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Question regarding baby showers..
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Re: Question regarding baby showers..
Her kids are the ones who lose. They're stuck with a selfish, ignorant excuse for a parent. They'd be better off being raised by wolverines at this point.
Do you hear what you are saying? You didn't want to be with him, so you bring a child into this world in hopes you will grow to like him. If you didn't like him THEN LEAVE. WTF?
And ironic you say he put your daughters life at risk when you are doing the same thing.
And really, who goes through life thinking "Hey, I HATE that guy. Maybe if I have a baby with him I won't hate him so much?"
Have you ever been tested? Because I'm thinking you're maybe five I.Q. points away from being declared clinically retarded. And that's being generous.
Ok, this has to be MUD.
Please tell us about these beliefs that are against birth control, but support the use of pot and sleeping around?
You don't "believe" in birth control but you find it acceptable to be a giant tramp? You think smoking pot is acceptable while you are pregnant but you have a problem with someone that drinks (while clearly not pregnant).
You don't have your ducks in a row sunshine.
I bet I know the answer, but what the hell. Did you finish high school? Do you have a job?
You make me want to bang my head against the wall. Usually people who don't believe in birth control are very religious. At least they don't fvck everything that has a diick. You want to be Mrs. Duggard? Fine, but have a Mr.Duggard, or at least have a way to support your children.
https://medicalmarijuana.procon.org/view.answers.php?questionID=000226
There's a pros and cons list there, stating exactly what I said.
Why didn't I get my tubes tied after the last one? Because I still wanted to have another kid. And as for after this one, I might.
I never said they wouldn't want to celebrate this pregnancy. I just don't have a social life so there isn't friends to invite and as for my family I'm not a big of them. I have done more for them than they have ever done for me. My parents and grandma are the only people in this family that I even like my kids to be around. My sisters smoke more pot than I do. My oldest sister has put my grandma into huge financial debt because when they have money they go out and buy booze and drugs the whine to her that they don't have money to pay the bills and buy food. My other sister does the same thing, but gets her money from child support to go out and do the same thing. I at least put my kids and bills first before I went and "lit up". So don't act like you know what's going on.
Idk who MUD is?
I believe what is meant to happen will. Pot is an all natural herb created by the same power that created this world to begin with. And its not sleeping around if you are in a relationship.. the only one I wasn't in a relationship with was the 1st one.
Another logic fail on your part. Any religion against birth control is also against voluntary tubals.
I was also 18 at the time. So why are you passing judgments on past mistakes.. and insulting people just makes you look stupid too.
so help me understand what exactly you do believe in..because I have yet to find the gathering and potluck meeting for the Those Who Overpopulate Because We Are A Simpleton Club of America
EXACTLY.... well said!
Waiting to hear "I'm not religious, I'm spiiiiiiri-tual!"
You are creating this same cycle for your daughters.
Care to prove this?
There are two people who control this Earth. God & the Devil.
Weed is not pure of the heart because it changes 'who you are.' So It would be classified as a sin to smoke pot. Sorry you loose again. And PP is right, whatever religion you follow that tells you birth control is a 'no no' then premarital sex is a BIG no no.
Idiot.
*lights incense*
So you're saying it's common for 18-year-olds to want to have babies with guys they hate? And I'm the stupid one?
and I'm also working on breaking the cycle.
Ok, I'll play.
MUD= Made Up Drama
If you don't want people to judge you, don't put your trainwreck life on a public message board for us to judge.
So you only believe in natural healing? Have you ever taken advil or tylenol? Had a tooth filled? What do you do when your kids are sick- go see what herbs are in your backyard?
I'm going to be honest here, but not mean and not insulting:
Just because marijuana grows naturally it doesn't mean that it's good for you. Belladonna grows naturally and it's a poison. You need to 100% stop spoking dope now, so you can take care of yourself and your children. I hope you keep trying to quit. Good luck!
You have made some very bad choices in your life. You aren't a victim of circumstances. When you have unprotected sex, you made a choice. You are now dealing with the consequences.
What your sisters smoke or drink has nothing to do with you. You can only blame yourself for your choices.
You need to use the government programs to better your life. I know that you said the local choices for educational programs are in male dominated fields like mechanics, but those are also high paying jobs. Look into them!
It's time for you to grow up. Stop blaming others, stop having unprotected sex, stop doing drugs, stop thinking you are falling into bad circumstances. Go to school, get a job, get your own place, get off governement assistance, be an independent strong woman, and become proud of yourself! If not for you, do it for your children.
