mn significance.....did you choose it after a living or deceased person?

newlywed26 · May 2010

My mom suggested her mn lol. I don't think it's a bad idea, but I always thought that mn's were after a deceased person like a grandmother? How did you choose your mn? I know there's no set rule. I'm just curious to see what you ladies did.

newlywed26 · May 2010

Correction: my mom suggested her first name as our dd's mn.

lovemytwoboys · May 2010

We did one of each, so obviously I don't have a strong preference one way or the other

David is after my Dad (who is living)

Riley is after my FIL (who passed away close to 15 years ago)

GatorMrs_Esq · May 2010

There's no set rule for middle names. I like the idea of using family names, however, so we decided on my mom's first name / grandmother's middle name. Both are still living.

jorae · May 2010

Used my Aunt's middle name and she is still alive. Want to use another aunt's middle name for this little one's mn, but DH says it's his turn to get a family name in there. Oh well. (I also used my mom's mn for part of DD's first name.)

ten1010 · May 2010

I think it's a personal preference.

*My* personal preference is to honor someone that's deceased. Unfortunately, I have plenty of names to choose from.

CourtneyRDH · May 2010

Both

Rose.9.6.03 · May 2010

I'm Jewish, so we followed Jewish tradition and only named the girls after deceased people (Evelyn's first name and Charlotte's middle name).

krissyh21 · May 2010

My FIL passed away when I was 4 months pregnant, so that is DS mn.

I know in the Jewish religion it is considered "bad luck" to name a person after someone who is living.

KaitySueWho · May 2010

all my neice's middle names have been after their grandmothers (who are still living but 1)

Depending on how many Kids Me and DH have we have talked about giving our children the middle names of my deceased Grandmother (Matilda *actually adore this name, may be a first name*) and his deceased G-Grandfather (Tess)

AutumnBride929 · May 2010

DS' mn is DH's fn. If we have a girl, depending on the fn we choose, I would like her mn to be the feminine form of my maiden name (Colette). I don't have a strong preference either way. Obviously, I don't think mn's have to be after a deceased person or after any person at all. Sometimes they're just names that sound good together, lol.

sunnyday016 · May 2010

DD's mn isn't after anyone-just a word that is very important to both DH and I

All the names I have in store for future kids' middle names are after people who are currently alive. Some are very old right now, but I sincerely hope they'll be alive then. If they're not, I'd still use the name.

shyatt · May 2010

I love the idea of using a family members name for middle names.

If we have a girl, middle name will most likely be Joyce (my deceased grandma) and for a boy mn will be Charles for sure as that is DH's mn as well as my dad's mn and FIL's name.

BizEB · May 2010

My boys are named after living relatives and my girl will be named after two deceased relatives. We just chose to honor relatives we loved, living or deceased. If we had had another girl, we would have used my mom's name as the middle (my mom is alive).

brookelynpaisley · May 2010

If we liked family names enough to use them, we'd use those of living relatives. I think it's more meaningful to name a child after someone you have a relationship with. Since neither of us has lost any grandparents (or other relatives, for that matter) in our life time (we each had two pass away before our birth), we would only name children after our living relatives.

MassageMomma2010 · May 2010

Levi I'm using as a play on my mn Lee. Marie is SIL's middle name she is still alive.

NaHoku · May 2010

DS's middle name is FIL's FN. DD's MN is IHO of my parents, but not their exact name - her MN is Cristina, my parents' names are Crisanto and Christine.

ETA: They are all living, btw.

nycitylove · May 2010

We're Jewish so we named ds after all 4 of our deceased grandfathers (his fn and mn in English and his fn and mn in Hebrew). This time we just picked a fn that we both like and the mn will be after a deceased family member.

lilygirl · May 2010

We chose a MN we liked. It's not after anyone in particular.

streamtrax41 · May 2010

Our LO's mn is Thomas, for my father who passed away a year and a half ago. If he were a girl, her mn would be Rose, which is the translation of my MIL's name (she is still living). I like the idea of family names and think that anyone you want to honor (living or not) is a great choice!

renafaith · May 2010

Several Scenarios...

My sister's kids middle names are after living people.
My family has a tradition of passing down the middle name to the oldest girl, so there's an overlap there
As far as my children will go (should we be blessed with any), the middle name for a boy will be DH's deceased father's name and for a girl it will be what my deceased grandmother suggested

Personally, I don't find it weird at all. You can name your child after whoever you want, living or deceased.

serwin08 · May 2010

We plan on using my Mother's mn or my mn for our girl and Dh's mn for our boy. (And we are all living). Imo when it comes to mn's your either honoring someone dead or alive, keeping a name in the family (tradition), or you just like it. Never heard of the person needing to be deceased in order to honor them.

bulldog_mama23 · May 2010

My DD's middle name is the same as mine and my mom's and we are both living. I did name my DD first name after my aunt who is deceased. If we have a boy this time, he will be named after relatives of DH's (first and middle) who have been deceased since the Civil War.

LadyXaverian · May 2010

My MN and my sister's MN were chosen to honor relatives who were still living.

My husband's MN was chosen to honor an uncle who died in WWII.

The MNs we currently have chosen for our phantom children are to honor relatives who are deceased, although other MNs that were in the running were to honor relatives who are still living.

So the SHORT ANSWER is that either way is fine and there is no rule.

britab · May 2010

My middle name is Ann, my mom's middle name is ClaireAnn and she had an aunt Anna. I want to incorporate Ann into a daughter's middle name someday.

Camok87 · May 2010

If/when we have a boy, the middle name will be after my DH, Ashley. This was important for him and I don't mind it at all. As for girls, we won't use a family name.

Mama_SAS · May 2010

Neither. My family doesn't do mns and DH's does. We just did a name we liked.

anna7602 · May 2010

Neither for DD. DD's mn is after the patron saint of my parents' home country. Since she has DH's last name, it was a nice way to include my heritage in her name.

If we had had a boy, the mn was going to be after DH's deceased grandfather because it is a name that has been carried down through the generations (but that I didn't want to use as a first name).

monimonimoni · May 2010

We won't be naming her after any family member, living or dead. Interesting to see how many people do though.

And Ketch · May 2010

Our mn is from a friend of mine who passed when we were 16.

SeasideBride06 · May 2010

DD's middle name is my name. If we have another girl, her middle name will be the same as DH (Ray = Rae.)

Of course, we do have a boy name picked out and it is just a name we like...not after anyone.

msmerymac · May 2010

I personally don't want to use my mother's names (Susan Nannette) or FMIL (Mary), but there are lots of deceased relatives I would use. Go with whatever you like.

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