreciate their input.
Thank you, achase. Thank you.
i think she's talking about the painting, genius. but nice try.
I have several suggestions for what you could do:
1) close your legs
2) stop smoking pot while you are pregnant
3) explain to them to make note of everything you have done....and then do EXACTLY the opposite
4) and just for good measure, close your legs
Ah boo you do not appreciate my input. *tear*
Stop making babies. Get a job. Stop smoking pot. = winner winner chicken dinner. Do it. Geez
Umm I see prego people painting nurseries and such.. so how is painting outside any worse.. its better ventilated.
I'll make babies just to spite you if I want. Not saying I will, but I can do whatever the hell I want thank you. And if you havent been paying attention I am stopping the pot.
. And good people don't put other people down. Very few on here have shown to be good,
this made me spit out my drink...omg..seriously girl you are out of your mind.
Good to you means telling you how great oyu are? how wonderful you are? what a great mom you are? how you should to continue to have sex with random men without BC?How you continue to put your baby at risk in many ways? You dont want the truth honey..you know why because you are too BSC to hear it!!
No one has put you down but you. No one forced you to have all these children that you can not afford. no one forced you to light up that bong. no one forced you to lay down and spead them likeyou do.
YOU didall those things and have continued to make all these mistakes for years. No one but you!
The sickest and saddest thing is that you havent just F'd up your life you have f'd up 4 others!
I do clean - but, using a sandblaster and painting are not smart when pregnant - I don't do yardwork, but I live in a townhome and we pay association dues so we don't have to...it's not good to do those types of manual labor jobs while pregnant it can put you and the baby at risk...so, be careful.
I will say - as someone who has suffered from depression - boredom and depression are related - my shrink could always tell when I was bored because I would talk to him about the fact that I was sinking into a depression or doing reckless things...I started volunteering and that really helped me -- I know you don't have time to volunteer right now - but, one thing I learned was that no matter what meds or therapy I had, if I didn't get off my butt and get out of the house, none of it mattered...
Maybe when you're feeling down, instead of reaching for weed, you can grab your kids and build a fort or play a game or you can plan an activity for them to do when they wake up (assuming the kids are sleeping when you're smoking)...
I'm glad you're getting help - but, please remember, no one can really make a difference except for you...if I hadn't been proactive about getting out of my depression, I would probably still be suffering from it...
The ladders, not the fumes, the L.A.D.D.E.R.S. that you could FALL off of from a considerable heighth, thus injuring your unborn child. It would probably do more damage than you have already done to the fetus.
Yes dont you listen she is stopping...some day...maybe with baby #7
You'll make babies to spite her?? you sick bitoch. you are a disgrace and I'm sure after all these posts...DTFS WILL be knocking on your door shortly!
Calling BS on this one. I'm from a VERY rural MN town also. I graduated with 9 people if that tells you how rural! There is PLENTY of help options IF you chose to use them! I luckily didn't need the help when I had my kids, but even I knew the options!
Carrie-you win the award for getting the dumbest response of the entire thread. Maybe the dumbest response EVER on the history of the Bump. Hands down. Your prize is the entire first season of Jerry Springer on DVD. Where should we ship it to?
rare is the day you need a sandblaster or a 20' ladder to paint a nursery. and if you do need that equipment, odds are you're not doing it yourself.
um i wasnt goin to say anything but....SMH...How are you going to have anything you you dont have any friends and all your family does is talk crap about you? Would it just be you and your stuffed animals?!...why did u post this bull?! and if you really are real someone should find out where you are and report your stupid @$$! Frickin Pot Head!
...Yeah, I live on a mountain in western NH. Drive, take a cab, a bus, a bicycle, (since you're already climbing ladders), pay a friend or even an acquaintance to drive you. to your nearest city and seek help there. Car seat/crib/clothes or whatever for your child are the necessities. It sounds like you don't have a lot of support, so you need to seek it out. NO one will help you unless you help yourself. You've said you're looking for/getting help for your pot smoking habit, and that is great. There are many, many, many resources out there for you. It takes some work to look them up, fill out the paperwork, show proof of your financial situation etc etc, but it will be worth it to get your feet on the ground. Also, I think you should seek child support from the father(s) of your children. You can easily do this through the state. Maybe at least one of two of them will send you child support to help with your current situation.
There is a lot you can do to better yourself. It just takes some hard work to get there.
Care to share where this help is?
I say you should hold a baby shower. Invite me. Please. I would even throw it for you and we can eat cakes straight out of Martha Stewart and play games.
I can't help but be curious. I primarily defend children in child abuse/neglect cases and I would enjoy the chance to understand WTF you are thinking using substances around your children and while pregnant.
You may feel that the ladies on here are unhelpful, and admittedly many of them are being judgmental and in some cases cruel. But this I assure you, you won't know the extent of cruel and unhelpful until you are fighting to prove you are worthy to regain custody of your children.
I don't wish that on you. I hope you to start acting like a parent now and put your kids ahead of your desire for an 'O' moment, joint, excuse.
Do the parenting program, continue your sobriety, keep looking until you find a decent counselor. Best of luck.
**ETA: People might think that you can't get your parental rights terminated for 'just pot'. I have a few clients who could tell you otherwise.
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Not using a 20' ladder. And there aint nothing wrong with a sandblaster.. It shoots sand, might sting with blow back, but nothing too harmful if wearing the proper protective gear.
and to the comment (from another person) manual labor is bad? WTF! In my pregnancy books it says they are fine as long as you aren't doing heavy lifting. Mowing lawns dont require heavy lifting. Yard work maybe the heaviest tool might weigh 10 lbs max.. If people can do cardio work outs and all that prego, they can do yard work. As for my depression, I'm sure boredom probably is a factor in it.. hence trying to stay busy. (but thank you Amy - sorry if that response sounded snarky)