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lost a twin... devastated
I'm 10w 6d pregnant. We had our first visit with our regular OB on thursday (have only been treated by RE thus far) and during the ultrasound the doctor found that while one baby was exactly where he/she should be in terms of size, the other was completely still and had no heartbeat. Doctor determined that baby passed away at 8w 6 d. At our last visit with RE (8w 4d), both babies had heartbeats and were growing at same rate. I'm in shock and just so, so sad. I keep reminding myself that I have one perfect little baby growing in there, and I should be happy.
We'd been ttc for 2 1/2 years before having success with IVF on the first try; we were beyond thrilled that we would be having two babies this year. We can't conceive naturally so this was really our only shot. I keep looking at the ultrasound image the doctor gave us of the healthy twin, and it gives me hope, but still... my heart is broken and I can't stop thinking of the poor twin that didn't make it.
My OB's referred us to a perinatalogist (sp?) and now we need to get all sorts of testing done. I'm scared that we're going to find something wrong with our baby and don't know what to do.This discussion has been closed.
Re: lost a twin... devastated
I'm so sorry.
The exact same thing happened to me last year. After my IVF cycle I saw two perfect heartbeats at 8.5 weeks... and 2 weeks later one had died
. I was terrified for my other baby.
The good news is that I have a BEAUTIFUL daughter now. The twin was reabsorbed by my body without incident - no bleeding or cramping. It was very bittersweet and emotional. I still have days where I look at Kate and wonder about what it would have been like to have twins. But mostly the emotional pain has been softened by how amazing my daughter is.
Take care of yourself! The next few weeks are scary but my Peri was quick to tell me that in the VAST MAJORITY of these cases, the singleton will continue perfectly normal. He was "happy" (as happy as you can be) that it happened at 10 weeks and not at 15 or 20 weeks because it gets more dangerous as the pregnancy progresses.
Hugs to you. Take care of yourself!
We love and miss you Jillian (18w) and Peanut (6w). Welcome to our TAC miracle Jacob!
from the bottom of my heart, thank you all SO MUCH for thinking of me and baby. the past few days have been a blur... if not for the support of our friends (and you all!), my husband and i wouldn't know what to do with ourselves.
please keep us in your thoughts and prayers... we have every reason to believe our little survivor will keep on growing in there!
love and best wishes to all of you!!!
Hey there. I lost one of my twins, too. It's such a weird feeling - grieving for one and celebrating another. For me, it hasn't gotten any easier, either. No offense to anyone, but I hate anyone who is pregnant with twins right now. It's just not fair. I wanted that other baby! Now, I have 2 babies in Heaven, and I'm hoping for this LO to make it to Earth. We go for our first u/s since our loss on Wednesday, and a little piece of me is still hoping that there is another one in there (even though I know there isn't).
If you ever need anything, feel free to PM me. I promise I'm not always this depressing!