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erbarmywife · May 2010

When people find out we're expecting twins after having 2 singletons, the first question they always ask is "how are you so fertile??" Or, they say "wow! You are really fertile!". Now, I know there are a lot of people on here that had to have help getting pregnant, and I pray every day for everyone of those people. But, I have been blessed to concieve naturally. I just hate when people say that! I always respond with, "it's just one egg, so I am as fertile as anyone who does it without help". Everyone assumes that since I'm pregnant with twins, I must be more fertile than a normal person. Grrrr....

Ok...vent over. Sorry if I offended anyone, it was not my intention.

robinsokj · May 2010

I'm sorry, but I dont understand what would be so offensive about that.

erbarmywife · May 2010

I guess it's just because I've had my kids so close together, and I didnt have problems concieving. I feel a little guilty that I HAVE been able to get pregnant with no problems, and there are a lot of people (that I know) that just make those stupid comments...it might also be my hormones. It just bothers me.

volgirl123 · May 2010

My OB called me fertile myrtle for the same reason and it didn't bother me- I guess it just depends on who says it to you. If some creepy guy said it to me I would be grossed out.

MamaCrystal · May 2010

Well, since (like me) you're having 4 kids in less than 4 years... I'd say you ARE very fertile ; ) I know I am. I'm really nervous about getting pregnant again since I'm ebf'ing and can only take the mini pill. My fertile history gives me reason to believe it's definitely possible. I wouldn't be offended if someone said that to me (nobody has except close family). I just feel very fortunate that hubby and I have had no trouble getting pregnant.

One of my SIL's tried for a year, lost a baby, and has now been trying again for over a year. I do feel guilty that we unexpectedly got pregnant with twins in the meantime : ( It's a wonderful gift to not have to go through that.

Leigh71 · May 2010

People are rude sometimes. And...they have no "filter". I think that a lot of people ask these things because they are trying to make conversation....or they are just nosy.

It does get annoying. I did need fertility assistance, but I do not think I need to tell perfect strangers why I'm pg with twins. It's none of their darn business, Imo.

anna2006 · May 2010

I think your hormones may be getting the best of you. Four kids in four years IS pretty fertile.... I would take that as a compliment. Of course, it is very tacky for people other than your close friends and family to point that out. So if that is what is skeeving you out, I can totally understand. Fertility, just like the lack of it, should never be a topic of conversation in public!

stillhoping · May 2010

people are rude when they find out you are having multiples and ask questions and make statements that are none of their damn business..

but on the other hand. your post can come off as bragging about your fertility.

macchiatto · May 2010

anna2006:
I think your hormones may be getting the best of you. Four kids in four years IS pretty fertile.... I would take that as a compliment. Of course, it is very tacky for people other than your close friends and family to point that out. So if that is what is skeeving you out, I can totally understand. Fertility, just like the lack of it, should never be a topic of conversation in public!

Exactly what I was going to say--it's true, but it's tacky for anyone other than close friends or family to make a comment like that!

Rangergal9 · May 2010

I have been very lucky to get pg right away with DD and then again with the twins. I have also gotten, "omg well aren't you fertile" comments. My OB said it also and I didn't mind it, but when people say it sort of condescendingly, it kinda bothers me.

MamaKAT82 · May 2010

Don't be mad, be glad. It is a very special thing to be blessed with 2 babies naturally. Some people said it sounds like you're bragging (I dont get that at all) and you should be! Some women pay big bucks for what you've got. When people ask me if I have had fertility, I am proud to say no followed by I wish I had that kind of money because I'll need it. This was the last thing I ever expected and I am still in shock and overwhelmed to be carrying twins especially since I have a 1 yr old but I feel special because not everyone gets what we do. Just ignor people if they offend you; most likely they do not mean to and once they go there they just keep saying more and more stupid things...sometimes I just dont answer and watch them squirm...lol...I went to a party just last week where a lady who didnt know me said when she was pregnant she was as big as me and has a skinny friend who was pregnant (my skinny pregnant friend was with me) and how she was so jealous of her friend and blah blah blah...then she had the nerve to say doesn't she look great (talking about my friend)...nothing like saying I look like a whale compared to my friend...so I just said yes my friend looks great but I have 1 question...where are your twins? she then said she didnt have twins so I said oh, wow, you only had one and you were as big as me? no wonder why you were jealous of your skinny pregnant friend and that shut her up...point is: people are ignorant when it comes to carrying more than one especially if you conceived them the old fashioned way and have other kids...they act like you did it on purpose or knew that twins could even be a possibility or something

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