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bellaleanne · April 2010

I'm about to start trying to get LO on a schedule, and as part of that, I want to space out night feedings. He wakes really frequently and always wants to nurse, but of course I want to help him learn to soothe himself back to sleep.

But how do you let your baby do that when they can SEE you from their crib when they wake up? How does a baby grow to understand that you'll pick them up sometimes at night, and not other times, when they're in the same room with you?

I don't have the option to move him anywhere else, so this is a big issue for us. any insights?

jhenry1204 · April 2010

At first it REALLY bothered me. It wasn't so much her seeing me, it was me seeing her. To me, she looked so sad and not happy (actually the faces I'd get in the middleof the night made me feel so bad I stopped swaddling, it was as if she were saying "Mom? I can't move, why won't you help me?").

Now? I have no issues. I let her play in her crib laughing and giggling extra time so I can get in an extra 15 minute nap Embarrassed . It's one of those things that gets easier each time.

Tonya_G · April 2010

I shared a room with DS the first year and a half of his life. He was a pretty easy going baby though, and I got lucky with him. He learned to self soothe around 4mo, and didn't have a whole lot of night wakings. DD only wakes once, usually. She sleeps in her own bedroom to start the night, but joins us in our bed when she wakes. I wish I had some answers for you. The only answer I really have is, eventually, she'll grow out of it and STTN and all will be well. I just can't tell you when that will be.