Today is an emotional day for me...

nanabanana06 · May 2010

So I had my OB appointment and my 1hr glucose test today. The syrupy stuff sucked major butt! However, my OB appointment went fairly well. I will not be having a c-section! They were worried that I may have placenta previa, and I do not. So yay! However, I nearly died at the scale. 206 pounds... I weighed like 155-160 give or take a few pounds when I got pregnant. Now I've gained nearly 50 lbs!! I feel so fat I'll be on super get skinny duty after this!

Now when DH comes home we sit down and have a talk about our first birthing class last night. Apparently that stupid birthing video they had us watch has scarred him so badly that he no longer wishes to have sex with me for the time being... it made me so upset! If that video of another woman giving birth has made him so turned off of having sex with me what will ME giving birth do to him? Makes me kinda want that stupid c-section now! Then he won't have to watch our daughter come out of my cooch and screw our sex life up forever! I don't know if this is normal or not... or is this another one of those DH is being immature things?

MoniqueJW · May 2010

that seems to be a pretty normal reaction from a guy - if you're worried about his reaction to the birth of you baby then maybe just have him up by your head the whole time so he doesn't have to see all the 'details' ? That's probaly what my dh will do too

Molly Jean · May 2010

Wow. I'm not sure what to say except that you probably need to sit your DH down again in a few days and have a little more discussion with him. I can understand that it freaked him out and threw him for a loop. But being disgusted by you and your body now? That's just a lame excuse.

Childbirth is a beautiful, natural thing. It might look a little like something out the movie Alien at first, but it's all part of making and having a baby. He needs to realize he's going to be a daddy and that comes with lots of new experiences.

He doesn't need to see it from the view you had on the video. Have him hold your hand and stay by your side instead. Let the nurses can handle the money shots

Karibride · May 2010

Eh, DH saw DD born (even helped pull her out) and even though he still tells people it was very traumatizing half laughing of course, he has no problems with having sex. Matter of fact, he probably wishes we did it more. lol

kayteatrudeau · May 2010

Totally normal reaction.My DH is fully convinced that my girl parts are off limits until the baby is born. He's scared he's going to hurt her. I miss sex sooo much!

Sorry to hear about the weight gain. Aim for 1/2 lb. a week gain as you still have a long ways to go. It's only 300 extra calories a day...not eating literally for two people.

HUGS!

MWoodside · May 2010

I think it's immature of him.

fussbucket · May 2010

Sorry, I don't think this is normal or healthy for an adult relationship. But I also think it's important to figure out *before* deciding to procreate with someone whether they will be able to deal with everything that comes with normal human reproduction.

vegandy · May 2010

I disagree, I don't think that is a normal reaction...it's immature to say the least. Wanting a c-section so your sex life isn't "ruined" is a bit dramatic & I would be seriously concerned if birthing our child turned my husband off to having sex with me.

MeanMommyLady · May 2010

vegandy:
I disagree, I don't think that is a normal reaction...it's immature to say the least. Wanting a c-section so your sex life isn't "ruined" is a bit dramatic & I would be seriously concerned if birthing our child turned my husband off to having sex with me.

No surprise here, I agree completely with vegandy AGAIN.

Your husband helped to create your child, my husband and I would have serious issues if he decided he didn't want to have sex with me because I was pregnant or because I birthed his child.

That said, I had a c-section with DS and am not a good VBAC candidate because my failure to progress the first time has to do with a genetic hip abnormality. I would never opt for a c-section stricty because I was concerned about the state of my "lady parts" afterward, the fact is c-sections are major abdominal surgery with lots of risks associated and should not be considered lightly.

CaitlinJ22 · May 2010

i agree with vegandy too. thats immature of him and of you to want a c/s bc of that.

FWIW, my DH tells all his daddy to be friends that that video or any video of another woman giving birth is not the same as your own. He looked at that video and cringed--he still had sex with me though, up until the day before I went into labor. BUt he tells guys that when its your own wife, and your own child its totally different. He looked down there the whole time in awe. He says that he it took on a different "purpose"...as in this is where our baby is coming out and being born, not the place we have sex. And after 6 wks of no sex post baby, he was more than willing to have sex.....and thats after seeing all of the birth...blood poop and all.

and also, most likely he wont be able to avoid seeing things. Its not like there is a divider btwn your vagina and him, your legs are so far up that everyone in the room can see anything. GL

Tell your DH that its not good for your relationship. I would be pissed at him if I were you.

GreysGirl · May 2010

vegandy:
I disagree, I don't think that is a normal reaction...it's immature to say the least. Wanting a c-section so your sex life isn't "ruined" is a bit dramatic & I would be seriously concerned if birthing our child turned my husband off to having sex with me.

I completely agree with this.

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