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WHY DO PEOPLE WANT ONE OF EACH?

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Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Purrrfect433Purrrfect433
    I wouldn't take it personally. I got that a lot with my second, too. Now that I have one of each I hear how "lucky" I am all the time. Your husband will love and adore your second child as much as you do--no matter what the sex is. Gl!
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  • MoRoseTMoRoseT

    You know....I have no clue.

    I never got anything like that with DD either, but now that we are having a boy this time around, all I hear is "Oh good!  One of each....how perfect." and "Oh, so now you are done, huh?".

    People just don't have a clue.  I am thrilled to be having a little guy, but I would have been just as ecstatic about another girl and a sister for DD.

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  • WifeyLindsayWifeyLindsay member

    I have no idea but it's really really annoying and frustrating! One nestie commented a while back that their grandmother put it perfectly when she said that you can't go wrong... boy/boy, girl/girl or boy/girl, your family will be perfect no matter what. Try not to let it get to you! I know it's easier said than done tho. =)

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  • Wan-naBeWan-naBe member
    i always hated "you're having another girl? so are you going to try for a boy?" really annoying. i always wanted to kick 'em in the face.
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  • pookie2005pookie2005
    I agree, it's annoying.  My family keeps telling me I need to try for that boy...as though my girl just isn't good enough.
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  • lsufanlsufan
    I will never understand this. I am so glad my boys have each other for a brother. I'm pregnant again, and part of me thinks it would be really great to have a 3rd boy-- even though I'd love to have a daughter and buy clothes for her. I think our family will be perfect either way, and it's really hurtful when people say those things.
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  • kertybirdkertybird member
    To even up the team!  I always wanted 2 of the same sex (I grew up with 3 sisters) but it is nice that we can each hae one that we can force our interests on! =)
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  • amw80amw80
    I got that all the time also. I don't know...I like having one of each a lot..but something to be said for having the same sex siblings. I always wanted a sister.

    I really want to give one of them a brother or sister..but then the evening out would never end!
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  • kjrkjr
    I get that a lot.  Now that we know we are having another boy people always ask me if I am sad that we aren't having a girl and if we are going to try again for a girl. 
    It is kind of weird.  I guess people just assume you want what you don't have.
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  • Jen2124Jen2124
    I think people say it because they are both so different and lots of people want to experience both. I know I always wanted both for that reason.

    When a friend is pregnant, I always secretly hope they have a boy so they can know how great it is to have a boy. I feel like it is the best thing in the world (obvouisly because I have boys). I know if I had girls, I'd feel the same way. I actually understand why people say it...I also have always wanted both.

    Now that I have 2 boys, I don't really care anymore about having to have a girl, but I "get it". I think they are both so different that lots of people would love to know what each is like (plus, lots of times people assume the husband would love a boy and the wife would love a girl even though this isnt' always true).
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  • DaisyAdairDaisyAdair
    My mother says "Maybe this one will be THE BOY."  That's the only thing that excites her about this pregnancy.  Not that I need her excitement, but she's going overboard about THE BOY.

    Personally, I never wanted the boy, so that idea doesn't excite me.  DH, obviously, wants a boy this time. 

    I don't care either way.  With my 1st 2, I REALLY wanted girls.  I got that and now this one is what it is and I'll be happy either way.  I have no preference and I love having 2 girls and I'd love having 3 girls and I'd love having 2 girls and a boy!  My mother, on the other hand, is ONLY happy if this one is THE BOY. 
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  • cornichoncornichon member
    A lot of you have said, that dh wants a boy.... i think that's why people assume that you want one of each.. so that mom can have her girl and dad can have his boy.. Not saying that it is right but I think that is where it comes from... people assume that moms will have more in common with t a daughter and that dads will have more in common with sons. I have one of each and if I had a $ for every time that I am told that I have the million$ family, I wold no longer have to work:) I just really wanted healthy and happy kids.
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  • FeatherFireFeatherFire
    I think people feel like their completing the set or "getting the full experience" I'm with you - I would MUCH rather have a girl next, I always wanted a sister growing up, and now seeing my mother's relationship w/ her sister and my MIL with hers I would love a sister even more. I would love to be able to have my DD(s) have that relationship in their life.
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
    Report Reply
  • Flem052204Flem052204
    imageSxia:
    Okay, I have DD, who I LOVE, and with her, no one said, "I hope it's a boy" or "I hope it's a girl" because they were just excited about a baby. Now, I'm getting, "Maybe this one will be a boy" or "Make this one a boy, will you?" Even DH says he wants a boy, which I can't deny him. In our house, it's all ladies. Even the dog is a girl.  But DH said he really wants a boy, but is afraid it's a girl. I don't remember specifically if he said "afraid" or not, but still. I think I'd RATHER have two girls, if they get along!

    I just never had anyone give me their opinion with DD. Why do people think that one of each is better than two girls or two boys?
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