No but I am saying its very common that 18 year olds don't make the best choices. Not saying they can't make good ones, but most teenagers (since everyone else is generalizing) don't have a great track record for them.
when are you going to start?
Care to disprove this?
Ignorance is bliss isn't it?
So are opiates, that makes heroin okay right? Peyote is natural so that's cool too?
and the pot you were smoking has been genetetically altered and bred to be more potent with THC crystals, so... not natural.
I could keep going, my AH trys to justify with these same excuses.
You want help, get off these boards and go back to a couselor. If that one doesn't work for you seek out another and another until you find one that you connect with. Please!!!!
*edit* changed "you are" to "you were"
She must be some effed up 18 year old. I'm 18 so from experience I know what I would do in that situation if I wasn't too fond of a guy. I would LEAVE?!?! ... if I didn't like a guy, the thought of having a baby with somebody I did not like would never cross my mind. Jeez, she is a real winner.
No one is generalizing here....you put out there exactly what you do- therefore you are being judged for it. It is only obvious this is not healthy for you, but more importantly, not healthy for your unborn child.
If you had simply made a poor choice when you were 18 and LEARNED from it, then that would be one thing. My point is you continue to make poor choices, as previous posters have said, namely smoking pot and spreading your legs and continuing to pro-create when you do not have the means or the brains to raise the children you already have. You are now 25 years old and the soon-to-be mother of 4 children....I think it's about time to stop making mistakes.
See now that's the more positive stuff.. for the most part. I appreciate that.
And for the hundred millionth time.. I AM getting help to deal with my issues. I am going into a treatment program next month that not only deals with these issues but also provides eduction dealing with parenting and family situations. It brings the kids in also so the family stuff can be worked on. I mean you can only be taught so much without being able to put it to use. The only reason its next month and not today is because Skylar is still in school and doesn't get out till the 8th. And after that I intend to start working on my photography again, if not explore other options also. I can't really just take off and move to go to better university because like I said, this baby's father wants to be involved and that's hard to do if I have to move more than 4 hours away to take the courses/programs I would like. Plus Skylar's dad currently within riving distance too and would probably have a fit if I tried to go further. I'm not blaming anyone for my bad choices, I know they are my own. I've never blamed anyone for problems. I've just stated that my living family situations aren't ideal so it does make things difficult. As for my sisters they were more of a comparison, unlike them I at least put my kids first before my habits.
So thanks again for the more positive post. Almost inspiring even.
Well he was one of those people couldn't just leave without fear of something happening to you for it. He had to go back to Cali to take care of some things so while he was there I broke up with him.. safety in distance.
No, you are an insult to the human race and a disgrace of a mother.
No one here looks stupid but you. Actually a person with a 5 IQ would look smater thany ou do.
You really are BSC! Some one should have called DYFS on you a long time ago.
And your excuse now oh brilliant one?
no, you don't get another shower. TFB.
i have to say, i think my favorite part is how she thought she might be pregnant, but kept smoking pot for 2 more weeks until she found out for sure.
Ummm, I beg to differ if you were smoking pot when you were pregnant....even if you weren't sure. And what kind of a mother is an admitted, habitual pot user?? This is aside from the fact that you are pregnant I am referring to being stoned out of your mind while trying to care for young children. My DS is 9 months old and requires every once of my attention....I can't imagine being on mind altering substances while trying to watch him. I can barely keep up as it is now!
Do you have a job? Just wondering how you support all your children and plan to support the newest addition to your jerry springer special.
I am going to take a wild stab at this one and say.....no.
And what ever happened to Jerry? That was the best show!!! I still remember his Spring Break special where the college kids danced onstage in nothing but whip cream.....classic!
(fully admit I didn't read all the replies and I am sure this will get DDed, but....)
Marijuana is a depressant. It isn't going to help your depression. Duh.
Not at the moment, quit my job last month because it was giving me health problems (such as crippling migraines). I do odd jobs right now for money, doing yard work, cleaning, have a painting job lined up just working on getting a sandblaster and for the people to pick out the colors for their house. So its not like I am sitting on my ass doing nothing. It's summer so all the steady jobs have been taken up by high schoolers who can work for 5.75 an hour. With these small jobs I make 10-15 an hour.
There is a bumpie I would like to introduce you to.. DianeN19 or snowflakely whatever she goes by now. You two would get along great!