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A nice perspective (finally!)

amajaneamajane member
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So I took Marley to a birthday party today where all the kids were between 1-3 years old. Normally, I would detest these kind of events as I hate to be reminded of all the things that Marley can't do that kids half her age are doing.

But it wasn't so bad. Sure, 1 year olds were literally running circles around her. But instead of mourning what I don't have, it made me just appreciate Marley. All I can say about her is that she is different. Very different. But that is not a bad thing- actually kind of cool and interesting. I had no interest in comparing her to other kids and actually felt relieved that I didn't have to.

Anyway, I wasn't in such a positive state a year ago. The grief was just so enormous.  

It just feels good to be past that; I'd never thought I'd see the day. 

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  • CrazycrustaceanCrazycrustacean
    Huge kudos to you!!! Im glad you & Marley were able to enjoy yourselves. BTW, she's adorable. 
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  • autumngirlautumngirl
    How wonderful that you have come to a point of acceptance. I think that is a major hurdle for every special needs parent.
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  • nanakwaznanakwaz
    That is so nice to hear!  Good for you!  ....and Marley!  :)
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  • jptimestwojptimestwo

    I am so happy for you.  I am also happy for me.....knowing that I, too, will get there.  I usually am good about just being happy for what Riley can DO, and not focusing on what he CAN'T DO....but sometimes it is just too hard. 

    CONGRATULATIONS!

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  • JenGKJenGK

    So happy to hear this!  Having been smacked in the face today with differences, this is especially meaningful right now.  I look forward to being in this spot someday soon.

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  • duchess0727duchess0727
    That is wonderful to hear.  Thanks for sharing!
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  • Pierce3252Pierce3252
    Wow amajane!  that is so great you guys are doing so well!  I remember not so long ago whining in a post of yours I think about going to little kids parties and struggling seeing other kids.  I'm glad you are doing so much better and not comparing.  Its so hard not to get into comparison mode for me! 
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