Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Dobermonster
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Re: Stripper Names!
Jade
Lacey
Misty
Missy
Lexie
Bambi (I know a 40 year old woman with this name...
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Barbie (I actually know a 22 year old girl with this name - what were her parents thinking???)
Holly (used to be kind of a common 80's name, but seems more like a stripper name to me now)
Angel
Heaven/Nevaeh
Destiny
Candy
Asia
Amber
Jasmine
Ginger
Crystal/Krystal
Chastity (ironic, I know)
Jayla
Brittany (another 80's name that seems to evoke stripper-esque visions from me for some reason???)
I agree with these totally!
Starr/Star/Starla
Destiny
Pixie
Nevaeh
Ravyn (from my last post, ick)
Diamond
Kandi
Crystal
Shauntelle
I don't agree with OP on Savannah, though.
DD 8/28/2014
DD 5/24/2016, stillborn at 40 weeks
Angel
Destynie
Summer
Autumn
Layla
Misty
Candy
Trixie
Cinnamon is the ulitmate stripper name to me.
I totally disagree with the OP about Savannah though.
Haven't read the other responses, so sorry if there are repeats:
Amber, Candy, Stella, Starr, Sugar, Bambi, Barbie, Trixie, Lexi
Desiree
Paradise
...Skittles... (personal experience)
Angel (You know "my horns hold up my halo")
Coley ( My SO's x was a stripper named Nicole that went by that)
Muffy
Vixen
Brandelynn (Brand-uh-lynn) this was my sister's baby name for about 3 months..luckily now she is undecided
Disagree with OP on Savannah.. seems like a very nice name too me.
Lacy (when I was little, my friend's mom was named Lacy and she was a stripper so that association stuck with me)
Amber
Bambie
Candi
Totally disagree about Savannah.
Glad lots of us disagree with the OP on Savannah....
I think its a pretty, southern, "good girl" name. I can think of far more names that scream stripper.
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Ouch. My niece is Autumn and my SD is Layla. Anyway, for me any names that end in i, any made-up names and any names spelled wrong.
TTC#1 Chart
TTC#2 Chart
IUI #1 - #4 (repronex trigger) = BFN
IUI#5 on 10/28/2008 ** BFP 11/10/08 ** EDD 07/21/09 *** It's a GIRL (07/14/09)
med/treatment free BFP 06/28/10. EDD 03/05/11 *** GIRL #2 (02/23/11)
beta#1 @ 17dpo = 1296 .... beta#2 @ 19dpo = 3034
it's the Bug and Baby Belle!
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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I wanted to use Roxanne, but DH and several friends thought it was a "stripper name".
I would have stuck to my guns on principle, but decided to use it as a middle name for a girl
Jade
Blaze (BFF's cousins kid is named this)
Mercedes
Porsha
Jewel
Tanya
Kandi
I don't think Autumn and Layla are stripper names at all. (And I know you didn't mean to offend anyone.) I was going to say I disagreed with these and Savannah. They don't sound stripperish to me. Most of the other names mentioned I agreed with. No one mentioned Mary Jane yet, definitely stripper sounding to me!
My husband had a student whose cousin was named Crystal--not bad by itself. Middle name was...
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Chandelier
That is a stripper name if I've EVER heard one!
=( Brittany isn't a stripper name, but a cheerleader name!
I hate my name =(
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