I was told this board can be helpful..

awesome-sauce · May 2010

And that you have gone through the same heartbreaking thing..

I miscarried on 05/17/2010. My body naturally started the process, and since we ended up at the ER in the middle of the night, the awesome dr was able to schedule a D&C for that day.

Backstory: I got a home BFP on 03/31/2010. At the time, based off my LMP we thought I was a little farther along, so we ended up having 4 ultrasounds in about a week's time to make sure baby would have a HB. (After we waited a couple weeks to have an u/s, to try to make sure I was far enough along for HB, etc. It just was not far enough along at the time.) On the day we heard our baby's HB, oh it was such a sweet sound! (Which you can completely relate to!)

After the ultrasounds confirmed that all was well (at around 6+ weeks), we, of course, were very happy! From the moment we found out, we were so in love..Which makes this that much harder.

H and I are heartbroken. Torn. Sad. Confused. So many emotions that i'm not sure how to handle just yet. Everyone says it will just take time to learn to cope. Where do we go from here? Crying

I know you all know similarly how I feel, just thought i'd introduce myself.

awesome-sauce · May 2010

Also, if you read this before I can fix it, I took off my sig but for some reason it's still there. I'm going to fix now! agh

(Edit: OK. Fixed my sig. Don't know what I want to put there now.)

seoul09 · May 2010

I am truly sorry you are going through this. I pray that things get better for you and DH but it takes time. Just relax, don't push youeself and take time to grieve and allow entire situatio to settle in your mind.

(hug)

millejj1 · May 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss, and am glad you found your way to us. No one wants to be here but there isn't a more supportive group of women in the world.

Take your time to heal.

SassyMamainVA · May 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking that any of us have to go through this and it's so unfair. Just make sure you give yourself time to grieve...it's likely not going to happen quickly. Come here and vent whenever you need to...we know what you're going through and will help in any way we can. (((Hugs)))

jerriesgirl · May 2010

I'm sorry for your loss. Take it second by second, minute by minute. Soon you will get to day by day. Allow yourself time to grieve, no matter what anyone tells you.

EntropicEpona · May 2010

jerriesgirl:
I'm sorry for your loss. Take it second by second, minute by minute. Soon you will get to day by day. Allow yourself time to grieve, no matter what anyone tells you.

This. Absolutely this. At first, I could only handle second by second. But know that it WILL slowly start to get better. You will heal, but you will never forget. It's perfectly wonderful to love your child.

I am so sorry you find yourself in this situation. We all grieve for your loss.

damabo80 · May 2010

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I hope you can find emotional support here. We know exactly how devastating it is to lose a child. Hugs to you.

Amanda02a · May 2010

I am so sorry for your loss.

HokieMomma · May 2010

I am so sorry for your loss, but I'm glad you found your way to us. This board has been so helpful to me. I hope you'll find the same thing at this difficult time.

JMH1124 · May 2010

I am very sorry for your loss and that you have to join us here.

erinb1025 · May 2010

I'm so sorry for your loss. This board is very helpful! thoughts and prayers to you

hellonwheels · May 2010

Im so very sorry and my and my hubby are currently going through this grieving point also...we had a d&c on 5/24..so i know how you feel..this is a great place to come for support..for someone to talk to..for just about everything...everyone is great! Just know that you are not alone and that it will get better with time...thats what everyone keeps telling me anyway...i've come to peace with it..that my pregnancy was not meant to be..that my baby is in heaven now and that someday we will have a healthy baby..it just wasnt the right time....just keep in mind that there are many people in the same position as you are and that its always good to have somewhere to turn...someone to talk to..and if your DH is as great as mine..he will be very supportive as well..and you may find that this experience although heartbreaking..will make you an even stronger couple..if you can make it through the toughest times like these..nothing can break you apart...thats something i learned in this past week...

well if you ever need someone to talk to..im here

awesome-sauce · May 2010

Thanks everyone. I know you are all having a tough time, so thanks for being so helpful.

and if your DH is as great as mine..he will be very supportive as well..and you may find that this experience although heartbreaking..will make you an even stronger couple..if you can make it through the toughest times like these..nothing can break you apart...thats something i learned in this past week...

And, yes, I have an amazing DH who didn't leave my side! I love him even more, he's trying to be strong for me I know, but he's taking it pretty hard. Our families have been above and beyond supportive, so I do have those things. (Where I know some may not, so I am very thankful for that.)

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