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How horrible would it be to not have any more b-day parties?

CuteminCutemin
in Upstate NY Babies

Every birthday party I have had for Ty, no matter how big or small, has resulted in my mother making scene while I am serving cake (among others) and my MIL being angry at us.  Like it is all about them.  I am really tire of it.  Now it is time to start planning B's birthday and I don't want to.  :-(  Plus, other family members never really want to come and always come up with lame reasons not to come, I am talking DH and my siblings, not extended family.

Would it be so terrible just not to do anything other than just the four of us?  I know the grandmothers will be mad, but they are never happy anyway and this way I don't have to put forward the effort.

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Re: How horrible would it be to not have any more b-day parties?

  • ArcticFoxArcticFox member

    I just posted about this a few days ago.

    Honestly, I totally agree.. just have a party with the people who care the most about yor kids and don't bring drama to the table.

    I know someone mentioned not having pics, but I will still decorate the house, have a small cake, open gifts.  It just won't be a $65 cake that my FIL shows up 2.5 hours late w/out a gift, eats a huge piece, and leaves.

    The stress and the money I was spending was way ot of control, and I felt like people just took advantage of it (not helping, not bringing a gift, or not keeping in touch otherwise).

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  • eemer1219eemer1219
    I don't think it's a terrible idea. I think if you are going to give it a try, this is the time... when he still pretty young. If people get upset about not having the party, you can just explain that you have been way too stressed out previous years due to other people. Maybe it will be the push to get people to stop being selfish and you could try to throw a party for him, with everyone, next year. Or, if people start asking about not receiving an invite, when his birthday gets closer, they are welcome to throw him a party. :-)
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  • TelycoTelyco

    I NEVER had b-day parties...grandparents probably came over for a regular dinner and regular cake after. When I was older we would have friends over for a small sleep over or something...but that's about it.

    DH's family still has parties for every aunt, uncle, cousin, etc.

    I'm hoping to land in the middle somewhere. A joint family party - with something just the four of us on the actual b-day. Maybe a few friends later on...maybe not.

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