Attachment Parenting

9 month sleep hell

My daughter was always a terrible sleeper but outgrew it. I thought I knew bad sleep, but Reid is up every hour to half hour all night and the only way to get him back to sleep is to nurse him. I cosleep with him while my husband sleeps in another room down the hall. I am seriously losing my mind. Reid has never been a great sleeper but this is horrific. I am starting to feel desperate, and while I'm usually in the "this too shall pass" camp, I think if it doesn't pass pretty soon I will be certifiable. Any advice?
Nadia Irene 8/13/07 Reid Owen 8/18/09

Re: 9 month sleep hell

  • Yes it is hell.

    No there is not much you can do about it. (Not what you want to hear, so feel free to throw things at me.)

    But! You can always ask moxie...

     

    https://www.askmoxie.org/2008/03/talk-about-the.html

    https://moxie.blogs.com/askmoxie/2006/02/qa_what_are_sle.html

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    can you all sleep together?  (you and reid and your DH).  

    I nurse my little girl all the time at night.  But my DH is next to me so I don't know.  It's just not a big deal b/c I know it won't last. 

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    can you all sleep together?  (you and reid and your DH).  

    I nurse my little girl all the time at night.  But my DH is next to me so I don't know.  It's just not a big deal b/c I know it won't last. 

    it's not easy for everybody to sleep through nursing. Sometimes there are physical reasons that nursing hurts, some people just can't relax, or whatever. Just because *you* can sleep easily through nursing doesn't mean the OP can.. I don't quite understand that advice, don't you think if the OP could sleep through it, she would? 

    sorry if that seemed unnecessarily harsh... I'm sleep deprived, lol.

  • I'm in the same boat. Sorry. I even missed two days of work last week because I literally was too tired to drive. Then I was blessed with two good nights of sleep this weekend, but back to the constant waking/nursing/crying last night. I'm about to sleep train, and I am SO not a sleep-training kind of mom. But I am desperate.
  • Ick. We just went threw that too. Lasted about 3 weeks, DD just did not want to sleep. Good luck!
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  • aaaghh.  I'm sorry I have no good advice either, but am just chiming in to say we are in the *exact* same boat.  Every half hour lately, it is so tough.  My DD doesn't nap for longer than 30 mins either so there's no catching up there.  No solutions unfortunately, just empathy :( 

    By the way, I have tried the Pantley Pull Off from the No Cry Sleep Solution and for us it didn't work - but you might consider that if you haven't already... maybe it will work for you!

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    imagecindy453:
    imageZenya:

    can you all sleep together?  (you and reid and your DH).  

    I nurse my little girl all the time at night.  But my DH is next to me so I don't know.  It's just not a big deal b/c I know it won't last. 

    it's not easy for everybody to sleep through nursing. Sometimes there are physical reasons that nursing hurts, some people just can't relax, or whatever. Just because *you* can sleep easily through nursing doesn't mean the OP can.. I don't quite understand that advice, don't you think if the OP could sleep through it, she would? 

    sorry if that seemed unnecessarily harsh... I'm sleep deprived, lol.

    I can absolutely respect that (and was banned from kellymom for expressing that same thought!).  But she doesn't say that in her OP so that's why I responded as I did.

    OP - if you can't sleep with your DH while cosleeping then that to me is a dealbreaker.  I'd do my best to nightwean the baby.   

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    imageZenya:

    can you all sleep together?  (you and reid and your DH).  

    I nurse my little girl all the time at night.  But my DH is next to me so I don't know.  It's just not a big deal b/c I know it won't last. 

    it's not easy for everybody to sleep through nursing. Sometimes there are physical reasons that nursing hurts, some people just can't relax, or whatever. Just because *you* can sleep easily through nursing doesn't mean the OP can.. I don't quite understand that advice, don't you think if the OP could sleep through it, she would? 

    sorry if that seemed unnecessarily harsh... I'm sleep deprived, lol.

    ITA with this. I can nurse Ari twice a night & not really notice, 3 times is slightly annoying, any more than that & it really disrupts my sleep. And we all sleep together. 

     

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    imagecindy453:
    imageZenya:

    can you all sleep together?  (you and reid and your DH).  

    I nurse my little girl all the time at night.  But my DH is next to me so I don't know.  It's just not a big deal b/c I know it won't last. 

    it's not easy for everybody to sleep through nursing. Sometimes there are physical reasons that nursing hurts, some people just can't relax, or whatever. Just because *you* can sleep easily through nursing doesn't mean the OP can.. I don't quite understand that advice, don't you think if the OP could sleep through it, she would? 

    sorry if that seemed unnecessarily harsh... I'm sleep deprived, lol.

    I can absolutely respect that (and was banned from kellymom for expressing that same thought!).  But she doesn't say that in her OP so that's why I responded as I did.

    OP - if you can't sleep with your DH while cosleeping then that to me is a dealbreaker.  I'd do my best to nightwean the baby.   

    You were banned from kellymom for saying some women can't sleep while nursing?? WOW! That's crazy. I hate when people assume that everybody has the same nursing experience.

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    imagecindy453:
    imageZenya:

     

    imagecindy453:
    imageZenya:

    can you all sleep together?  (you and reid and your DH).  

    I nurse my little girl all the time at night.  But my DH is next to me so I don't know.  It's just not a big deal b/c I know it won't last. 

    it's not easy for everybody to sleep through nursing. Sometimes there are physical reasons that nursing hurts, some people just can't relax, or whatever. Just because *you* can sleep easily through nursing doesn't mean the OP can.. I don't quite understand that advice, don't you think if the OP could sleep through it, she would? 

    sorry if that seemed unnecessarily harsh... I'm sleep deprived, lol.

    I can absolutely respect that (and was banned from kellymom for expressing that same thought!).  But she doesn't say that in her OP so that's why I responded as I did.

    OP - if you can't sleep with your DH while cosleeping then that to me is a dealbreaker.  I'd do my best to nightwean the baby.   

    You were banned from kellymom for saying some women can't sleep while nursing?? WOW! That's crazy. I hate when people assume that everybody has the same nursing experience.

    I was banned for all kinds of reasons. Apparently I wasn't posting in the right 'spirit'.  I had 2 kids who I BF beyond the year mark but for me I am 'done' right around 18 mos and consistently posting that and supporting people who felt the same was verboten.

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  • Sometimes I can fall right back to sleep after or during nursing but when he's up so frequently I end up just laying awake. He's also sleeping so lightly these days that if I move away from him after nursing so I can be comfortable he often wakes up. My husband is totally supportive of cosleeping (I would be too if I were him and it meant I NEVER got up with a crying baby ;) ) but he doesn't get any sleep if he cosleeps with either of the kids.

    Today I got Reid to nap twice in the crib- big step for me! And I'm hoping to very slowly transition him to the crib. I doubt it will help with all of the night wakings but at some point I'd like to sleep in the same bed with my husband again!

    Nadia Irene 8/13/07 Reid Owen 8/18/09
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