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OMG are you serious?????

jen629jen629 member
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So yesterday I sent my sister that song "I would die for that" on her FB and asked her if she got it...she has been trying to be so supportive  and was saying I love you and I am here for you

so today my Aunt decides to comment on the  post I sent my sister and this is what she said

"Look at all the fun you're having trying!!! Seriously, In GOD's time not yours!!! I've known tons of people trying and they gave up and adopted, and then in a couple of months got preg!! It deffinately has a LOT to do with RELAXING and not trying so hard!!! I'm here for you and alwyas have been!!! "

I don't even have the word's........

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  • happyfarmwifehappyfarmwife
    Some people just don't get it.
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

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  • theprincessPATtheprincessPAT

    Wow.  Just wow.  Indifferent I'm sorry Jen.

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  • companion cubecompanion cube member
    Ugh living your life in two week blocks of excruciating waiting while all the while in the back of your mind thinking of what "should have been" is not my idea of fun. I'm sorry hun. ((hugs))
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  • jay-teajay-tea
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

    This.

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  • jen629jen629 member
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

    Yes  I really really want to post something rude 
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  • jen629jen629 member
    FWIW  it is NOT fun right now.......I hate seeing my DH sad.....I hate crying everyday....I would love to adopt but I want to know what it is like to BE pregnant and HAVE my own baby...I don't like being sore after FWP ...
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  • surfergirlkonasurfergirlkona
    I have a page you can send her if you want.  Go to my blog and on the right side tool bar there is an etiquette section.  Copy, paste, and send. ;)
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  • rjl07rjl07
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

    Exactly the words I was searching for...

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  • ihearteddiebooihearteddieboo
    imagejen629:
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

    Yes  I really really want to post something rude 

    How about, "Thanks Aunt ___ for the unsolicited advice.  It is much appreciated." 

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  • celestej619celestej619
    Seriously? Fun? Wow, she has no clue!
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  • ksyknelvr73ksyknelvr73 member
    That is beyond annoying. I would really delete the comment. I'd also be tempted to say something rude back.
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  • ksiebert1974ksiebert1974
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

     

    This...10000x.   Cuz really, do you have any idea how much FUN all this is?  Obviously not a$$hole.

     

    It's understandable to not get something but for God's sake, don't minimize it.

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  • madladybridemadladybride member
    I was thinking more of a throat punch, but, well. Fvck you would work, too. I am so sorry you have to deal with this.
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  • akminimeakminime
    Did you tell her that the most fun part is being super sad every month when you aren't pregnant?  Or maybe the heartbreak you feel when you see other pregnant women and wish it was you?  I hate your aunt for you.
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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    I'm so sorry Jen.  That's just horrible.  I would send something back that's really rude.
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  • jen629jen629 member
    imageKristysRedBarn:
    I'm so sorry Jen.  That's just horrible.  I would send something back that's really rude.
    I know I just called my mom ( her sister)  which led to more crying ..my aunt always believes it is Gods plan ..while I do believe in that to an extent it doesn't make me feel better that you posted that publicly for everyone to see and are making me feel like a failure...she could've just  sent me a PM or something
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  • bbhalphenbbhalphen member

    Indifferent She sounds awful.

    Try sending her this.

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  • jen629jen629 member
    imagebbhalphen:

    Indifferent She sounds awful.

    Try sending her this.

    Yes
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  • SonadoraSonadora member
    This sounds like the "friend" who told me the really fun part was trying in response to me telling her I'd had a m/c.
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  • jen629jen629 member
    imageSonadora:
    This sounds like the "friend" who told me the really fun part was trying in response to me telling her I'd had a m/c.
    wtf?...people just don't know when to stfu!..I am sorry she said that to you
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  • jms2005jms2005

    imageakminime:
    Did you tell her that the most fun part is being super sad every month when you aren't pregnant?  Or maybe the heartbreak you feel when you see other pregnant women and wish it was you?  I hate your aunt for you.

    This.

    I am furious. How dare she do that to you. Angry

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  • AmberZ2beAmberZ2be
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

    Yes. You always have the right words! :)

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  • csquared425csquared425

    I've heard that so many times. Just relax, everything will be fine.

    Fvck you it will be fine. I'm perfectly relaxed. Angry

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  • firefightersgalfirefightersgal member
    I hear that same BS all.the.time.  
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  • csquared425csquared425

    imagesurfergirlkona:
    I have a page you can send her if you want.  Go to my blog and on the right side tool bar there is an etiquette section.  Copy, paste, and send. ;)

    Thanks for sharing. That was great.

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  • jen629jen629 member
    imagecsquared426:

    imagesurfergirlkona:
    I have a page you can send her if you want.  Go to my blog and on the right side tool bar there is an etiquette section.  Copy, paste, and send. ;)

    Thanks for sharing. That was great.

    Yes
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  • betsy_griffbetsy_griff
    Wha? STFU, auntie!
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  • mrsmorris1mrsmorris1
    I'm sorry you have to listen to (read) that crap.  I've been told the same sh*t and people just don't get how not comforting it is.  I would be so tempted to reply with something super snarky. 
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  • SweetieD21SweetieD21 member
    I swear, I'm going to punch the next person in the face that says this to me.  Really, that's your answer for infertility?!
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  • mrstyson03mrstyson03
    For one thing, I can't believe she posted something like that on fb! Besides the fact that it's such a ridiculously stupid and inconsiderate thing to say, it's not something that should be posted on fb. Ugh. Sorry you had to deal with that. Maybe deleting the comment will cause her to take the hint, although somehow I doubt it.
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  • BeachColeBeachCole
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

    THIS.

    I'm sorry Jen. :-( 

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  • jdeats71jdeats71
    imageambrandau2:

    I have the words:

    Fvck You.

    ditto - these are my words.

    I'm so sorry Jen.

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  • Brady1*Brady1*
    Aw Jen I'm so sorry some people seriously don't get it! 
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  • Olive44Olive44 member
     Indifferent Wow people have no clue.  I can't even believe someone would say that!
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  • erinb1025erinb1025
    that sucks, I'm sorry she said that to youSad
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  • kazpinkazpin
    You could offer her a couple of sharp pointy metal sticks to shove in her eyes.... Then ask how she is doing.... ok that is a bit violent but my first reaction when I read this.....
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  • sunshinenvasunshinenva
    I have some words, but I will keep them to myself and just say I am so sorry you have to endure this.
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  • TiannaRoseTiannaRose
    I think I just puked in my mouth a little bit
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  • spincat9spincat9 member
    imagebbhalphen:

    Indifferent She sounds awful.

    Try sending her this.

    That was amazing - I'm tearing up reading it - it says everything I've been struggling with for 3 months.

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