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Childcare/Workshift WWYD?
DH leaves for the academy at the end of August, returns beginning of Dec. Once he gets back, he has a choice to work either second shift or night shift. If he works second shift, he could be home with DD #2 during the day (S will be starting preschool FT in Sept.) and then be with me when I get home from work/he goes to work. If he works night shift, he'll obviously be asleep while I'm at work & DD #2 would stay with my MIL during the day.
Second shift would mean we'd rarely see each other M-F, but we'd have the weekends together as a family. It would also mean only shuttling one child around vs. two and DD #2 being with a parent FT.
So, WWYD? Second shift or night shift?
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Re: Childcare/Workshift WWYD?
Is the pay very different?
DH goes through periods when he's working on a show that we do the ol' I come in the door, swap info about the kid and he runs out the door. It's not easy, but it works (and unfortunately, I've gotten quite used to it, which makes days that he's home kind of this bizarre mixture of 'great, you're here to help!' and 'why are you here again - I usually can just do my own thing at night!?'). Problem with us is often weekends during that time he's still doing the same thing and I'm still alone with DS, and I can say that when he is at home on weekends, it does help.
As for the night shift - I'd be worried that that would wonk out his sleep schedule so much that you wouldn't have great weekend time as a family. I don't know that for sure, though - that would just be my initial concern about all of it.
No difference in pay, at all.
That's my big concern about the night shift, too. If he's still going to bed at 9am, then he's not going to be having much fun family time anyway. Whereas if he's working second shift, he'll be going to bed later, but not an abnormal amount and weekends would still be pretty much the same.
2nd for sure. He'll sleep somewhat normal hours, have time w/ LO, have fun, normal weekends as a family. I think night shift screws with stuff too much.
Before DS was born we toyed with this idea...having DH work the night shift to avoid daycare. He was all for it but couldn't find a job. I told him I refused for him to work overnights....he agreed that it would be too stressful.
I feel like 2nd shift would be better because when ppl don't get night time sleep it can be hard. You may think that you will see him in the evening if he works nights but he may be really tried and not feel like doing much.
I'm sure he would love the time to spend with DD#2 and if DD is sick and cannot go to school you don't have to worry about staying home from work or finding someone to watch her.
We are also very much so about if one parent can stay home with the kids that is what we would want to do.
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