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jdeats71jdeats71
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We are having a special Mother's Day lunch at work today - to celebrate all the mothers.  I guess I will be dining elsewhere......maybe with a cocktail.

I hate that I feel this way.......

but despite my bitterness - Happy Friday ladies!

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  • TeacherVickyTeacherVicky member

    I'm sorry.

    I know how you feel - I don't want to be anywhere around my mom, my MIL or my sister this weekend. I know it's horrible, but I know they won't know how I feel.

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  • Aubs13Aubs13 member

    Drinks  Enjoy your lunch!  Drinks

    But, on a more serious note, we all understand how you feel.  I'm sorry...

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  • JuJuBe3JuJuBe3
    Yep, I'll be surprised if anyone acknowledges the day to me.  I hope I am surprised.
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  • madladybridemadladybride member
    Sounds like you need a two or three martini lunch ;) I know what you mean. I really don't want to acknowledge Mother's Day either, but will probably do something nice for my friend who has 3 children (2 special needs) and is pregnant with her 4th, while her DH is deployed.
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  • jen629jen629 member
    I am sorry they are doing that ...I already told DH I am staying in bed on Sunday all day
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  • michroccmichrocc member

    I'm so sorry.  That's awful.

    DH works at a company as an assistant to the president and, this year, she's asked him to go out and buy bouquets of flowers for all the mothers.  There are over 200 women working there.  Not only does this suck for DH (as he is aware of how painful Mother's Day is for me and how the both of us should be celebrating it, and that's aside from the fact that he has to, you know, buy and carry all these flowers) but I can't help but think of the women at his company who will be left out because they've had a miscarriage or pregnancy loss or are dealing with IF.  These women will have to stand there and watch all the "real mothers" receive flowers. 

    Also, his boss knows about my loss and is STILL putting him in charge of all of this. 

     

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  • jdeats71jdeats71

    this really does suck.  I didn't feel this way last year but I had not even gone through the 1st IUI at that point.

    There are a few people in my office that don't have kids - by choice (one being my boss) and they always give a little gift to everyone (lotion, candle something like that) - even if they aren't a mother.  But they consider I am since I have a dog!  I agree but not the same thing.

    I'm hoping we are ALL mother's next May.

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  • HugginAngelHugginAngel

    I'd probably go to stir up some crap and say to all the smug bioches that you are a mother, it's just that your child lives in heaven not in your house!! But I'm confrontational sometimes!

    I'm sorry hon!! Enjoy your private lunch! The food will suck at the mothers lunch anyway....

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  • jdeats71jdeats71
    imagemichrocc:

    I'm so sorry.  That's awful.

    DH works at a company as an assistant to the president and, this year, she's asked him to go out and buy bouquets of flowers for all the mothers.  There are over 200 women working there.  Not only does this suck for DH (as he is aware of how painful Mother's Day is for me and how the both of us should be celebrating it, and that's aside from the fact that he has to, you know, buy and carry all these flowers) but I can't help but think of the women at his company who will be left out because they've had a miscarriage or pregnancy loss or are dealing with IF.  These women will have to stand there and watch all the "real mothers" receive flowers. 

    Also, his boss knows about my loss and is STILL putting him in charge of all of this. 

     

    I'm so sorry for your DH!  ugh....

    but you are so right - what about women who have had a loss or dealt with IF?  so unfair......

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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    I'm seriously shocked that any HR dept worth anything would allow this to happen.  It is just wrong on many levels and MD really has no business being celebrated in a business.  I'm sorry you have to deal wtih that.  I'd be tempted to send an annonymous letter to HR telling them that they're discriminating against employees who are not parents and being all around insensitive. 
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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    I'm sorry.  I can't believe they would do that, it just seems wrong to me, very excusive.
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  • Etta07Etta07 member

    I agree with pp it is discriminatory to people who don't have a take home baby and it doesn't belong in the work place it is something for families to celebrate in their own way because you never know people's situations.

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