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Daisy77
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DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05
Has anyone seen my husband?
Daisy77
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He's about 5' 11, 180 lbs, dark hair, blue eyes and is probably covered in grease and green paint. Anyone? No? Are you sure? Well, neither have I.
I replied in a post below that DH has been working 100+ hours a week. 6-7 days of 8am (sometimes earlier) to 1am. We own a trucking business and 2 out of our 3 dumptrucks weren't our company colors. So, DH and my brother have been taking them apart and painting them. I have lost count the number of weeks they have been working on them. DH even said that he way underestimated the time it would take. We also own a snowplowing business so he's busy in the winter as well (so it's not like this painting stuff could have been a full-time winter project).
I'm glad that DH is happy with what he is doing, he likes being his own boss. But I am e.x.h.a.u.s.t.e.d with it. In the past 4 years we have had many road trips to pick up new equipment for either business. We are never able to squeeze any fun or relaxation into these trips because we need to get back to get the kids or for a job that DH our trucks have been hired on to do. On top of driving one of the trucks, DH also maintains all of them. All of this is done at his parent's shop, which is 1/2 mile away from our place. It's done there because we don't have a shop. We don't even have a garage or a shed. Oh, there are plans for both but they'll never happen at this rate.
I'm glad that our business can keep me at home with the kids. But I think he is in way too deep. He is always looking to expand (when we're fine), he is even talking about adding another truck next year. :::sigh::: I just can't. He's rarely home the way it is and when he is he's exhausted. Date nights? Never. A weekend away? Laughable.
The thing that really got me down? On Mother's Day the kids and I are getting up super early (5-6am for me) to walk in a breast cancer walk for DH's godmother (aunt). It's her 10 year survival anniversary this year so the whole family is going to walk with her (some do every year). I'm happy to support her but there's a good chance I won't even see my mom on Sunday given the distance from our home to the walk and back to where my mom will be. To make things even better, DH won't be joining us.
I don't know if I'm looking for advice (he knows how I feel), support, encouragement, a different perspective, someone to tell me it will get better or what. When we dated and married, DH worked at a shop as a diesel technician and hated it. The lack of proper management, no level to advance to, etc. But we saw him. Awake. Alert. Walking among the living. Now I feel like he's working himself to enjoy...what? I fear by the time he's satisfied with things his life will have passed him by. Kids grown and gone. Me with my own activities/friends/life.
I know we need to talk about it, but I'm so tired of doing so. Besides, he's never awake for the conversation to happen, lol.
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05
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Re: Has anyone seen my husband?
He has had my brother over there helping him with the painting and reassembling. He had a buddy helping him with some of the mechanical stuff but this buddy has a hell of time showing up for work (yet he b*tches about not having money). We have drivers hired, but DH is reluctant to hire anyone else to work on the trucks. He is of firm belief that he spends more time teaching new guys how to fix this stuff than it would take him to do it himself. Plus, he's working in his parents shop and it's cozy over there right now...kind of a like a "too many chefs in the kitchen" thing. That problem would be solved if we built our own shop over here....
DD#1~8/17/96------DS~10/24/05