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2nd Trimester
Push Presents...
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Re: Push Presents...
This - I still don't know WTH it is! I'm guessing a present after delivery?! I'm not BF - I want a beer!
Asking for a Mother's Day present IS ridiculous if your baby isn't even born.
However I think a "push present" is totally appropriate if that's a gesture your partner wants to make. I mean it's not like you have to ask for a brand-new Mercedes to be in your driveway when you get home, but a nice piece of jewelry maybe with the baby's birthstone or something that reminds you of the day your child was born will be with you forever. I feel we should be appreciated for giving up our bodies mentally and physically for 9mths, and for the months after!
I think it should be something sentimental...any woman that says that the idea is ridiculous or feels awkward about mentioning something to your husbands etc. has just been brainwashed by them and it's just guys being lazy as usual.
I guess it depends on the kind of relationship you have with your partner...my fiancee asked me what I wanted when our baby girl is born BEFORE I ever mentioned the "push present" concept - guess he pays attention!!
I seem to be in the major minority here, but i don't think it's THAT ludicrous of a concept!! i would never flat out ask for one, but i sure wouldn't be upset if one if DH's friends turned him on to it, or he read about it somewhere and decided to spring for something
I'm gonna be putting my life at risk (you never know what can go wrong during any type of delivery!), and you get gifts for someone who successfully came out of surgery, right?
I might get flak for this, but I think it's a nice, modern idea that appreciates the trauma that a woman went through for her family...like I said, I personally wouldn't ASK for it, but I'd like for him to like the idea on his own.
Would any of you ladies who balked at the idea honestly turn it away if your DH surprised you with something after you delivered?
This is the first time I've ever heard of it!
I never got one and I don't expect one in the future either. Well, unless you count a box of chocolates or an outfit for the baby a push present!
lmao.
I didn't even know what a Push Present was until I read about it on-line and shared the post with DH ... he said he already knew what it was after a recent episode of "According to Jim." Though I think the idea can be kinda sweet, I'd much rather that money be spent on baby stuff or bills (since I'll be on maternity leave for a while). When I researched the term when we were talking, he did raise an eyebrow to the mention of a 'mother's ring' ... another band around the engagement ring. I don't want anything though ... just a beer!
I didn't even know what a Push Present was until I read about it on-line and shared the post with DH ... he said he already knew what it was after a recent episode of "According to Jim." Though I think the idea can be kinda sweet, I'd much rather that money be spent on baby stuff or bills (since I'll be on maternity leave for a while). When I researched the term when we were talking, he did raise an eyebrow to the mention of a 'mother's ring' ... another band around the engagement ring. I don't want anything though ... just a beer!
Hmm, yeah no.
I did ask DH to go grab me a Diet Coke and a Milky Way out of the vending machine a few hours after DD was born though
We didn't celebrate Mother's Day last year, and I'm glad we waited. It's so much more special to celebrate my first Mother's Day this year with my adorable DD! I'm not expecting anything for that though either, except maybe being able to sleep in!
A push present? I had never even heard of this until this morning!
I would like to think the baby actually being out would be present enough. I'm sure after labor, whatever I want at the time (sleep or food most likely) won't be too much to ask. Most food places deliver or there's Wal Mart. And those are 24 hours!
my DH ( I had to google what the heck DH meant
) told me what it was and like a day after I saw it on here.
We used a family stone for my engagement ring and we have the ring that it originally came from. He mentioned, what if he gets baby Frankie's birthstone, which is also mine put into the ring? I like the idea its sweet BUT it's platinum or white gold and I'm SO not into that. I said what? I don't get to choose my gift?! ha ha I mean okay i'll take the ring but can it get dipped in yellow gold? Otherwise it'll probably just sit in my jewelry box.
If it were my choice I'd ask for a Tiffany's key necklace. but i figure we'll talk about it during 3rd Trimester.
Also as a kid my dad always got me, 'Little Mother's Day gifts,' bc someday I'd be a mother. Id get candy, a sweater I'd want or something like that. So ofcourse now that i'm expecting I'll get a gift. DH ordered a Petuna PB diaper bag & stroller clips as my gift. Hooray who doesn't love presents?!
Well I don't know what everyone is so against it for, why not give a little love and affection for carrying and delivering his baby?! He heard about it on a TV show and I also took advantage of the "babymoon." It's all part of the experience and I've enjoyed sharing these moments with him!
Neither my DF nor myself knows what a push present is, or cares. I asked her about it and she said having the baby is "push present" enough for her. She has an almost-8-yr-old and I have four kids ranging from not-quite-18 to 7.
I'm surprised that a woman - especially a mom - doesn't feel that a mom-to-be should celebrate Mother's Day as a mother. From the time they learn they're pregnant until the end of their lives, most women are doing what needs done to take care of their child(ren). Just because her baby hasn't been born yet doesn't mean she isn't suffering and sacrificing to care for it, or that the baby isn't her child yet. She is a mom from the moment she starts nurturing and loving her child. That's MY opinion, anyway. And I'm not a mom. Now fathers-to-be, they are only marginally dads before the baby's born. Saving money, buying things, and helping to decorate the nursery don't compare to giving up foods you love and other toxins, throwing up and bearing all the other symptoms, and everything else pregnant women do that men can't. You could argue against sperm-doners and other dads that aren't yet caring for their kid celebrating Father's Day.
i haven't mentioned a push present to DH, cuz i'm the one that controls our money right now, so he couldn't get me anything without me handing over the cash first - which is NOT going to happen til we get our savings back up to where we want it.
tell you what, though. what i really want is a TUNA SUB! he wouldn't let me get one a couple weeks ago, cuz he's all paranoid about the mercury level. i told him my doctors both said ONE SUB is okay. he still said no.
but actually. honestly. i HAVE mentioned a mother's day present. but only because my due date is the day before mother's day. and i feel that would make a present appropriate.
It sounds so silly to me! Isn't the baby a gift to both?
I think this whole concept is ridiculously absurd!
YOUR BABY IS YOUR PUSH PRESENT!!!
DITTO this!!!! This is just insane. My baby girl will be the best present I could possibly get. I think some women don't realize how lucky they are that they are even able to get pregnant when there are those who are not fortunate enough to be able to carry a baby. But, to each his own, I guess.
While it would have been nice to be acknowledged just a *tad* for having grown and harvested a human life...no I did not get anything and didn't expect to. Let's face it they are men and men are not romantic or thoughtful..well you know what I mean. My sister is more thoughtful than he is, she is the only one who wished me a HMD last year and this year. Again, secretly would have been nice but if you don't expect much you can't be let down!