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Dividing chores?
If you and your DH both work full time, how do you divide up child care and housework duties? Right now, DH and I have really informal way of doing things and it's just not working. I'd love to hear how other people share the work load. Thanks!
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We're in the same boat! We're really informal about things, too although I tend to clean bathrooms more and he always takes out the garbage
I've been thinking about making a cleaning schedule, especially with #2 on the way!, as i think that'll help us stay on top of things.
I can't wait to hear what everyone else does, though!
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DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
DH does daycare drop-off and I do pick-up. In the mornings I get DS up and ready while DH makes our lunches. If we're running late DH finishes getting DS ready so I can get to work on time. This makes DH late, so he gets home from work later than DS and me. On weekends DH and I talk about what we want to do that weekend, and lay out a rough timeline and who will have DS. If we don't do this, DH ends up going off and doing what he wants and I have DS all day and get nothing accomplished.
For household stuff, we both have things we normally do and we take turns with the other stuff. And we have a cleaning service and lawn service (love them!). I feed the cats, do the laundry, shopping for clothes and gifts, travel planning, etc. DH cleans the litter box, maintains the cars, does most of the remaining yard work, pays the bills, etc. We take turns buying groceries and planning meals for the week, and washing dishes. We both clean up the clutter around the house. The chores we don't mind doing are the ones we always do, and the ones that get tedious we take turns doing. That's how we divided it up. We feel like the division of labor is about equal.
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We're very informally divided as well. If one of us decides to do something, it gets done, otherwise it does not.
Generally: I do meal planning, cook dinner (most of the time), and prep for the following day (lunches/coffee pot/DS's clothes/etc). He does the dishes, trash, and sometimes cooks dinner. Laundry and house cleaning - either one of us might do when we realize it needs to be done. We go grocery shopping together.
ETA: As far as feeding/changing/bathing/other baby duties, whoever isn't otherwise busy does that.
Our division is informal, but over time has become very developed and routine.
We have a housecleaner, so we don't worry about housework. I straighten up most nights, it takes all of 4 minutes. I do the laundry. He does the yardwork. We grocery shop together on the weekends. We bathe DS together, because we like it. He cooks dinner while I put DS to bed, and we both clean the kitchen together after dinner. We split drop offs and pick ups. I pay the bills. He takes the trash around every week. He gets DS's breakfast in the morning and unloads the dishwasher because it takes me longer to get dressed. That's about all I can think of right now.
What's going on with you division of labor right now? I think posters could give you concrete ideas if you have us more information.
Same here, our division is informal..no set schedule or anything.
DH does 95% of the cooking. (I am not a cooker and he LOVES it). He does trash and majority of litter box cleaning, he pays the majority of the bills. I bathe DD, wash/prep bottles, pack her diaper bag, do her laundry/put away. We split drop off/pick up for daycare. We grocery shop together and either split the bill or trade off every other trip to the store. I shop and buy most, if not all of DD's clothes and toys. That's all I can think of right now, it seems to work for us..now.