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*blondie*
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So I've been thinking about the stalker thing
*blondie*
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If someone was to pass along something you post to the person you are talking/venting about, what would you do?
Do you truly say and act the way you do irl on the board? Or do you allow yourself to let loose when you post?
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I am a very honest and open person irl. My friends and family know and repsect that I will always give them an honest answer when asked something. Of course there are some things I say on here that I would hope don't get back to my mil or sil, but if it did, I wouldn't freak out about it and gbcn.
What about you?
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Re: So I've been thinking about the stalker thing
i would say the same thing but possibly be less "nasty" about it.
I hate my MIL and SIL -but i would probably say "i dont like" instead of "hate"
I am 100% honest here and say things I like I would in IRL. ?Anything I have ever said about family or whatnot are things I would or have eventually told my family/ILs. ?My IRL friends know that if the want an honest to goodness?opinion?to ask me. ?I usually preface my answer asking them if they truly want to know. ?If they answer yes then I give it to them. ?
The only time I have ever posted something that was out of my character and I am a bit ashamed of is when I posted that mrsN22 was the train wreck of the year. I was always taught if you can't say anything nice then you should not say anything at all and I usually live by that golden rule. ?That day I did not. ??
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I definitely use this board to blow off steam, sometimes to others' detriment, and sometimes to keep from saying what I really want to IRL. Not saying it's right, just being honest.
(And I don't know the stalking abckstory so I'm grasping here.) That being said, I have closer ties to a select group of women on an offshoot board than I do to "everyone" here, so if someone on TB were to stalk me and/or try to contact someone I know IRL, I would probably be able to easily cut ties and walk away from TB.
I'm not really any different. I would never talk crap about family or friends on the internet though. Internet boards are completely public and all it takes is a simple google search to find everything you've ever posted.
I had a family member send me to a wedding site once and came across posts she had made talking crap about me, my wedding, and even my sister. I was NOT happy and called her out on it. It was hurtful to read that crap, so I wouldn't want to do that to someone else.
I think I'm both in irl and on the board.
My IRL behavior though is to avoid confrontation - which I'm working on. I notice that many people seem to walk on me/have less respect for me as a person IRL, who are my friends, they seem to "tounge and cheek" a little too much, saying "Oh its just a joke," when in fact they joke about me about very serious things.
I'm the way I am IRL on here. Slightly annoying and sometimes biitchy. I never post bad things about my husband or ILs on here though. Never know who is lurking.
I have no problem telling something I have a problem with but I'd rather say it to their face then have them find out about it from a random internet forum
I'd be pretty annoyed if someone passed along something I'd vented about to the person it was about. In my opinion it's no different than me venting to my BFF about my MIL and her then calling MIL and telling her exactly what I said.